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Ok. I admit it. I am.
I have been out of work for 18 mos. I'm a corporate businesswoman. I have to go down to the State Workforce Center if I am to continue on UI benefits.  For State Extended Benefits. I went. I was a couple mins late so they wouldn't let me in the orientation meeting.  But I looked in the room and it's all migrant workers and street people. Now .. before you judge me for my feeling uncomfortable you need to realize this is wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy out of my zone. I mean like galaxies. SIGH. It's not that I think I'm better, I just don't 'get' them. And I feel awkward. It's kinda like a "Fun with Dick and Jane" moment. But it wasn't fun. Just sayin .............. I HATE BEING OUT OF WORK. Just needed to vent here. 
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a lot of those people are probably not that much different than you were. except for the crack heads .... lol ... there's a lot of those in there.
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a lot of those people are probably not that much different than you were. except for the crack heads .... lol ... there's a lot of those in there. LOL No, I know the difference hon. Just not in the same 'world' perse. But it is what it is eh?
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Hummmmmmmm so is it going to effect your unemployment if they did not let you in the meeting? I have had to go to those as well. Here if you don't sign in and attend the meeting you could loose your benefits due to it is mandatory.
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a lot of those people are probably not that much different than you were. except for the crack heads .... lol ... there's a lot of those in there. oh probably i agree that some are, but when you live in a big bleeding heart metropolis like toronto, you begin to become a realist and realize that there ARE a lot of people out there unwilling to work, unwilling to better themselves, unwilling to attempt to pick themselves up off the floor and make a contribution to society, unwilling to accept a lower-paying job to attempt to make ends meet instead of demanding something for nothing (and getting it). i'm no better than anyone else either, but damned if i let the state take total care of me. kudos to you judy for admitting it. |
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lol ... yeah your right ... if i were to walk into a room full of corporate people ... i wouldn't be very comfortable. I'd be thinking to myself .. "they probably think im here to clean." lol
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It will be two years for me in July and my benefits are exhausted! Exchanging room and board for housework...talk about being out of my comfort zone...I even carried hod for 5 years just to have work....but...may be starting a new job on Monday....will find out tomorrow. It will be okay fade...just takes some getting used to.
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Difficult times call for serious action... I'm pretty sure I haven't seen a thread posting a job offering on mingle2 yet so working hours should be for employment searches IMO.
Someone dropped in just last week looking for employment... out of the blue, he handed me his resume. Totally over qualified for any position here including mine and I own the place. That being said, I hired the guy on the spot.... Told him I couldn't really afford him but he would be most welcome TO TEACH ME ANYTHING until he did find work. Friday he came in thanking me and said he found a great position in another Co. Things don't happen for a reason.... They just happen! Good luck OP  |
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Hummmmmmmm so is it going to effect your unemployment if they did not let you in the meeting? I have had to go to those as well. Here if you don't sign in and attend the meeting you could loose your benefits due to it is mandatory. I am trying to get them to reschedule me. I can't make the last group meeting which is Thursday because of my daughter's graduation. So it's an individual one or nothing. We shall see. I did tell them that I wouldn't miss my daughter's graduation for their measley money. LOL Well I didn't put it QUITE that way. ha ha |
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a lot of those people are probably not that much different than you were. except for the crack heads .... lol ... there's a lot of those in there. oh probably i agree that some are, but when you live in a big bleeding heart metropolis like toronto, you begin to become a realist and realize that there ARE a lot of people out there unwilling to work, unwilling to better themselves, unwilling to attempt to pick themselves up off the floor and make a contribution to society, unwilling to accept a lower-paying job to attempt to make ends meet instead of demanding something for nothing (and getting it). i'm no better than anyone else either, but damned if i let the state take total care of me. kudos to you judy for admitting it. Thx Lisa 
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Thx to John and Kim .. it's a different world today that's for sure
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Been there recently and thankfully am now employed with a good job, but I feel for ya!
It's NOT a fun situation to be in and unfortunately, there DO seem to be a lot of people who appear to CHOOSE to sit back and collect UI. I hated every single moment of it...hated the feeling of being without value or ability (it's BS but hard to stay away from that kind of thinking when you are so far out of your usual element)and hated the bureaucracy that hounded every single step of collecting a benefit I'd paid into they system for over many years. What's worse is to realize that the small benefit you get under UI, which originated as tax dollars, IS TAXABLE INCOME! Talk about double dipping! I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way for an outcome as nice as mine...I feel so lucky to be able to regroup, turn on my brain again and build a little self-esteem back up. By the way...check out LinkedIn on the web. I thought it was just a grown-up Facebook page but I made some genuinely good contacts through that network. |
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Let me get this straight; Your a "Corporate business woman" and you can't make it on time to your unemployment orientation meeting? So you expect to get a "one on one". You complain about the the "measley (sic) money" in unemployment comp yet you are still there trying to collect. And to top it off you are out of your zone with the poor working class people that need UI to feed their families.
