So I'm only 18, right.
So, what if I were to fall for a guy who lived a really far away distance from me?
What do I do?
I have a job, and I still live at home. Do you think it would be a good thing to go visit him, orrrrr?

help please.

the worst thing would be for you to pay for a ticket to go to a strange place with no backup to see a person for the first time. have them come to you. as a guy I would rather go see a woman and let it be on her "turf" so that she has all the protection imaginable. especaly given your surcomstance I would insist on it.

another thing. if your hesitent there is a reason. if it sounds like it could bo bad then dont think of fairy tales and hope for a happy ever after. think of axe murderers and your parrents never knowing what realy happend to you.

hmm, ok sorry not trying to be all doom and gloom but yes Im trying to say what I would tell my sister. DONT TRUST UNTELL YOU HAVE GOOD REASON TO.

if you ment like to move to him and live together..... take that slow as well. perhaps he can move to you? moving away from your support group is hard if things get rocky or just flat dont work who are you going to turn to for emotional help. and dont say the phone its not as effective as a sholder to cry on and it cannot hug you back.

See I do 'trust' him....but like you said, all that's running through my mind is the axe murders and mysteriously disappearing ><
Maybe I'm just really paranoid....cuz the guys, honestly wouldnt hurt a fly, but I agree. Have him come here...
good idea thank you =]

I'd be VERY leery of traveling anywhere to meet someone you've only met online, especially at your age. There's no telling what kind of nefarious schemes could be in store for you on the part of the person you're going to go see.

NEFARIOUS SCHEME

I love those words, I get to use it so little and I passed by a perfect oportunity!!!

very true.
But he's my age as well....
so...i just dont know....I'll give it some time, and see how things work out...
thanks =]

XD right on

I'd take things slowly. Continue to talk to the person online and try to get as much of an idea of what the person's about before planning any trips to anywhere. And -if and when you DO decide to go- leave information NOT ONLY pertaining to where you're going, but also to the person you're going to go meet.

living in arizona I tell my female friends to pack a gun and have me or someone they trust hang out tell the all clear sign is given. like when meeting at a coffee shop I hang out at another table tell she nods ok to me then i go. never had to deal with the alternitive. and a good phone call or text after a few hours is standard as well. cannot trust anyone blindely these days. sadly.

Why can't he visit you? It's the gentleman thing to do, you know.

very true as well.
We've been talking, though, for about 3 months, phone email, Im everything. So it's a pretty close relationship already.
But again, I think advising him to come to me would be best =]

Yes it is lol.
And he doesnt have a job or anything, but he has the money....