If you are not past it, you will speak of
it often, to whomever will listen.

I can't think of anything more guaranteed
to kill the next relationship.

So yes, I think you owe it to future
possibilities to fix yourself first.
Reach a conclusion.
Do what you need to do for you.

Fly, butterfly

i stopped speaking of the hurt when i realized that everyone has their own problems to deal with and they don't need to hear about mine.

i still think about the last girl daily. and when i visit one of my friends, i'm tormented by memories of her triggered by random landmarks.

you can tell how deeply your love for someone is by how badly it hurts when they're gone from your life.

i don't think you need to be at peace, but you need to be at a place where you're able to overwrite the old memories with new ones.


. . .

There are worse things in life than being 'alone/single'.

Hooking up for the sake of quelling an ache in your heart to feel connected, wanted, needed, loved is generally not a healthy idea. If you can keep it clear between the two parties, that it is just that you can maybe get away with it for a while. It really doesn't fix the inner issue. I took dancing lessons-Tango, that was a bust for me too. It took time alone, time with others, a few dates here and there.
I went and did the things I liked, mostly alone, kayaking, geocaching, biking. Sometimes it was good....sometimes not. But I went and did them anyway.

I think you know what you want, you may just be a little skeptical that its worth the try. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. Your family knows you are still you, but they miss the extra part of you. When we have that 'someone' in our lives that makes us smile a little more, enjoy life in a differnt way, wake up smiling because that person is there, I think that part is missed is all. You are still you, just not expressing the little 'extra' you right now.



Hope that was understandable.