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Topic: To cheat or not to cheat?
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Sun 04/11/10 11:32 AM


So what are your thoughts on cheating spouses? Husband or Wife? What circumstances would justify seeking something outside of marriage? How far can you go before it is cheating? What are your thoughts?


oh, I have thought of two possibilities,,,

If one is in an 'open' marriage(although I'm not sure it would be considered cheating)

If one is still married on paper but no longer living together as husband and wife


the bottom line though, is whether there is upfront disclosure of the choice to move on,,,
There CAN ALWAYS BE exceptions to SOME RULES...
Like OK,,if a man or women was presumed missing for five years YET still married,,and on and ON,,,BUT,
What THIS POST QUESTION was refereed to one on here,,and in four years I have not read anyone who suffered my scenario above..
You mentioned this above.

If one is still married on paper but no longer living together as husband and wife
IF A PERSON was in this here,,,THATS EVEN MORE REASON FOR ME TO STAY FAR AWAY,,as THAT person might USE ME as her REASONS to GET A DIVORCE..and a man,,this same to a woman..
IF THEIR SEPARATED,,,THEY ARE HERE,,,,,,WHAT?,,LOOKING FOR ANOTHER!
And THAT other,,,can be SEEN by their spouse as what,,THE ONE THEY NOW HAVE FALLEN FOR,,and THAT IS DANGEROUS TO PUT SOMEONE IN.
And I have met MANY on here who have been separated and tell them this same if we talk in private...
NO ONE JOINS A "SINGLES" SITE BECAUSE THEIR JUST LOOKING FOR A FRIEND,,,they MIGHT end up here STAYING FOR JUST THAT..
But THEY HAD OTHER MOTIVES as to what brought them here..
VERY FEW,,who are separated,,,have FILED for a divorce...
IF THEY HAVE,,,,,then THATS A DIFFERENT STORY..

As to your OPEN MARRIAGE SCENARIO, I DON'T CONSIDER THEM MARRIED OR SINGLE,,,just LOST,,as to knowing REAL LOVE..
SO THEM I WOULD NEVER LOOK AT AS GETTING CLOSE TO THEM..
BUT,,THESE are ONLY MY THOUGHTS,,as MANY DUDES AND LADIES will DATE WITHIN THESE GROUPS...

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Sun 04/11/10 12:07 PM



So what are your thoughts on cheating spouses? Husband or Wife? What circumstances would justify seeking something outside of marriage? How far can you go before it is cheating? What are your thoughts?


oh, I have thought of two possibilities,,,

If one is in an 'open' marriage(although I'm not sure it would be considered cheating)

If one is still married on paper but no longer living together as husband and wife


the bottom line though, is whether there is upfront disclosure of the choice to move on,,,
There CAN ALWAYS BE exceptions to SOME RULES...
Like OK,,if a man or women was presumed missing for five years YET still married,,and on and ON,,,BUT,
What THIS POST QUESTION was refereed to one on here,,and in four years I have not read anyone who suffered my scenario above..
You mentioned this above.

If one is still married on paper but no longer living together as husband and wife
IF A PERSON was in this here,,,THATS EVEN MORE REASON FOR ME TO STAY FAR AWAY,,as THAT person might USE ME as her REASONS to GET A DIVORCE..and a man,,this same to a woman..
IF THEIR SEPARATED,,,THEY ARE HERE,,,,,,WHAT?,,LOOKING FOR ANOTHER!
And THAT other,,,can be SEEN by their spouse as what,,THE ONE THEY NOW HAVE FALLEN FOR,,and THAT IS DANGEROUS TO PUT SOMEONE IN.
And I have met MANY on here who have been separated and tell them this same if we talk in private...
NO ONE JOINS A "SINGLES" SITE BECAUSE THEIR JUST LOOKING FOR A FRIEND,,,they MIGHT end up here STAYING FOR JUST THAT..
But THEY HAD OTHER MOTIVES as to what brought them here..
VERY FEW,,who are separated,,,have FILED for a divorce...
IF THEY HAVE,,,,,then THATS A DIFFERENT STORY..

As to your OPEN MARRIAGE SCENARIO, I DON'T CONSIDER THEM MARRIED OR SINGLE,,,just LOST,,as to knowing REAL LOVE..
SO THEM I WOULD NEVER LOOK AT AS GETTING CLOSE TO THEM..
BUT,,THESE are ONLY MY THOUGHTS,,as MANY DUDES AND LADIES will DATE WITHIN THESE GROUPS...


true, its all preference,,,,

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Sun 04/11/10 01:39 PM
i cheated for a whole month once! my right hand was really mad at my left! it tried to cut lefty off when i was sleeping......good thing i sleep with one eye open!

my right hand was injured at the time.....you know, my right hand forgave my left but never trusted it again!

















when you cheat on your loved one, you cheat, lie, and justify yourself the worst.

never cheat, and get out of the relationship! you were best friends once! stay friends. nothing will ever replace that!!!!!

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Sun 04/11/10 05:23 PM


So what are your thoughts on cheating spouses? Husband or Wife? What circumstances would justify seeking something outside of marriage? How far can you go before it is cheating? What are your thoughts?


oh, I have thought of two possiblities,,,

If one is in an 'open' marriage(although Im not sure it would be considered cheating)

If one is still married on paper but no longer living together as husband and wife


the bottom line though, is whether there is upfront disclosure of the choice to move on,,,


I guess married couples who are swingers participate in consentual cheating. happy :tongue:
(someone had to say it, heh)

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