Welcome to the real world. |
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a lot of those people are probably not that much different than you were. except for the crack heads .... lol ... there's a lot of those in there. oh probably i agree that some are, but when you live in a big bleeding heart metropolis like toronto, you begin to become a realist and realize that there ARE a lot of people out there unwilling to work, unwilling to better themselves, unwilling to attempt to pick themselves up off the floor and make a contribution to society, unwilling to accept a lower-paying job to attempt to make ends meet instead of demanding something for nothing (and getting it). i'm no better than anyone else either, but damned if i let the state take total care of me. kudos to you judy for admitting it.  You have good character, my friend! |
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Edited by
Fade2Black
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Tue 05/25/10 07:17 PM
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Let me get this straight; Your a "Corporate business woman" and you can't make it on time to your unemployment orientation meeting? So you expect to get a "one on one". You complain about the the "measley (sic) money" in unemployment comp yet you are still there trying to collect. And to top it off you are out of your zone with the poor working class people that need UI to feed their families. Welcome to the real world.   Ummmm is this what I could call "hate mail" I was notified of this meeting at the last minute, and have had a boatload of things on the burner. I don't EXPECT anything. THEY suggested it since I couldn't make the Thursday meeting. My daughter is graduating. ENOUGH SAID. "Still there TRYING to collect". First off I have worked ALL my life. I am not getting handouts here. And I obviously can use the UI I DO get to feed MY family. But we aren't all poor working class .. whatever the heck that is. I put MYSELF through college dude, graduating summa cum laude while raising a child I had in high school. I have stepped up to the plate for her, and for my other 4 children that I have single-handledly raised when my ex was caught doing the 4:20 thing & cheated on me. Everything I have gained I secured through my own hard work. Poor working class my a**!  My children have wanted for nothing BECAUSE of my hard work. So don't you go makin me sound like some highclass bi*atch that's full of herself. ... you don't know ****. I was just saying I felt uncomfortable with the seeming 'welfare' class that DON'T work hard for what they have. I'm done. 
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Been there recently and thankfully am now employed with a good job, but I feel for ya! It's NOT a fun situation to be in and unfortunately, there DO seem to be a lot of people who appear to CHOOSE to sit back and collect UI. I hated every single moment of it...hated the feeling of being without value or ability (it's BS but hard to stay away from that kind of thinking when you are so far out of your usual element)and hated the bureaucracy that hounded every single step of collecting a benefit I'd paid into they system for over many years. What's worse is to realize that the small benefit you get under UI, which originated as tax dollars, IS TAXABLE INCOME! Talk about double dipping! I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way for an outcome as nice as mine...I feel so lucky to be able to regroup, turn on my brain again and build a little self-esteem back up. By the way...check out LinkedIn on the web. I thought it was just a grown-up Facebook page but I made some genuinely good contacts through that network. Thanks much for your info.; I am a member of LinkedIn. Networking is always a way to go eh? And ya .. they tax the benefits. RIDICULOUS! We already paid into the system to be eligible for this! LOL |
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Let me get this straight; Your a "Corporate business woman" and you can't make it on time to your unemployment orientation meeting? So you expect to get a "one on one". You complain about the the "measley (sic) money" in unemployment comp yet you are still there trying to collect. And to top it off you are out of your zone with the poor working class people that need UI to feed their families. Welcome to the real world. Ummmm is this what I could call "hate mail" I was notified of this meeting at the last minute, and have had a boatload of things on the burner. I don't EXPECT anything. THEY suggested it since I couldn't make the Thursday meeting. My daughter is graduating. ENOUGH SAID. "Still there TRYING to collect". First off I have worked ALL my life. I am not getting handouts here. And I obviously can use the UI I DO get to feed MY family. But we aren't all poor working class .. whatever the heck that is. I put MYSELF through college dude, graduating summa cum laude while raising a child I had in high school. I have stepped up to the plate for her, and for my other 4 children that I have single-handledly raised when my ex was caught doing the 4:20 thing & cheated on me. Everything I have gained I secured through my own hard work. Poor working class my a**! My children have wanted for nothing BECAUSE of my hard work. So don't you go makin me sound like some highclass bi*atch that's full of herself. ... you don't know ****. I was just saying I felt uncomfortable with the seeming 'welfare' class that DON'T work hard for what they have. I'm done. No offense Fade, but I had to read your initial post a couple of times to NOT feel you were sounding "high and mighty". However, I do get what you are saying about what you experienced. And yeah, you were out of your comfort zone. And like someone else stated, if the roles had been a working class dude walking into a room full of corporate people, it would be the same feeling. I think Motown just felt you were acting high and mighty. I know you, and I know you weren't. Hopefully that makes sense.  In any case, all working classes are being effected by unemployment. I know a dude who has BA in business and he is unemployed. I know a dude who worked 20 years for a company as a technician and he is going back to school to begin a new career. Thing is, break down the classes....all of us are being effected. So, all of us are being put in "out of our comfort zone" (so to speak). Anyways....I lost my train of thought, so yeah.....7-11 Slurpee's are awesome.
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Many are having to step out of their comfort zones as of late. A friend of mine from another state has been out of work and then her husband lost his job..she hit the local food bank for the first time in her life and she was horrified and humiliated having to do so.
She also said she realized what a judgmental snob she had been (her words, not mine) and has open her heart up some. |
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I know how you feel, I was on unemployment for two months before i found a part time job, which i'm hoping will become full time eventually....Having two years of college didn't seem to help much in the job hunting, but it is michigan and our economy sucks right now...so i decided to join the national guard...Basic here i come...
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Ok. I admit it. I am. I have been out of work for 18 mos. I'm a corporate businesswoman. I have to go down to the State Workforce Center if I am to continue on UI benefits. For State Extended Benefits. I went. I was a couple mins late so they wouldn't let me in the orientation meeting. But I looked in the room and it's all migrant workers and street people. Now .. before you judge me for my feeling uncomfortable you need to realize this is wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy out of my zone. I mean like galaxies. SIGH. It's not that I think I'm better, I just don't 'get' them. And I feel awkward. It's kinda like a "Fun with Dick and Jane" moment. But it wasn't fun. Just sayin .............. I HATE BEING OUT OF WORK. Just needed to vent here. It's not something you're used to. It's udnerstandable you would feel uncomfortable in a situation that you've never had to be in before. If things pick up any time soon, you should be OK. I'm sure you'll find something.
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