The amount of men who seem to be going no where. Please tell me there is an intellegent, non perverted (at least not all the time), career driven, male who doesnt care to get trashed all the time. I seem to be able to only find a man who wants to work and realizes its neccessary who are older than 28....... ugh, any other females have the same problem?

Hate to tell you...it doesn't get much better...LOL

Most of the guys in my age owe 1/3 - 1/2 their income in child support...or are huge perverts (like you said)...uggh.

I know someday my prince will come...but probably in a broken down pickup...LOL

Agreed upon, why do they drink all the time?

And where are the romantics and nice dinners, and flowers.

Its insane the amout of people here just are not aware of their own lives. I wish every guy out there would just get a grip and understand what women really want. If im wrong, which i dont think i am, we look for these standards....

--A Career, not a job
--A car
--A license
--Goals
--Education
--Motivation

At least thats the only thing that shouts out independance.

independence ?...you got it !!...

There are plenty of motivated, hard-working, career-driven guys out there... just not on a dating website. Most of the people on this site of both genders are just people who can't attract a partner in real life. I suggest not trying to meet someone for a relationship on here, and instead try getting to know real guys in real life.

You're not the only one having these problems (and I lived in Illinois most of my life, so I have some knowledge of the state!) -- I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs, I'm divorced with no kids and no dependents, I'm a published author of 3 books (with more in the works), and I can't find anyone suitable at all. Every woman I meet wants to turn me into a goat and/or a sitcom dad. I have no interest in being domesticated; I would never get married again, and I will not have kids. That, and the fact that I won't date a drinker, makes it impossible to find a potential partner on any dating site I've tried.

I have had the same problem a few times. I've also dealt with the issue of them using or selling drugs. Sometimes I wonder if they really know what life has to offer without all that BS in their lives. But yet again that's just my opinion....

Well, I am not sure how to take this one. I can agree that there are plenty of motivated people out there. But singling people out and saying that they cant attract people in real life is really biased. So I cant say that I agree with that. In a lot of cases its easier for poeple to talk online before deciding that they want to meet someone, and it might take away the awkwardness in person. If you find out online that its not someone you want to be with, then you cant really waste your time. Also there are a lot of pepople out there, like myself, who just dont have the time to go out and meet people. There are plenty of attractive people on this site, they all have their reasons.

AGREED!!! Just be patient ALYSE. I found a lot of great people on here. I also met my future husband here also. You may have to be flexible with the distance thing but you will find someone!! Best wishes!!

Okay, I have to take exception to the comment regarding people on here only being here because they can't meet someone outside of the online environment.

I've done both. I had a nice relationship, which didn't lead to marriage when I met someone online a while ago. I've also had relationships in the more "normal" environment.

It has nothing to do with whether I'm capable of meeting someone offline and everything to do with the fact that with work during the day, as well as my age, I'm not at bars or other venues like that looking to meet people.

Same here, and I even drink, smoke, and do drugs.

Dear ALYSE,
I have spent a lot of time on this and other dating web sites. I find that the whole "getting trashed" thing goes both ways. So many women's profiles contain at least one picture that depicts the member in a scene of wild debauchery holding a drink and wearing a facial expression that ranges from a zombie-like trance to a look of pure lunacy. Many women seem to think that a date MUST involve the consumption of alcohol and if a man doesn't want that, there is something wrong with him. To sum it up, I would say that the dating scene is kind of like the scenes from Mardi Gras in New Orleans or Spring Break in Brownsville Texas shown on TV news. Both males and females are guilty of overindulging.

Well there are "those" guys, I can vouche for that personally, I don't smoke, drink, have both car and 2 motorcycles, ahave been an IT Professional since 13mths out of HS, I don't rely on anyone... It's a matter of everyone that's actually decent and one of "those" guys has been burned by women as they're usually timid guys and get taken advantage of.