why do wonman go bye looks and not whats in the heart

Unfortunately, it is not just a woman thing, sweet. We tend to be visual creatures, thus the phrase, "Love at first sight." Don't give up. We are all in this together...

Not all woman do that.Sure the whole package would be great.But I personally look at what's in their heart first.

Yup. Its a human thing. It can easialy said about men, too. It is like what were they thinking. Hang in there. The right one will come along and then it won't really matter anyways.

It's not a gender thing...It's a shallow thing...Some people care more about whats on the outside than on the inside...They are not people you would want in your life anyway...Hold out for the woman that loves you for you and could care less about anything else!!!!!!!!

ANY relationship based purely on physical attraction is doomed to fail...let that be their issue...

You may assume a lot of things about me...and probably the worst would be that I'm shallow.

But you know what...have some basic common sense, the ability to spell and use grammar properly, have a goal in life...and not be a slug....and you'd have me wrapped around your little finger.

I could care less if you were purple with lime green polka dots...or Sloth's little brother...

But I do care about the caliber and quality of the man I'm going to be giving my time to. My time (as is everyone's) time is very precious to me....don't waste it.

well said

hmmmmm thats not much to ask for by finger lol

For others to see your beauty first you must see it. Confidence goes alot further then anything else, this applys to both men and women.

Question to you doc. After 15 posts how can you judge the people on this site. You hardly know most of us, I don't remember seeing any of your posts, till now.
Why no picture? Everyone knows, pictures draw more response's.
I would ask you to look inside yourself 7 ask these same questions & post your answers, so we may get to know you.

i go by whats on the inside... to me its what makes a person. some can have nice looks but not all can have a golden soul

I think women look more inside men than men look inside women,,just my thoughts..
Alot of women are good with just NOT being into drugs,drinking,abuse,cheating....

Where as men look at ALL the outside first THEN look at a womens insides,,heart soul and mind,,,but their first thoughts go to whatever their desired OUTSIDE look is matched....

There has to be an initial attraction first. If the inside does not match the outside then that attraction fades. So I guess it is some of both. I have dated some very handsome men and dumped them due to their insides.

I personally like a person for what is on the inside. I have a great outlook in life, I am confident in how I look and feel and if a guy cant see that then I just wont waist my time.

That's a good question, let me see if I can find an answer. Paging Stretch Armstrong, paging Stretch Armstrong...

there is a diffrence between being shallow and judgeing on what you put forth
what you do with yourself and how you take care of youreself says allot about you and how you live youre life
ever herd that you never get a second first impression
well youre body is youre first impression

ontop of that the heart plays a large part but there must be somekind of physical atraction for a relationship to work

I love looking at what is on the inside. Depends on how they treat women, do they give them respect, are they controlling? Or are you the type that loves to take long walks or sit on the porch and watch the sunset/sunrise? Looks are a plus but it's what is on the inside that counts.

What a great generalisation. Yep, ALL women are into looks, lots of money, expensive cars, clever witty friends, a house in the hamptons, a boat moored at the Marina.

Yep, ALL women will hurt you, run while you can...(please note the sarcasm, thinly veiled as humour)

You can decide to not be hurt, by not placing your needs onto another to fulfill, get on with being you, and being the best you, and not dependent on someone to do it for you.