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Topic: Is dating just about finding that one and only?
DaveyB Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 18786	Wed 04/14/10 06:35 PM
I guess it's different for everyone...it's about whatever each of us are looking for. Yeah, and I do know what I'm looking for... or what I will be looking for when I'm ready to look again LOL, but does that mean people don't go out if they don't meet those criteria. It does for me...I have very few deal breakers and I generally won't go out with those who don't fit that criteria. If I just wanna hang out, I'll do that with my friends. And that's perfectly valid, I know a number of people who feel that way, men and women alike. I was curious as to how many feel that way, and what their reasons were.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Wed 04/14/10 06:36 PM
It's all about how well she cooks.....and cleans. so for you dating is about finding a housekeeper? Yes.....and she must wear a French maids outfit while doing it. Hey...a Goof can dream can't he?

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Wed 04/14/10 06:37 PM
IMO (like the old saying) it will find you when you aren't looking for it. Except for goof....he just stalks them

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Wed 04/14/10 06:37 PM
It's all about how well she cooks.....and cleans. so for you dating is about finding a housekeeper? Yes.....and she must wear a French maids outfit while doing it. Hey...a Goof can dream can't he? sorry goof ya own ya own i fend for my self lol

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Wed 04/14/10 06:37 PM
IMO (like the old saying) it will find you when you aren't looking for it. Except for goof....he just stalks them yep kim i agree if you find it or it finds you then that is all good

DaveyB Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 18786	Wed 04/14/10 06:38 PM
It's all about how well she cooks.....and cleans. so for you dating is about finding a housekeeper? Yes.....and she must wear a French maids outfit while doing it. Hey...a Goof can dream can't he? You would have gotten along with my wife, she was a professional house keeper and she love dressing up

DaveyB Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 18786	Wed 04/14/10 06:38 PM
IMO (like the old saying) it will find you when you aren't looking for it. Except for goof....he just stalks them You trying to throw my thread off topic?

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Wed 04/14/10 06:39 PM
IMO (like the old saying) it will find you when you aren't looking for it. Except for goof....he just stalks them Well, ya gotta stick with what works.

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Wed 04/14/10 06:39 PM
IMO (like the old saying) it will find you when you aren't looking for it. Except for goof....he just stalks them You trying to throw my thread off topic? davey just tell kim stop looking at the pink ponies lol

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Wed 04/14/10 06:40 PM
IMO (like the old saying) it will find you when you aren't looking for it. Except for goof....he just stalks them You trying to throw my thread off topic? davey just tell kim stop looking at the pink ponies lol Hey...you guys do that to me. pay back is a B**** and so am I

DaveyB Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 18786	Wed 04/14/10 06:44 PM
IMO (like the old saying) it will find you when you aren't looking for it. Except for goof....he just stalks them You trying to throw my thread off topic? davey just tell kim stop looking at the pink ponies lol Hey...you guys do that to me. pay back is a B**** and so am I Who me

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Wed 04/14/10 06:44 PM
IMO (like the old saying) it will find you when you aren't looking for it. Except for goof....he just stalks them You trying to throw my thread off topic? davey just tell kim stop looking at the pink ponies lol Hey...you guys do that to me. pay back is a B**** and so am I Who me nah davey ur just the sweet little angel lol

DaveyB Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 18786	Wed 04/14/10 06:46 PM
IMO (like the old saying) it will find you when you aren't looking for it. Except for goof....he just stalks them You trying to throw my thread off topic? davey just tell kim stop looking at the pink ponies lol Hey...you guys do that to me. pay back is a B**** and so am I Who me nah davey ur just the sweet little angel lol Eh tu?! (I know sarcasm when I hear it LOL)

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Wed 04/14/10 06:49 PM
IMO (like the old saying) it will find you when you aren't looking for it. Except for goof....he just stalks them You trying to throw my thread off topic? davey just tell kim stop looking at the pink ponies lol Hey...you guys do that to me. pay back is a B**** and so am I Who me nah davey ur just the sweet little angel lol Eh tu?! (I know sarcasm when I hear it LOL) who me im a good person lol

tessa68 Joined Sun 10/01/06 Posts: 1699	Wed 04/14/10 07:03 PM
Aside from those who just date to put a notch in their belts... Do you think dating is only about finding a relationship? Are there other reasons for dating someone? yes, to get along with...

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Wed 04/14/10 07:07 PM
Aside from those who just date to put a notch in their belts... Do you think dating is only about finding a relationship? Are there other reasons for dating someone? it depends,, on who you ask and their definition I think of a DATE (when they ask would you like to do out on a date)with the traditional one-on-one romantic undertones(dinner, movies, home cooked meal) as a potential romantic prelude I think of a date( when they say 'it's a date') with some common activity such as sports or bowling or meeting with a group of others as just a time to meet friends

DaveyB Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 18786	Wed 04/14/10 07:18 PM
Aside from those who just date to put a notch in their belts... Do you think dating is only about finding a relationship? Are there other reasons for dating someone? it depends,, on who you ask and their definition I think of a DATE (when they ask would you like to do out on a date)with the traditional one-on-one romantic undertones(dinner, movies, home cooked meal) as a potential romantic prelude Ok, so the question is if it's one on one type date does that mean it necessarily has the romantic undertones? I think of a date( when they say 'it's a date') with some common activity such as sports or bowling or meeting with a group of others as just a time to meet friends It seems for a lot of people this is a key issue. If it's one person it's romantic if it's more it's not. Half my "dates" ie: one on one, dinner, movies etc, are with gay women where obviously there's no future relationship possible. There may be lots of sexual undertones (my experience gay women love to tease the straight guy, or at least they do me LOL), but it's still obviously going to be friends only. If I gave up those I really wouldn't have any dates at all and that would be boring. I much prefer one on one time rather than groups though I go out with groups as well.

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Wed 04/14/10 07:25 PM Edited by buttons on Wed 04/14/10 07:27 PM
a guy the other day on here that i talk to.. asked me.. so do you turn down dates? then said he would force his self to go to keep in practice.. for me.. id never want to force myself.. so yes i do turn them down... would i go out with someone i wasnt interested in as a partner? yes.. only if i was sure they weren't thinking anything else if they gave me any inkling that they were interested in more and i wasn't noooo i would not go.. but there has to be interest in at least being friends for me to go.. i don't believe in misleading someone just to get a dinner or coffee or have them take me somewhere..

DaveyB Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 18786	Wed 04/14/10 07:30 PM
a guy the other day on here that i talk to.. asked me.. so do you turn down dates? then said he would force his self to go to keep in practice.. for me.. id never want to force myself.. so yes i do turn them down... would i go out with someone i wasnt interested in as a partner? yes.. only if i was sure they weren't thinking anything else if they gave me any inkling that they were interested in more and i wasn't noooo i would not go.. but there has to be interest in at least being friends for me to go.. i don't believe in misleading someone just to get a dinner or coffee or have them take me somewhere.. I think I can agree with all of that. I wouldn't want to lead any one on either. Nor would I want someone to lead me on if it was reversed.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Wed 04/14/10 07:36 PM
Aside from those who just date to put a notch in their belts... Do you think dating is only about finding a relationship? Are there other reasons for dating someone? it depends,, on who you ask and their definition I think of a DATE (when they ask would you like to do out on a date)with the traditional one-on-one romantic undertones(dinner, movies, home cooked meal) as a potential romantic prelude Ok, so the question is if it's one on one type date does that mean it necessarily has the romantic undertones? I think of a date( when they say 'it's a date') with some common activity such as sports or bowling or meeting with a group of others as just a time to meet friends It seems for a lot of people this is a key issue. If it's one person it's romantic if it's more it's not. Half my "dates" ie: one on one, dinner, movies etc, are with gay women where obviously there's no future relationship possible. There may be lots of sexual undertones (my experience gay women love to tease the straight guy, or at least they do me LOL), but it's still obviously going to be friends only. If I gave up those I really wouldn't have any dates at all and that would be boring. I much prefer one on one time rather than groups though I go out with groups as well. right,, it all depends upon the person. I would think those outings with people we ALREADY know have already defined relationship,,,those outings we go on to get to know people though are the types that I consider date material if they are one on one. Obviously, If I know someone is not attracted to me upfront, than i wouldnt consider it a date.