I haven't seen this asked, but have you ever felt like that you were never really accepted into the close social groups in your area? Maybe you moved there recently or lived there long and yet somehow you feel like an outcast?

Or somehow you think you're different , I don't know religion or ways of doing things, ethnicity, color of your skin etc.. somehow you feel like you're left out for a particular reason you are different than the others?

i feel like that everyday of my life....

In a way...yeah. I only have a few friends I hang with. But if they're gone or busy, I have to entertain myself. And that's the computer...gym...visiting family...or work. I'd love to go out, but it's no fun going alone.

so very true...

all the time...I am an outcast in my community.

Yup... I do feel like an outcast. I live life my way, and many dont like my way. I don't do anything illegal or wrong per say. I just dont think I should have to live my life by other peoples standards. So I wont!!

To be honest I've never really have been in a social group. Not even in school. I like to be myself and if people like that then thats cool and if not thats cool too. You shouldnt feel left out. And why would you want to be just like someone else?

I don't feel that way at all. I have a variety of groups in which I socialize: work, school, friends, fitness buddies, party buddies, hotrod buddies, wine tasting/museum geeks like me and my volunteer peeps.

You know the saying, "The more I know people, the more I like my dog!" ???

The same is true in dating. I see guys from an outside perspective in social groups and I am thankful that I am not with "that guy" because of their manners, behavior and overall attitude in life (lethargic, unmotivated, slovenly, chauvinistic etc). They are my friends for a reason and nothing more.

I'm sure 'those guys' feel that I am a PITA, snooty and too selective. That further enforces that we are not a match!

I really choose to be single until I meet the right one for me. We will appreciate each other.

I hear you, but ever thought of that maybe it's not their choice of what they have become? Maybe they are "outcasts" because others make them feel to be an outcast?

I know I'm different. Sometimes that's good, sometimes not so good. But I like who I am. I've come to learn that I can only be happy if I'm myself. If others don't like it, there's not a whole lot I can do about it.

My basic idea on is that if someone doesn't like me, not biggie. It's their loss for not taking the time to get to know me.

I've managed to wrangle up a group of misfits that suites me just fine. There are times I feel this way but I have amazing friends who are just as wacky as I am, but not necessarily in the same way. Dating I do find a lot more difficult but I know there are others out there like me so I keep the faith that he's out there too.

Oooohhh by god yes!!!

I could go on and on.........

Hmmm, but that seems weak to me. No one can MAKE me feel anything but what I want to feel.

There are people that fall into that cateogry I suppose, and I never thought of that perspective. That is an unattrctive trait.

I don't mean to blanket statement men either. There are plenty of women that are jack ***** and try to manipulate people with insults to either conform them or to exile them.

Being an outcast is the symptom but MEAN PEOPLE are the disease.

Usually the bullies are more insecure. They don't understand other people and their lifestyle so they are mean, insulting, and laugh at what scares them or anything that is different.

Life can be an extension of high school. Even Mingle has a clique of bullies that shun new comers or insult the members who are different.

Back in 2005, I was looking for someplace quiet and remote, where I could work on my first book.

A friend suggested a couple of small towns near her, saying I wouldn't have to worry about being interrupted.

So I got a place nearby -- only she never told me how clannish and unfriendly the people were.

I was expecting Mayberry, and what I got was closer to Booberry.

I asked her about that once, about the whole issue of meeting people there. She said, "I guess I should have told you -- the only way to meet people here is in a bar or a church."

Neither is a good option for me.

Moved 4 times since then.

The place I'm living now, I know nobody and it doesn't look like I ever will. I plan to go soemwhere else at the first opportunity.

I don't feel like an outcast at all. I don't know what others think, but they don't determine how I feel

I'm with Melody on this one, if you feel like an outcast maybe it's because you WANT to feel like an outcast. If you're different from others, rock it like it's hot because to someone it IS hot. If you walk around all woe is me with your head down no one will ever notice you that way.

Welcome to Utah from an escapee! I know how tough it is there. And I was down in the more welcoming SW corner of the state.

YES! You said it beautifully!

i really don't care if i'm "not accepted",why what do i get out of it,alot of suburban gossip,hearing about everything they have....wow thats so much fun give me a board and a 12 foot wave that i can touch the glass in....."that was my skull"

Sorry this is off topic but I can't email Melody....

Melody send me an email so I can respond... I'm not old enough to send you one