Topic: advice- that first contact...
MarkCahill's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:23 PM
I`m looking for advice for us newbies.
I join the site and see a woman`s profile i like.
what should I put in a message.
remember some of these profiles are short.
Hello does not work.
any advice please?

Peccy's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:29 PM
Discuss in detail your sexual prowess, that always works for women...lol Seriously, don't mention the word sex. Just be casual and most importantly be yourself.

boredinaz06's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:30 PM
Edited by boredinaz06 on Thu 10/15/09 02:31 PM


Explain to her in excruciating detail how you rock out on the thunder mugdrinker

writer_gurl's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:32 PM
What do you mean hello doesn't work?
How else would you greet them?
I say don't think too much into it, say whatever you would if the person is sitting across from you...Keep it casual & light

PATSFAN's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:33 PM
Just be yourself ( keep in mind that has not worked for me)

Peccy's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:36 PM

Just be yourself ( keep in mind that has not worked for me)
You need to tone it down Pats, most women can't handle all the testosterone oozing from you bro!

PATSFAN's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:38 PM


Just be yourself ( keep in mind that has not worked for me)
You need to tone it down Pats, most women can't handle all the testosterone oozing from you bro!




Lmao, it's a bit much at times!


( Peccy I sent you an email on FB, question about a friend request)

no photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:39 PM
Just be your self honest an just wait an see what the next reply will be

ArtGrrl's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:40 PM
I am very new to this site, but I am noticing that most of the time when it comes to looking at profiles or recieving messages, you have practically nothing to go on except a picture. Good enough for a lot of guys, but us girls.... write a message that says more than "hi". Say something about what you like about her. Make sure your profile SAYS something about you, because she will check that before responding more than likely. Good luck!

Peccy's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:45 PM
Just hit the forums, pics are good for us guys, but women need something more. They need to see how you react to certain things. All they have to judge you with on the net is text. So my advice is get to the forums and chat it up!drinker

Peccy's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:47 PM
replied Pats

writer_gurl's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:49 PM

I am very new to this site, but I am noticing that most of the time when it comes to looking at profiles or recieving messages, you have practically nothing to go on except a picture. Good enough for a lot of guys, but us girls.... write a message that says more than "hi". Say something about what you like about her. Make sure your profile SAYS something about you, because she will check that before responding more than likely. Good luck!

:thumbsup: I agree!!:thumbsup:

no photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:53 PM


I am very new to this site, but I am noticing that most of the time when it comes to looking at profiles or recieving messages, you have practically nothing to go on except a picture. Good enough for a lot of guys, but us girls.... write a message that says more than "hi". Say something about what you like about her. Make sure your profile SAYS something about you, because she will check that before responding more than likely. Good luck!

:thumbsup: I agree!!:thumbsup:


well put!

PATSFAN's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:54 PM

replied Pats



:thumbsup:

JerseyCoffeeGirl's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:54 PM
Hi is a nice way to begin but don't leave it there. Mention something from her profile! "You say you like flea markets. Do you like the collectibles?" That's conversational. Tell her something about you that you did not put in your profile. You can also let her know what you are going to do over the weekend and ask what her plans are. Don't forget to let her know that you're looking forward to hearing from her again!
Good luck!
Debby

PATSFAN's photo
Thu 10/15/09 02:55 PM
yO i wAnT 2 hIt dAt .... doesn't work well either.

no photo
Thu 10/15/09 03:46 PM
You can say hello to women, just try to add more than that. How are you might work too.

catseyes1's photo
Thu 10/15/09 05:15 PM

I`m looking for advice for us newbies.
I join the site and see a woman`s profile i like.
what should I put in a message.
remember some of these profiles are short.
Hello does not work.
any advice please?


Be yourself as to what you put in a message is all up to you. You could bring up some of their interests to start a conversation.