Topic: Anyone have the answer?
niteclerk's photo
Sat 04/03/10 04:26 AM
When it comes to meeting someone, what is the secret of making a connection? Put your self out there but leave them wanting more. Act interested then aloof. Be your self but down play your quirks. Let them get to know you but don't come on to strong. Does anyone have the answer to how to use this (to me) contradicting advice? Cause I don't. Apparently it's a fine line that I keep falling off of.

Gossipmpm's photo
Sat 04/03/10 04:32 AM
Well for me

it's just being your total self!!

No game playing

no mindless flirting

no make believe. At all

people pick up on someone who is true to who they are:heart:


niteclerk's photo
Sat 04/03/10 04:42 AM
I am who I am. I don't know how to be any thing different. I had this conversation with a friend. It wasn't til later that I realized his advice didn't make sense. Just wondering if any one understood it.

Gossipmpm's photo
Sat 04/03/10 04:46 AM
Well then there will be someone for you if that's the case!

Maybe not right away

but there will be!:heart:

niteclerk's photo
Sat 04/03/10 04:51 AM
Yeah I hope so. Every now and then I get a little discouraged. When I meet someone I always get put in the "friend" zone. Gets annoying after awhile.

Tommo's photo
Sat 04/03/10 06:08 AM

Yeah I hope so. Every now and then I get a little discouraged. When I meet someone I always get put in the "friend" zone. Gets annoying after awhile.


It can be annoying I guess when you are put in the friend zone. But that shouldn't be any reason to be somebody you are not. Just keep your heart open and at the time you least expect it, your knight in shining armour will come crashing through your door (maybe not literally, as you may feel inclined to want to call the police or something ;-)

Teditis's photo
Sat 04/03/10 06:25 AM

Well for me

it's just being your total self!!

No game playing

no mindless flirting

no make believe. At all

people pick up on someone who is true to who they are:heart:




Wanted to write something but this says it all... flowerforyou

no photo
Sat 04/03/10 06:39 AM


Well for me

it's just being your total self!!

No game playing

no mindless flirting

no make believe. At all

people pick up on someone who is true to who they are:heart:




Wanted to write something but this says it all... flowerforyou


I agree.

CatsLoveMe's photo
Sat 04/03/10 08:18 AM



Well for me

it's just being your total self!!

No game playing

no mindless flirting

no make believe. At all

people pick up on someone who is true to who they are:heart:




Wanted to write something but this says it all... flowerforyou


I agree.


Slam dunk! Absolutely right! :thumbsup: :heart:

TxsGal3333's photo
Sat 04/03/10 09:54 AM
As far as secret of making that connection if it is there it will happen. No secret no magic potion no wand to wave it is just a chemistry between two people that seems to ignite when you meet that certain person...................bigsmile scared bigsmile

no photo
Sat 04/03/10 09:59 AM
There's no secret, just be yourself, either they like you or they don't, either you like them or you don't. Good luck to you.