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Topic: For you Guys...REALLY
Shasta1's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:04 PM
Edited by Shasta1 on Fri 04/09/10 11:06 PM
I always take/took people at face value. More interested in what they had to say, who they are and feel this place has alot of honest answers here..Soooo...
would you date a woman without breasts?
Is it REALLY that important?
Or do you realize we're all the same material and things could happen to you that could alter your physical being? Since being on this place, and in public- I've been very honest- exampled with the real world by not wearing a bra stuffed because it is too painful. Many women have to deal with that after surgery...no one knows. The pain can last years because of surgery, nerve endings cut- not being able to be 'rebuilt' because of certain muscles having to be taken.
Suppose I am the loud mouth about it, but can any of you explain why it's such a turn off?
Guess I live in my own little world, where people connect -at least i do- with others to 'see' , it's the only way for me.
Sure, I get spam guys, or young ones who are soft hearts- but nothing else. I just want to know- why does it bother you guys- when we went through it- wouldn't you like to be with a person who has enough eneruy left over to give others themelves after given to you?. Okay...after my rant here, I'll probally be so embarrassed I won't post again for awhile(doubt it-hehe)- but REALLY want to hear some honest answers here.
Does it matter? Please be sensitive and no jokes, beleive me, heard them, even if they were meant to lighten the mood..

mscherbear's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:06 PM
You're a brave woman, Shasta. flowerforyou :heart:

Shasta1's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:08 PM
But why am I brave? you'd have to do the same thing if it were you? Yes?

no photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:08 PM
I believe in the old saying.... It ain't the meat it's the motion.
You can take that anyway you want...

mscherbear's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:11 PM
I wouldn't have been able to do it in such a public manner. Major kudos to you. flowerforyou And in my book, it really SHOULDN'T matter--you are the same person either way.

Etrain's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:13 PM
flowerforyou I like breasts...my preferenceflowerforyou

Shasta1's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:21 PM

I wouldn't have been able to do it in such a public manner. Major kudos to you. flowerforyou And in my book, it really SHOULDN'T matter--you are the same person either way.


No kudos. Just words that women want to say to men and are 'afraidscared of judgement..
Think: You might if You were under the same circumstances. (not you- per say)
Am just a little surprised at how people look at things still.

no photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:21 PM
Edited by IndigoIllusions on Fri 04/09/10 11:22 PM
It shouldn't matter if one has so-called "flaws", EVERYONE has
some flaw or another, and as far as the physical/cosmetic goes,
every single person has something about them that either THEY
don't like about themselves, or other's have found fault with.
More people need to think about it this way...what if you found
someone wonderful and beautiful (at least to you-everyone's taste
differs), and something happened, ie-age, illness, accident, would
you actually turn your back on that person and find them no longer
attractive or desirable? What about if the tables are turned? What
if no one wanted them for such shallow reasons, or no longer wanted
them due to whatever reason? Like I've always taught my kids...before you speak or act,
put yourself in the other person's shoes.

Tolerance, respect, and love...of yourself and others.:heart:

Winx's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:23 PM
My mother went through a breast cancer scare about 25 years ago. She was 46 yrs. old at the time. She didn't know if she would have her breast or not when she came out of surgery.

My father and her made the advanced decision to not have a breast implant if her breast was removed. My Dad didn't want my Mom to go through the extra pain. That's love.:heart:

In the end, she didn't need to do it.



mscherbear's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:24 PM

It shouldn't matter if one has so-called "flaws", EVERYONE has
some flaw or another, and as far as the physical/cosmetic goes,
every single person has something about them that either THEY
don't like about themselves, or other's have found fault with.
More people need to think about it this way...what if you found
someone wonderful and beautiful (at least to you-everyone's taste
differs), and something happened, ie-age, illness, accident, would
you actually turn your back on that person and find them no longer
attractive or desirable? What about if the tables are turned? What
if no one wanted them for such shallow reasons, or no longer wanted
them due to whatever reason? Like I've always taught my kids...before you speak or act,
put yourself in the other person's shoes.

