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Topic: how do you really get over on ex?
Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sat 07/04/09 01:20 AM
How do you get over someone that you've loved so much you know things will never work out so it had to end.How do you deal with seeing them with someone else and not have it hurt like hell while you are still alone? I was told once by an ex I was with for 13 years... I will never forget how it helped me to get over him... I asked him how he was getting over me so easily after all the time we'd spent together, and he said... "I just put one foot in front of the other... and keep walking... awwww

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Sat 07/04/09 01:52 AM
out of sight/ out of mind usually works -- move somewhere else..different city, state, continent roko Isn't that running? Why not just stay where you are and deal with it? They're an ex for a reason, you can move on in the same state or city...

InMyMemory Joined Sun 11/16/08 Posts: 54	Sat 07/04/09 01:57 AM
It's so hard to get over. It's been 2 years since my first girlfriend (who I was with for 2 years as well), and I always thought she was "the one". I regret breaking up with her, but she has moved on and I will never have her back. So I have to move on, no matter how much I love her. And it sucks...It must take a long *** time to move on from someone really special. At least it does for me. And it does hurt. I guess the best part is that I like myself enough, and I have my kitten, friends, school and whatnot to keep my mind and self busy, occupied and relatively happy :) Best of luck

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sat 07/04/09 02:06 AM
It's so hard to get over. It's been 2 years since my first girlfriend (who I was with for 2 years as well), and I always thought she was "the one". I regret breaking up with her, but she has moved on and I will never have her back. So I have to move on, no matter how much I love her. And it sucks...It must take a long *** time to move on from someone really special. At least it does for me. And it does hurt. I guess the best part is that I like myself enough, and I have my kitten, friends, school and whatnot to keep my mind and self busy, occupied and relatively happy :) Best of luck

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sat 07/04/09 02:07 AM
out of sight/ out of mind usually works -- move somewhere else..different city, state, continent roko Isn't that running? Why not just stay where you are and deal with it? They're an ex for a reason, you can move on in the same state or city... that might be true, but distance does help. when you're in the same city, places remind you of that person. i used to "see" my ex all the time and it drove me nuts. i knew perfectly well he wasn't there, but i'd swear to god it was him.

plain_jane1 Joined Sun 09/14/08 Posts: 692	Sat 07/04/09 02:13 AM
You keep yourself occupied with other things. Within time your heart does heal, sometimes it seems forever. Then someone that really deserves you will come along, and then you will wonder what took so long for that right person.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sat 07/04/09 02:16 AM
You keep yourself occupied with other things. Within time your heart does heal, sometimes it seems forever. Then someone that really deserves you will come along, and then you will wonder what took so long for that right person. so true

vortecpowered Joined Mon 04/06/09 Posts: 665	Sat 07/04/09 02:21 AM
i cut off all contact for two years. didn't answer her calls or emails and moved twice (the moves had nothing to do with her). she finally managed to track down my address through a old friend and she wanted me 10 times as bad as she had before. we probably should have stayed around each other and let it fade out instead. she asked me to go to vegas with her last november....10 years after our breakup. i love vegas!

BillySuvol Joined Sun 03/22/09 Posts: 4715	Sat 07/04/09 02:24 AM
wanna know how i get over on my ex??? what i do is this..... i make her think that she is the most important person in the world again and then BAM! make her realize that in actuality I am THE MOST important person...so that trumps the previous statement

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Sat 07/04/09 03:06 AM
give it time that's all it takes

SingleAfterSoLong Joined Sat 07/04/09 Posts: 10	Sat 07/04/09 03:07 AM
I'm trying to figure it out. Single now after 12 year relationship.

BL4766 Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 74269	Sat 07/04/09 03:09 AM
How do you get over someone that you've loved so much you know things will never work out so it had to end. I personally KNOW.....if you TRULY love someone......you NEVER get over them!!!! FOREVER IN YOUR HEART!!!! If things CANT be worked thru.....I always hope for at least a friendship with them!!!!!

Mystique42 Joined Thu 04/12/07 Posts: 5045	Sat 07/04/09 05:30 AM
Surround yourself with good friends & time! I agree with him! Time heals all wounds

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sat 07/04/09 10:55 AM
How do you get over someone that you've loved so much you know things will never work out so it had to end. I personally KNOW.....if you TRULY love someone......you NEVER get over them!!!! FOREVER IN YOUR HEART!!!! If things CANT be worked thru.....I always hope for at least a friendship with them!!!!! eh, i've truly loved a few guys and i'm over all of them now. so maybe it depends on whether you really want to be over them, or if you want to live in the past and not move on?

BL4766 Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 74269	Sat 07/04/09 11:04 AM Edited by BL4766 on Sat 07/04/09 11:05 AM
How do you get over someone that you've loved so much you know things will never work out so it had to end. I personally KNOW.....if you TRULY love someone......you NEVER get over them!!!! FOREVER IN YOUR HEART!!!! If things CANT be worked thru.....I always hope for at least a friendship with them!!!!! eh, i've truly loved a few guys and i'm over all of them now. so maybe it depends on whether you really want to be over them, or if you want to live in the past and not move on? whether or not you MOVE ON .....if you TRULY LOVE SOMEONE, with all your heart, they will ALWAYS be in your heart....ALWAYS! Unless of course, there NEVER WAS real LOVE!!!!

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sat 07/04/09 12:51 PM
How do you get over someone that you've loved so much you know things will never work out so it had to end. I personally KNOW.....if you TRULY love someone......you NEVER get over them!!!! FOREVER IN YOUR HEART!!!! If things CANT be worked thru.....I always hope for at least a friendship with them!!!!! eh, i've truly loved a few guys and i'm over all of them now. so maybe it depends on whether you really want to be over them, or if you want to live in the past and not move on? whether or not you MOVE ON .....if you TRULY LOVE SOMEONE, with all your heart, they will ALWAYS be in your heart....ALWAYS! Unless of course, there NEVER WAS real LOVE!!!! we'll agree to disagree

simple_me Joined Sat 06/27/09 Posts: 6	Tue 07/07/09 12:10 PM
it takes time ... till now i cant get him out of mah mind...

simple_me Joined Sat 06/27/09 Posts: 6	Tue 07/07/09 12:12 PM
its hurts me so much to see his with other grl...

AGoodGuy1026 Joined Wed 04/22/09 Posts: 1333	Tue 07/07/09 12:32 PM
loving someone is a choice, as is moving on... you must first grieve, then one day you make the choice to move on... then, at your own pace (yes, baby step by baby step)... your heart heals... hopefully they don't mess with you in the mean time, and impede your progress... sorry to hear this happen, it sucks (I know... as do most people here)....

Mercedes8883 Joined Fri 10/17/08 Posts: 3	Tue 07/07/09 12:43 PM Edited by Mercedes8883 on Tue 07/07/09 12:45 PM
To the profile that reads, Remember my name, you'll be screaming it later. They say that is how you get over someone. To each his own. How about time and healing. I wish I would have thought of that one for my profile name. Darn it!