So me and Randy (my ex) have been talking. We are talking bout getting back together after I am done with school. I am trying so hard not to get my hopes up because something could happen. but I just can't keep this to myself! He still loves me a lot, we still have the same feelings for each other. We are both hurting from the break up.

Yay, you and Randy.
Wishin' you both good things...

Whoa, hold up, here. Why did you and Randy break up? The truth, why and who broke it off? Could this not happen again and have far more devasting consequences if you get back together and it doesn't work out? Not saying that it's not possible, but perhaps there was a genuine purpose or reason why it didn't work out between you two. Having your heart broken once by someone is tough, but twice or more by the same person, may be something you don't want to live through.

getting back together after school....so what happens during the interim

roko

We both decided it was for the best. I was living with him out in NJ but needed to go to school and I could not afford it out there so I had to move home so I could go to school. To get my stuff in order. Our relationship was fine before I left, we really didn't want to do the whole long distance thing.

Well either meet halfway or one of us will drive out to see the other.

Hmm ... sounds positive enough, but I have to agree with another poster who asks why y'all broke up to begin with? Who decided to break it up, and has the cause of the original disagreement, whatever, been resolved? If it happens again because the causes of the first breakup still need to be addressed, well, it's just gonna hurt like it did the first time. That's not to say it can't be done - it's just asking if the things that prevented it from working out the first time will prevent it from working out again. This might be a good time to take a hardheaded look at why it will or won't work ... y' don't wanna go to the same dance twice.

Like I said before we needed to get our lifes straighten out, I needed to get back to school and he needed to work on getting out of debt. We broke it off because of the long distance. There was no other reason.

You know what? You need to tell him this! Best wish's gurl. One thing tho, don't let money break you up again. EVERY relationship has to deal with that.

I wish your RELATIONSHIP all the best and I hope you can both work everything out, but I can NOT recommend living with another person until you decide to get married. Statistically those relationships usually end up bad, and then you'll get hurt even worse than before. Hoping you both have MANY years of happiness together

It's a great opportunity to have some heart to heart talks, just don't forget about school.

I hope it works out for ya'll. If you think old relationships can be hard to fix up imagine having to go through the whole thing again breaking in a new guy.

Thank you everyone! I will not forget about school, almost done with this then its off to more schooling. There is a college down in NJ that I really liked so I am hoping in a year or 2 I can move over there an start a new chapter on my own. I wanna live on my own for a while before moving in with him again. IF it gets that far.

See, sounds good already. You seem to have it worked out pretty well, the future plans. And remember the money thing and your edu like you said. Don't want to jeopardize that. Thanks for filling in the blanks earlier for me, and now it seems to make more sense. Best wishes to you and Randy, just be careful.

Thanks. We are not dating just "seeing" each other, not b/f g/f yet. Guess you can call this year a trial run.

Yaaay!!

I remember that!!!

Just take it slooow. You've been through so much lately

really hope it all works out

REMEMBER.....

Education first! Get that degree so that your on the path to independence that makes relationships just a wee bit easier!

I plan too. Going to take my sweet time getting out there so I have work experience under my belt and need to save the money up. So it will take me a year or so to do that. We are taking our time with it this time, not gonna jump into it like last time.