There have been bad thoughts running in my mind like maybe he doesn't like me anymore, or he found someone else that he doesn't want to talk to me or contact me. I hope he's fine and doing good. It's alright if what stupid things I've been thinking are true. Just let him be okay and far from hurt and pain.

I don't know if you've ever heard of the 'No Contact' rule, but it seems to be successful. You have to be determined to win the person back, however. Way better than throwing yourself at em.

You need a intelligence service to find wdr your bf find a new gf or not......lol.....just kidding...its not mean to hurt u

i would like to try and understand what you mean? shy-emo-chick

The no contact rule means no contact with the ex. It means don't go begging your ex for another chance, cos it just makes it worse, and doesn't give them enough time to consider if they want you back.

Sometimes as much as it hurts when someone just vacates it is kinder than be dramatic good byes, being given a laundry list of why you are "wrong" (which might not apply to another person), or the really common reason people ditch others admitting theri own failings.

While I do believe in being all in on a relationship that does not mean I think it is a good idea to make a relationship so much of your essence that you feel such pain if it fades out at the boyfriend level.

That said, and I don't know about the relationship you had, but when people live together, have children with , and comingle assets with causal relationships they are really conning themself as to how vunerable they are and of course it is excruciateing . A good reason not to get in any kind of "heavy" relationship without any of the protections of marriage and a storng circle of friends, family, and independent co-workers.It is really hard not to feel like the world crashed when you are that vunerable. Having the emotional health developed so you don't feel trashed by the failure of a single relationship Sometimes that can be supplimented by faith.

Had I not had the emotional strength built up in other areas I know I would have gone completely to peices when my late husband died. And it was bad. In all honesty there are still moments; anniversaries suck and it is really hard not having a partner as I am going through Hospice with a parent. Thankfully I have other people to help.