Tolerance, respect, and love...of yourself and others.:heart:


:thumbsup: You have a beautiful way with words, Indigo flowerforyou

Shasta1's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:27 PM

flowerforyou I like breasts...my preferenceflowerforyou

so (am NOT picking a rift with you)- you meet a woman, you really connect- go out a few times and the night comes. You go to whoevers house and she tells you then...what do you do...excuse yourself and get a memory or a phone call?
Or in a group you really connect then find out and dismiss her because of such?
JUST want honest answers here folks.

Etrain's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:27 PM
I wouldn't turn my back on someone if I was in a relationship with them and they got ill...I'd stick it out with them no matter the outcome but the question was if I would date someone without breasts...I would say noflowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

JustAGuy2112's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:29 PM

I always take/took people at face value. More interested in what they had to say, who they are and feel this place has alot of honest answers here..Soooo...
would you date a woman without breasts?
Is it REALLY that important?
Or do you realize we're all the same material and things could happen to you that could alter your physical being? Since being on this place, and in public- I've been very honest- exampled with the real world by not wearing a bra stuffed because it is too painful. Many women have to deal with that after surgery...no one knows. The pain can last years because of surgery, nerve endings cut- not being able to be 'rebuilt' because of certain muscles having to be taken.
Suppose I am the loud mouth about it, but can any of you explain why it's such a turn off?
Guess I live in my own little world, where people connect -at least i do- with others to 'see' , it's the only way for me.
Sure, I get spam guys, or young ones who are soft hearts- but nothing else. I just want to know- why does it bother you guys- when we went through it- wouldn't you like to be with a person who has enough eneruy left over to give others themelves after given to you?. Okay...after my rant here, I'll probally be so embarrassed I won't post again for awhile(doubt it-hehe)- but REALLY want to hear some honest answers here.
Does it matter? Please be sensitive and no jokes, beleive me, heard them, even if they were meant to lighten the mood..



Meh. My last ex basically had nothing but nipples anyway.

It really doesn't much matter to me.

Etrain's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:33 PM


flowerforyou I like breasts...my preferenceflowerforyou

so (am NOT picking a rift with you)- you meet a woman, you really connect- go out a few times and the night comes. You go to whoevers house and she tells you then...what do you do...excuse yourself and get a memory or a phone call?
Or in a group you really connect then find out and dismiss her because of such?
JUST want honest answers here folks.


Damn...I'm the only guy here!!! I usually score on the first date but if put into that waiting game I would feel a bit deceived...not honestly sure what I'd do...never been put in the situation

Shasta1's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:36 PM

It shouldn't matter if one has so-called "flaws", EVERYONE has
some flaw or another, and as far as the physical/cosmetic goes,
every single person has something about them that either THEY
don't like about themselves, or other's have found fault with.
More people need to think about it this way...what if you found
someone wonderful and beautiful (at least to you-everyone's taste
differs), and something happened, ie-age, illness, accident, would
you actually turn your back on that person and find them no longer
attractive or desirable? What about if the tables are turned? What
if no one wanted them for such shallow reasons, or no longer wanted
them due to whatever reason? Like I've always taught my kids...before you speak or act,
put yourself in the other person's shoes.

Tolerance, respect, and love...of yourself and others.:heart:

Tonight am bearing my soul. My ex. discovered he couldn't touch me afterwards.That Touched me in a way that never knew someone could. Granted he was self centered but that just tore my heart. I don't care what you guys think but have to finally say it, and ask...to heal. Does it REALLY matter? I've worked with people all my life, disadvantaged in ways that people have no idea. Just begun to realize that people don't think this way, acceptance is so difficult.
You write beautifully.

