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Topic: forgiveness
ann24's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:02 PM
forgiveness is looking at the pain,learning the lessons it has produced, and understanding what we have learned.

redhead44613's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:04 PM
:thumbsup:

Gator76's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:05 PM
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.happy

JasmineInglewood's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:08 PM
i forgive.....

...while still revelling in their misfortune bigsmile

(i'm young, i'll grown up eventually)

Gator76's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:11 PM

i forgive.....

...while still revelling in their misfortune bigsmile

(i'm young, i'll grown up eventually)


You're forgiven! laugh

Ladylid2012's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:11 PM
Forgiveness is the scent the violet sheds

on the heel that has just crushed it. :heart:

Gator76's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:13 PM

Forgiveness is the scent the violet sheds

on the heel that has just crushed it. :heart:



flowerforyou

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:29 PM

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.happy


I wonder if it is.. I wonder how many times we are expected to forgive the same thing over and over...

I'm very forgiving and I have a hard time holding a grudge but there is a point where I walk awaY and just don't care anymore...

Ladylid2012's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:32 PM


The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.happy


I wonder if it is.. I wonder how many times we are expected to forgive the same thing over and over...

I'm very forgiving and I have a hard time holding a grudge but there is a point where I walk awaY and just don't care anymore...


I think that's part of it...part of the forgiving is also knowing when our forgiveness isn't about the other person(s) anymore....but for ourselves,
that is when we walk away...

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:38 PM
Hurts like hell but have to do it.. The hardest is when it's family...

Ladylid2012's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:42 PM

Hurts like hell but have to do it.. The hardest is when it's family...


For me it's easier with family...slaphead laugh My family drives me crazy. I consider my boys my family...the rest..I just don't know about.

Seriously though...does suck, some never figure it out either..sad.

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:45 PM


Hurts like hell but have to do it.. The hardest is when it's family...


For me it's easier with family...slaphead laugh My family drives me crazy. I consider my boys my family...the rest..I just don't know about.

Seriously though...does suck, some never figure it out either..sad.


I hear ya! And when the boys do it that's the worst pain.. Just went through that with my oldest... That was the worst ouch ever...

Ladylid2012's photo
Thu 10/15/09 10:51 PM



Hurts like hell but have to do it.. The hardest is when it's family...


For me it's easier with family...slaphead laugh My family drives me crazy. I consider my boys my family...the rest..I just don't know about.

Seriously though...does suck, some never figure it out either..sad.


I hear ya! And when the boys do it that's the worst pain.. Just went through that with my oldest... That was the worst ouch ever...


yep..worst when it your own kids, I think anyway. Been there, done that.
Harder with my child than a partner..I guess it's a mom thing. :heart:

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 10/15/09 11:13 PM




Hurts like hell but have to do it.. The hardest is when it's family...


For me it's easier with family...slaphead laugh My family drives me crazy. I consider my boys my family...the rest..I just don't know about.

Seriously though...does suck, some never figure it out either..sad.


I hear ya! And when the boys do it that's the worst pain.. Just went through that with my oldest... That was the worst ouch ever...


yep..worst when it your own kids, I think anyway. Been there, done that.
Harder with my child than a partner..I guess it's a mom thing. :heart:


I think it is.. Hopefully he's done with it now and all can go back to normal... I've decided to not bring it up, just let it go..

earthytaurus76's photo
Thu 10/15/09 11:24 PM
Ivee learned you can forgive in your heart, but its not always healthy to keep those people around.


Forgiveness is not holding someone in contempt.


I like to forgive at a distance when nessasary.

Ladylid2012's photo
Thu 10/15/09 11:27 PM

Ivee learned you can forgive in your heart, but its not always healthy to keep those people around.


Forgiveness is not holding someone in contempt.


I like to forgive at a distance when nessasary.


yep, I agree..sometimes the distance makes all the difference

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Sat 10/17/09 09:58 PM
Actually, I find that forgiving someone is a serious and not always voluntary process. It requires more than either saying one is sorry, or than trying to "walk a mile in their shoes." It can take years of learning, experience, personal development, and actual work to enable yourself to forgive. Truly forgive. It is necessary though, before you can move on from how they hurt you, and for your soul to thus become free.

Atlantis75's photo
Sat 10/17/09 10:04 PM

forgiveness is looking at the pain,learning the lessons it has produced, and understanding what we have learned.


I don't agree, but nice way to put it.

Forgiveness is overcoming your prejiduce and negative feelings and admitting, that positively reinforcing someone will also positively affects you as well.

Loving someone loveable is the easiest to do. Loving someone you hate is the hardest and most difficult, but brings the the best feeling you can possibly have and realize that you don't really hate anyone - Jesus

ArtGurl's photo
Sun 10/18/09 02:22 AM
Forgiveness doesn't mean what they did was okay nor does it mean that you want to have them in your life. You may or your may not.

It means that you are no longer willing to carry the emotional charge of it. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves to free us from the emotional bondage of the situation.

PacificStar48's photo
Sun 10/18/09 02:36 AM

Actually, I find that forgiving someone is a serious and not always voluntary process. It requires more than either saying one is sorry, or than trying to "walk a mile in their shoes." It can take years of learning, experience, personal development, and actual work to enable yourself to forgive. Truly forgive. It is necessary though, before you can move on from how they hurt you, and for your soul to thus become free.


Yea this sounds like some feel good psychobabble that is more about the fact that society doesn't hold most of the people being forgiven to the same standards of behavior they do their victims.

I think too often forgiveness is just a fools endorsement.

I can get over someone elses stupid selfishness without saying they get off the hook and it doesn't matter anymore. Some things you shouldn't just get to say sorry; lets for get all about it, and no real consequences.

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