i have a lesbian relationship and we been dating for 4 months now and we got into a huge fight over the phone, when we first started to date she know i been with a lot of other women in the past sex or dating and now i am friends with most of them, but she thinks i have now run off with a friend of my and we have dated a few times in the past and she is saying i most decid to be with her or we most spilt up because she is tired of it

That's something I've never experienced on my end is jealousy. Maybe somethings wrong with me. I just don't see the point in having to worry all the time what your SO is doing when you're not with them. You shouldn't have to give up your friends for a relationship. jmho

Tink, I'm not sure I understand but I'll give it a shot. It's a new relationship and she is feeling insecure. If you have been in many and she hasn't, maybe she feels threatened. TALK to her. Tell her about your friendships. Don't focus on the past relationship but on friendship. Maybe she will open up enough to understand.

Good luck.

i think i am more comfuse about it then you all, she has been working sooo much the last few weeks that i been really bored with my self, so i thought i would work with my friend and her dad some and she thinks i have run off with my friend but we talk all the time on the phone

SHE wants you to decide WHAT?IF YOU CAN DUMP FRIENDSHIPS FOR HER?
because SHE'S over jealous of THEM...
OK,,ANYONE who has EVER shared intimacies with another,,and THEN moves on and stops seeing THEM,,,will still carry a more than friends feelings inside of them,,IF they stay friends through all THAT. Now IF your new lady knows that you shared these feelings with them,,,then she has a right to feel awkward and odd,,if your spending TIME with any of them,,,because you HAD BEEN INTIMATE with them before.
Its like hanging with an ex spouse,,,,WHY would anyone WANT TO,,if they had a NEW LOVE?
So I can SEE or FEEL her thoughts ,,its not so much that she might think your sleeping with one,,,but more the idea that BY VISITING THEM,,,,THAT CHANCE EXISTS, even if THAT THOUGHT is NOT THERE..
If you feel THIS new lover is YOUR LOVE,,,then I would not have any problems staying distant from MY PAST LOVERS...
IF YOUR NOT SURE,,,,THEN YOU NEED TO BREAK-UP..
Thats all just being Real with life and your love...in my views..

She is being controlling and paranoid. I don't see a good ending to this relationship.

one of my friends never had a 3some befor so they ask if i would do it with them a few weeks back and i said sure and my gf just found out about it and now we are fighting this is why i never told her, but she does know that i still never 100% doing all this with my ex or friends

Tinker,,honey,,am I hearing you right with this,,you had a three some two weeks ago,,and you were with this new girlfriend then,,at the time you had a three some??

Well, that puts a new spin on things. If you're having threesomes with someone else while in a relationship then she has a right to be mad. Before you ask for advice it's best to put the whole thing on the table.

at the time she was all was working and she knows i do fool around at times, and ask me to stop 100% but it's so hard to have sex when your parter is all was working and never home or together

Aww, someone who likes to have their cake & eat it too!! You need to make a choice. Doesn't look like you're sure what you want.

i am sure i would stop fooling around if she was not working to morning to dark each day it gets old

She has a right to be mad, you weren't very nice to her doing things behind her back.

Tinker,,,many husbands and wives have shared your insights as to feeling alone when your loves gone working,,,but see.
IF YOU WANT TO SLEEP WITH MANY,,THEN DON'T TRY AND SAY ORBE AS WITH ONLY ONE,,BECAUSE IT GOES AGAINST YOU,,,YOUR FEELINGS,,YOUR DESIRES
BE YOU,,and DON'T BE ANY......."""""ONES"""""",,,
or life and love making will RIP YOUR WORLD APART!
Stay with three bsomes and two somes and whatever fun somes,,,BUT don't mis-lead another when YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T DO IT!
Now I THINK you've also made you point here with your post,,,YOUR OPEN TO HAVE FUN,,,wink, can't shlt a Bullshlter,,,lol

That seems to be everyone's excuse for cheating. Decide whether you want the relationship, if you're willing to put up with the work schedule. If not, get out. It's unfair to her that you're unable to amuse yourself except with someone else.

Well here goes. Chrissy unfiltered. You originally post that your girlfriend is controlling and making you chose between friends. Come to find out you have been fooling around because you are bored and she works alot. What kind of BS is that? Do you really justify your actions like that. Do you have no common courtesy or consideration for someone you are in a relationship with.

Holy Cow young lady. You need a wake up call. Either you are in or your out. It sounds like you aren't mature enough to have a relationship so don't. That way atleast you don't hurt others.

i would have ask her if she wanted to be in the 3some to make it a 4some but she was at work

The plot thickens!!

Chrissy has left the building.

LOL! And gets more bizarre!