sshassan's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:37 PM

I always take/took people at face value. More interested in what they had to say, who they are and feel this place has alot of honest answers here..Soooo...
would you date a woman without breasts?
Is it REALLY that important?
Or do you realize we're all the same material and things could happen to you that could alter your physical being? Since being on this place, and in public- I've been very honest- exampled with the real world by not wearing a bra stuffed because it is too painful. Many women have to deal with that after surgery...no one knows. The pain can last years because of surgery, nerve endings cut- not being able to be 'rebuilt' because of certain muscles having to be taken.
Suppose I am the loud mouth about it, but can any of you explain why it's such a turn off?
Guess I live in my own little world, where people connect -at least i do- with others to 'see' , it's the only way for me.
Sure, I get spam guys, or young ones who are soft hearts- but nothing else. I just want to know- why does it bother you guys- when we went through it- wouldn't you like to be with a person who has enough eneruy left over to give others themelves after given to you?. Okay...after my rant here, I'll probally be so embarrassed I won't post again for awhile(doubt it-hehe)- but REALLY want to hear some honest answers here.
Does it matter? Please be sensitive and no jokes, beleive me, heard them, even if they were meant to lighten the mood..



u need a doctor.........

Etrain's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:49 PM
Shasta...one hell of a question...you are incredible braveflowerforyou Brings back sad memories...My Grandmother went through that and had Dementia on top of it...everyday someone would have to explain to her what happened to her breasts:cry: :cry: :cry:

Shasta1's photo
Fri 04/09/10 11:59 PM


I always take/took people at face value. More interested in what they had to say, who they are and feel this place has alot of honest answers here..Soooo...
would you date a woman without breasts?
Is it REALLY that important?
Or do you realize we're all the same material and things could happen to you that could alter your physical being? Since being on this place, and in public- I've been very honest- exampled with the real world by not wearing a bra stuffed because it is too painful. Many women have to deal with that after surgery...no one knows. The pain can last years because of surgery, nerve endings cut- not being able to be 'rebuilt' because of certain muscles having to be taken.
Suppose I am the loud mouth about it, but can any of you explain why it's such a turn off?
Guess I live in my own little world, where people connect -at least i do- with others to 'see' , it's the only way for me.
Sure, I get spam guys, or young ones who are soft hearts- but nothing else. I just want to know- why does it bother you guys- when we went through it- wouldn't you like to be with a person who has enough eneruy left over to give others themelves after given to you?. Okay...after my rant here, I'll probally be so embarrassed I won't post again for awhile(doubt it-hehe)- but REALLY want to hear some honest answers here.
Does it matter? Please be sensitive and no jokes, beleive me, heard them, even if they were meant to lighten the mood..



u need a doctor.........


Oh yes, thats right! I totally forgot!laugh . I need a MD to Prescribe something for my feelings. What in the world is wrong with me that am talking about life on a site where will never meet any of the people here but some how...trust a little more because have seen their tears, and laughter and ability to take it as it comes, give encouragement? Silly me.

no photo
Sat 04/10/10 12:02 AM
Edited by HannahHatesBananas on Sat 04/10/10 12:02 AM


Tonight am bearing my soul. My ex. discovered he couldn't touch me afterwards.That Touched me in a way that never knew someone could. Granted he was self centered but that just tore my heart. I don't care what you guys think but have to finally say it, and ask...to heal. Does it REALLY matter? I've worked with people all my life, disadvantaged in ways that people have no idea. Just begun to realize that people don't think this way, acceptance is so difficult.
You write beautifully.


flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowers flowers flowers flowers flowers flowers flowers flowers

people can be shite.

Shasta1's photo
Sat 04/10/10 12:17 AM

Shasta...one hell of a question...you are incredible braveflowerforyou Brings back sad memories...My Grandmother went through that and had Dementia on top of it...everyday someone would have to explain to her what happened to her breasts:cry: :cry: :cry:

The poor dear. My heart goes out for her and you. In her confusion, that most have been one of the scariest...dementia...you know you are losing things the in and out of the memories...am so sorry that those thoughts came to you about her, perhaps it was a reason so you could heal something about her and them? Am not being trite about this- my heart is wide open tonight- may you heal finally about your love with her pain.flowerforyou

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