i have read a few posts lately where some folks were making comments about the person who leaves a relationship - and weather or not they regret leaving...

I think it takes a writer to put it well... the context, this is written from the perspective of the one who has finally left a marriage they no longer wanted to be a part of, for their mistress...

"It was a sense of freedom, as if he stood alone in the midst of an endless sweep of clean air, with only the memory of some weight that had been torn off his shoulders. It was the feeling of an immense deliverance. It was the knowledge that it did not matter to him - what she felt, what she suffered, or what became of her, and more: not only that it did not matter, but the shining, guiltless knowledge that it did not have to matter"... (Ayn Rand - Atlas Shrugged)...

They don't regret - they are happy. The person who is left wants to think they regret it... they don't.

Thanks, Obie won kanobie

First if they have a mistress while still in a relation they have no morals to start with.

If your in a marriage I suppose you loved that person, so for me to say you leave a marriage without regret is like saying you never loved your partner.

You can be a grownup and admit you relation is not working and that it needs to end for the better of both of you.

But not to regret even if only a little about leaving a relation/marriage that I hope they had entered with the idea that it will last a lifetime just shows how someone is not mature and serious in their feelings.

THere is nothing noble about someone finally abandoning a spouse for a mistress. It is the absolute expression of selfishness. That they have no regret makes them souless.

I agree...

May the force be with you

I wouldn't read Ayn Rand if you paid me.

Buwahahahahahaha!

If they had a mistress, then the man should have left before mistress. Marriage was already was over at that moment when man started looking 4 your replacememt.

That is cold. I can't say I've been on either side of that one, so I don't know if it is true or not.

Good points and good words..

Society tells a women to stay in a marriage for the children, as for only me. I gave my Roommate 7 months to decide if he wanted to be married to me? since I asked him... after that he chose to say yes?

I married him, everything was fine, had a child, then another. Life was grand for a while, until i found out he loved unemployment!

so little by little a women learned to protect her young and starve so they get fed.

in the proses she asks for a divorce, but because of society and family they say NO>> it is not allowed! After abuse on wife and kids, again the Police said I am sorry we can not press charges he is your husband, So she runs to the church, and again is told, i am sorry he is your husband vowels have been made "DEATH DO US APART" "FOR BETTER OR WORSE" "IN SICKNESS AND HEALTH".. So I am to stay in a loveless marriage with two kids.

Women and society do not mix for Men run this world, It is only when many women come together and stand up for one another dose the courts, dose society listen... Dose man Realize it is not OK to have a mistress and a wife!.

In the end who really suffered.. the kids hate there father! The mother walks away free and the kids are torn in between.

it is not as easy as said for 18yrs i tried to only be told NO you can not have a divorce. Not all cases are simple and when you Live in the Rich and Famous, you are controlled by a judgment and society that needs to keep there hands clean at all times.

If i was or would have been a simple women in a simple town in a simple world.. I would have been fine but I was not...

So as much as you have said today... To stand tall and walk away was the greatest freedom in the world.

To all women and Men who are controlled, judged and victimized by society. know there is a way out! you just have to find the one person that will listen to you! and help you find you!

ah who cares.. I dont think all that hard about that ****.