is it true after the break up, lets say 5 or 6 months down the road, ur life is going smooth, meet someone who is twice as better than ur ex, during alot of things, going traveling,etc. y does all ex get so jealious which they are the one that broke it up in the first place?

Once I break up with my exes, we are no longer a part of each others lives, so there's no communication or anything between us. If they get jealous, I never know about it.

My ex stalked me for 3 years, and when he saw me with a new guy he bad mouth them. I think all ex find it hard to move on I guess "/

I have one ex that I NEVER hear from...until I start dating someone new. I know then that I'll get a snide text about my "next" guy or a random FB remark about it. But then he sinks back into his pit of anonymity and I don't hear from him again till I start seeing another new guy. I think he put a tracking device on me. It's the dangdest thing.

It goes back to the theory that your ex does not want you, and in most cases the ex has chosen someone else. They are happy and they want you to miss them, want them, try hard for them (even when they will deny you). It's such a game.

And then you meet someone and start seeing them. And the floodgates of jealousy open. Your ex can't stand to see you moving on without them. They are so vain in that they think that only they can make you happy. That and it hurts them that you don't need them (like they had thought you did).

Now, sometimes the person who was dumped will start to date someone just to try to make the dumper (their ex) jealous. And, I believe the reason would be to try to win the ex back. You know....to show the ex that they need them. And this is a game as well. It's a vicious cycle.

Hummm I have never had this problem maybe if the one that broke up actually gave the other one closer this would not happen...

It does not matter whom I have been with and who broke up I will go the length to get the closer I need then bid them best wishes finding the one they are seeking to make them happy....

Everyone deserves to have closer ....

I've had it happen personally with an ex that came back into my life some months ago. Big mistake. Why would you want to go backwards in life? What a terrible way to live. Wanting someone who's moved on and doesn't want you back. That's pathetic.

I believe that if your ex (the dumped) is truly happy and has moved on with a great person, there is no need for games. Why is there a need to make them jealous if its truly what they wanted? Shocker: sometimes, oh I don't know, people move the phuck on. Maybe its the person who's obsessed with them that won't let it go. The other side. Not the dumped but the dumpee. :) Maybe the one you "dumped" no longer wants you anymore. At all. Its hard sometimes for a guy OR girl to accept that and move on. Especially if it happened recently. I don't believe in vicious cycles. Maybe because I don't believe in lying and manipulating. I think the ones who believe in them ARE living a real-life game. Just IMO.

My ex lied to me and continued to lie to me even after we brought up. Leave the past where it belongs. Your ex should be happy as should you.

ok. i wanted to know y did my ex telling me that she appreciated me for all the stuff i done for her for 6 yrs after the break up. she telling me she moved on, but still calling me for wht reasons. her mother telling me that she care alot for me and praying for me. if a person said moved on that means no communications or anything. is she afraid that i will find someone better then her. is this put of jealious she going thru eventhough im not in relationship now. is this a b.s. or she playing emotions too me again trying to make me feel bad....or she wanted me back. for an ex: she back home with her mother, everytime she call me, it feel like she getting angry at me for no reason. i know for sure how she treated me, her mother is during the same to her now. y is she putting all this anger on me..y does this happen to all good man. y do good man not derserve to be treated terrible.

I would cut the ties of communication immediately. She sounds unstable and highly insecure. Sounds like you're uncomfortable with all of it, I would be too. Just kill the communication. It'll be better for both of you. Think of yourself now.

Sounds creepy... I don't have them kind of issues.

i done that, everytime she call i don't answer..but i hve a feeling that she been checking on me from facebook eventhough i cut myself of from fb.it feel like she is showing off on her fb, like going clubing, rubing guys body, writing she miss all my friend in md, contacting my male friends she how they during,etc. when will she learned to stop call..how do i tell if she stop..or looking or finding alway wht im during. i basically cut off everything from her, i hve a gut feelings someone is watching me...

The very fact you on on here moaning about it, tells me you have a side in this story your probably not sharing as well.

If not, quit worrying about it, and she will go away. Cries for attention always continue as long as they are answered. You're probably responding more than you are admitting to.

True...but some people won't accept the closure you offer. Sometimes they have to find it on their own and they just won't do it. Everyone does deserve closure...but you can only help so much before they have to find it on their own. Its unfortunate, but necessary at times.