tell me the truth is it possible to have a strong relationship when you have a job like mine. (always travaling) and if so what would be the key to making it work? i have had no luck yet!!!!

She's got to be on the road with you.

that is not possible or an option the only race we are allowed to have wifes or girlfriends at is at that persons home track. for example i live in washington now so mine would be the seattle race.

I find this rather odd....but....no one could keep them from buying a ticket and "being there".....only other option is to find a free spirited person that wouldn't mind you being gone all of the time.

no you are right they could fly to city we are racing in that week but they would not be allowed in the pits or the hospitality area. they would be treated like spectators and i would lose my job

Does your job also dictate who you spend your off-hours time with?

As long as you make the effort to be sure the time you do have together is special, I think that having a guy on the road would be alright. There's always phone and email to communicate while you are gone.

absolutely

I agree....

your burnt bud

Why are you asking us?

Ask yourself that question and then find someone that is committed also -- and who has a strong mind and independent personality.

If either of you have suspicious or needy personalities then this type of dynamic will not work.

I've had one situation work (like this), and one that didn't. The common denominators -- for success or failure -- were the guys. One was balanced and loyal; the other was insecure, needy, and childish.

Good luck but you are better off posing the question to yourself AND to the person who you wish to date.

I posted an earlier comment and the guy I referred to who was childish and insecure gave this same excuse when he was on the road. I found out he had another girl by his side and I got the "no wives or girlfriends" allowed line. I offered to buy and ticket to his show, and stay near-by, but he had another list of excuses as to why that was not possible. He was just lying about everything.

Hmmmm ....

Travel is tough on relationships but if you're committed to one another and she understands from the beginning the situation, it shouldn't be a problem. Lots of people travel for work, if you care about someone and are going into the relationship with your eyes open, it should work just fine. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Sometimes that's quite true. It makes the time you spend together more precious.

the element of surprise.

every time you come home damnit you'd better be welcomed like you've been off to war. :)

and take her with you once in a while. show her whats up on these trips and make it known that she's always welcome to come along.

its all about trust.

Travel is tough but it can be done. It just depends on the people involved. You absolutely Must keep it fresh, new. Always. Don't just fall in love, stay in love. It IS something that you do, not just say. I could give all the little things that matter to a woman and to a man but there are too many to mention. Some would be, leave her notes by the coffee pot, in her lunch bag, on the bathroom mirror (in lipstick). I always put notes in my late husband's lunch and he was always leaving them for me by the coffee pot. Do as Much as you can, together. Even if you are working on a car, have her be your flashlight shiner. Share her hobbies and interests as well. Date her. Always date her. Even if it is just popcorn and a movie vegged out on the floor, or a couple of steaks on the grill that YOU got and planned for so she didn't have to think about it. Light up when you see her, every time.

At my husband's visitation, someone came and told me that "we were the epidemy of married love". That is truly one of the nicest things ever said to me.

I think it could be great!

I could hang out with my girlfreinds
Spend $$$ like a fool
Have a man on the side

Glorious!!!

You take her with you, get a real nice hotel and give her your credit card......

My partner is a truck driver and he is gone for long periods of times, sometimes. (although this is getting much better now)

He was gone for about 7 weeks once, and now it is about 10 days or so...sometimes companies let the driver have a rider in the truck, sometimes they don't.

I am an independent person and so is he, however, it is all about trust. I can call him anytime...day or night...and he can call me. Even then, you have to have the trust. There can be no "funny" excuses.

I think that communication is the key. There can be no lapse in the communication.

When he comes home, we have a 'routine' of sorts...things change for both of us. He has to change his routine and I have to change mine...it is a different type of life style to be sure...

why can't she be in the stands? that doesn't even sound right that she can't...

What kind of job is "always travaling" exactly?

I am not sure Jack...but this could be the theme song for this thread...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaHDi4S189o

I love to go a-wandering,
Along the mountain track,
And as I go, I love to sing,
My knapsack on my back.
Chorus:
Val-deri,Val-dera,
Val-deri,
Val-dera-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha
Val-deri,Val-dera.
My knapsack on my back.