I think we gotta think of this place more of just making friends and flirting.

Seems like that works for most everyone, I'm in love with a Lady on here, But I think flirting is as far as it will get.

Don't expect too much.

If by some miracle after a month they are still interested then go for it.

If the passion fades away, and the e-mails stop, It's probably that we all are just too far away.

Steve

probably the most realistic thing I have heard so far... I dream of the distance and the traveling, but I just don't see it happening.

First off, you have to be in the position to make a LDR work. Not everyone can simply drop things and move thousands of miles away. But well before anything like that can happen with any possibility of working, you and the other person must be commited to making it work.

LDR's use a different set of rules than dating someone within driving distance. What are those rules? They differ in each relationship is all I know. Good luck!

Amen to that.

It depends upon your wants in a relationship. I want physical as well as emotional closeness, so the LDR doesnt work for me unless it only STARTS that way. AS long as the relationship is LDR it is best to remain friends unless and until one moves near the other.

You suffer, fantasize and get over it...or pursue it and I haven't found anyone who wants to do the later so...

Start talking to someone closer, might sound harsh but the best way to get over one person is with someone else.

I totally agree

well spoken!!!!

my answer is no!! its not always that.. and dont hold your life down and turn away oppertunities that may approach you.. sure some are a good thing.. but dont shut yourslef down for it..

i dissagree.. if you havent met in person its more of a lust situation going on.. and maybe some would agree with me that have met their match miles away... but untill you meet.. you never know what is in store actually its more of a assumption..

and this i agree as well..

I agree with this one, wish I could find the latter part though.

LDR can work if both people are willing to work at it...it isn't easy but can be done...I'm all for it if it's the 'right' person, and the only way to know if it's the "right" person is by going for it, communication, and meeting every chance you get...
I say yes, go for LDR...

I was reading the comments here about LTR , and was thinking hmmm, some say they work some say they don't.I have been in 1 long distance relationship, did it work yes.Are we together no, but by mutual choice.

My saying if there is"If there is a will there is a way".

When one or both starts putting up road blocks(family, children,homes,jobs), you have lost the will..right?
Both parties have to talk about all these things asap, see what works for both, who's more flexable.Usually thats with your job.If not can the other support you while looking for new?Or have you saved enough to help get you by till you find something? Can you relocate to a new place with your job? Families with always be families, kids if young adapt,homes are just that a roof over your head....
Again "If there is a will there is a way"

But all the things I mentioned is factors on your will.

if your lifestyle and/or your finances don't allow you to travel, i'd advise not to get into a long distance relationship. i guess travelling from state to state isn't that expensive, but flying from canada to the usa runs us pretty close to a grand each time!

Ahh papersmile, but you both have the (Will) thats what makes it work. Your both very lucky!!

I was in a LDR, it was sucked cause no matter what, it was "damn if I did, damn if I didn't"...and about to make me bankrupt cause I always paid my own traveling and expenses; soooo sugestion...think about it really careful ;
1. Is he really worth the traveling expenses and time?
2. Is the sex part (timing,romance,etc) worth the bankruptcy you're about to face?
3. Are you willing to go the distance cause he loves and cares about you or the other way around?

If these 3 questions answered "NO" ..then...let the one closer to you...make you happy

When I read most of these postings I can't help thinking: what happened with romance and 'love doesn't know any borders'?
I truly believe that one can find his or her love anywhere. In the end of course the two of you should be together forever.

My last relationship was long distance with a guy in the military. It lasted about a year before it ended. It can work. (: But, we saw each other around once a month or two for a week at a time. It didn't work out because it turns out he wasn't over his cheating ex, but that's cool. haha.

I'm not really looking for long distance any more. If you're okay with it, then go for it. BUT, it has to be an equal thing.. as in, you go to their place, the next time they come to yours. Whatever. (: