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Topic: Why do I always have to start the conversation?
Fade2Black's photo
Tue 05/11/10 08:12 AM

Ok, so last night I though I would back off and he messaged me first. So I think only time will tell whether or not he is indeed interested. Also, I should have said that I felt like I had to do most of the initiating, not all of it. Either way, I will continue to back down just to give him more chances to contact me to see how that goes. Not trying to play games, just trying to level the playing field. I know I am making all of this more complicated than it really is! Lol

and the saga continues... Lol



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Goofball73's photo
Tue 05/11/10 09:31 AM

Ok, so last night I though I would back off and he messaged me first. So I think only time will tell whether or not he is indeed interested. Also, I should have said that I felt like I had to do most of the initiating, not all of it. Either way, I will continue to back down just to give him more chances to contact me to see how that goes. Not trying to play games, just trying to level the playing field. I know I am making all of this more complicated than it really is! Lol

and the saga continues... Lol


May the force be with you..

jetlions's photo
Tue 05/11/10 10:06 AM
I would continue messaging him and ask if he is interested. If he is then maybe there could be more. If not then you can never have too many friends.

Goofball73's photo
Tue 05/11/10 02:59 PM
He would probably respond with, "I just want to take things slow. It's not you...it is me." laugh

danielmingle's photo
Wed 05/12/10 06:35 PM
Well he may nt want to be too forward just trying to play along nt wanting to loose d relatshp.

danielmingle's photo
Wed 05/12/10 06:39 PM
Well he may nt want to be too forward just trying to play along nt wanting to loose d relatshp.Thats d shy type

danielmingle's photo
Wed 05/12/10 06:39 PM
Well he may nt want to be too forward just trying to play along nt wanting to loose d relatshp.Thats d shy type

Cinderella75's photo
Wed 05/12/10 07:03 PM

Ok, so last night I though I would back off and he messaged me first. So I think only time will tell whether or not he is indeed interested. Also, I should have said that I felt like I had to do most of the initiating, not all of it. Either way, I will continue to back down just to give him more chances to contact me to see how that goes. Not trying to play games, just trying to level the playing field. I know I am making all of this more complicated than it really is! Lol

and the saga continues... Lol


Sounds promising!

Just keep up the good work. Let him initiate the convos for a bit.
Its not really game playing, its just how the human psyche works.
We all want what we feel we cannot have or someone who's not easily accessible becomes a lot more interesting and intriguing to us.

buttons's photo
Wed 05/12/10 07:06 PM
i would definitely back off, it should not feel like u are doing it all.. when i talk to a guy.. if i felt that way i would not anyway.. usually i cant recall who contacts who.. so its gotta be both.. cause i have felt like u before.. usually the results arent good if you do.. they may initiate a 3 word sentence if u are lucky... but it that is not your thing then dont feel badly good luck to you.. debflowerforyou

buttons's photo
Wed 05/12/10 07:07 PM
sorry i did not read all of this... lol im glad you tried it..laugh :wink: drinker

s1owhand's photo
Wed 05/12/10 07:48 PM
tell him you like it a lot when he messages you bigsmile

kemp4's photo
Wed 05/12/10 08:34 PM

Ask him straight out....Are you interested in me???? Then ask him ALL the questians you need to know the answers to....

Thats a real good start....

But when the Godfather speaks from the Jersey Shore Ya listen to him first....

Hi my old friend
aka...Mikesfunfarm


I'm new at this, but the direct approach seems to be the right thing to do.
1) It's not like you have to see each other in the hallway/work whatever every day
2)Typing messages as apposed to a spoken conversation gives one the time to contemplate/organize their thoughts. I think it's less stressful, you don't have to deal with awkward pauses. The whole system is based on pauses.
3)You find out where you stand, as Mom used to say "it's time to **** or get off the pot". (she was never accused of being a poet!)

Roco's photo
Wed 05/12/10 08:39 PM
..the dude aint going to message you

roko

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Wed 05/12/10 09:33 PM

Don't play games by not talking to him to "see what happens".

If you like chatting with him chat. If you don't don't.

Good relationships do not start out with agendas, time limits, or "let me do this and see what happens" gamesmanship.


THANK YOU!!!!!!!!:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

no photo
Wed 05/12/10 09:34 PM

tell him you like it a lot when he messages you bigsmile
nICE - YES A LITTLE HONESTY PERHAPS


AMENflowerforyou

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