Well about a year ago my gf cheated on me with my ex bestfriend and i just found out a month ago she said that she was mad at me and we were fighting that night, well i feel asleep cuz i was drinking and pass out on the couch in the living room later on the night her n my ex bf were alone together and he starting telling her she was pretty and all that bull**** so she decides to give him head and she did stop after a minute she said and felt bad after that, she did this while i was only like 10 feet away. she never told untill my other friend told me she dinied it at first but then told me everything. im hurt so much by this becuase we have been together for 5 years now and we been through alot and im a very forgiving person and just trying to make sense of all this right now. I belive that she is sorry and remorseful about the whole thing. I know were all not perfect and try to learn from our mistakes. Im asking myself should i give her a chance so we could try to fix things and try to start new, we also have a wonderfull little 4 year old girl who just by looking at her i can get some sort of peace when im around her. I need some advice and probaly someone whos been through the same thing and can explain how they handle it. Should i leave or stay please help. thank you i look foward to some great reponse

You are still going to have to get through the hurt and depressed stage no matter what you decide about the relationship. Maybe you should just allow yourself time to do that and THEN try to figure the rest out...rarely does anyone make good decision when they are upset.

It happened just once? A year ago? Y'all were drinking? She didn't complete the deed?
Depends if you can forgive her. But if you choose to stay you have to at least drop it!

I couldnt stay......and both would be gone from my life.

counseling...please let us know what the shrink advises!!

the trust is broken by both of them i would leave..arent you worried that every time you two argue she's gonna blow someone,naw my friend she blew him because she wanted to ,and she made the argument her excuse,as for your friend..well he sucks too..and has no respect for your friendship..definitely not the type of people i would want in my life..
..its been a year and it still bothers you,you two could try counseling,its easy to forgive,hard to forget,but given that,even tho you forgive someone doesnt mean you have to stay..personally i would have to leave because it would bother me as long as i was with that person ...jmo

Is this the same story you just posted a day or two ago? Why start a new thread?

http://mingle2.com/topic/show/216531

thread lightly be seeing you

"When someone shows you who he/she is, believe them the first time." (Maya Angelou, I believe) In other words, your gf has shown you that she's scum. Not only did she cheat on you, but she did it for no real reason AND just a few feet from you WITH your best friend. So to me, it's a no-brainer. Could you really trust someone so spiteful, petty, and slutty? Someone who truly loves you might get mad and storm off into another room to sulk. But someone who loves you doesn't betray your trust and your love so immaturely.

Write her off, forgive her for your sake, and learn to trust again with someone new.

Don't think I'd stay, trust was broken by both, forgiveness would take a lot of time.

Check out the site: www.survivinginfidelity.com

yOU WHERE WITH HIM FOR 5 YEARS BUT WAS HE WITH YOU. lOVE DOSE NOT DO SOMETHING TO HURT THE OTHER PERSON. nOW RATHER IT WAS A BJ for a few seconds or for a hour, the bottom line is both of them crossed the line. Now you can forgive both of them if you want, it's on you. However donot use your child as a way of trying to hold on to someone who really dose not want to be with you.

I have dealt with the same issue, before. It took me some time to get over the hurt. However I did not stay in the relationship. Whatever you do. Do it because you LOVE him. Now once you forgive him and take him back, if you decided that, you can never bring it up again in any shape form or fashion. If you do you really never forgave him in the first place!

interesting point!