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Topic: Advice for a friend
Ladywind7's photo
Wed 08/29/12 09:29 PM
She has met a man who is amazing & everything she wants. Kind, loving, artistic, gentle, respectful of her, does not have an issue with her christianity. They have a great connection, he is her dream man but not a christian. What would you advice?

Blaze91's photo
Wed 08/29/12 09:40 PM
unless you can get this man to become a christian i would say dont do it not worth it. if you believe in God and what he is saying.. then finding a christian man/women would be the best choice

Ladywind7's photo
Wed 08/29/12 09:43 PM
So conversion only is acceptable to God?

Blaze91's photo
Wed 08/29/12 09:47 PM
i never said that.. God is not the kinda person to judge someone for what they decide to do with their life. its not like she is going to go to hell because she is dating a non believer its just best to be with someone who has the same faith just because it would be easier for her and for him and because God wants it but he does not demand it

Ladywind7's photo
Wed 08/29/12 09:52 PM
I was not offended :-) I really want advice for her.

luvin53's photo
Wed 08/29/12 09:52 PM
GOD ask us not to judge so don't. You never know you might be the factor of him becomming a born again christan. He is a beliver, God brought him in your life for a reason.I know of married coulpes that the both are not born again. but he has helped her start to learn. I also have some friends that are muslim an christian. They have had a truly loving realionship for alot of years now. They have children an bring them up with both outlooks. So never say never when GOD is involved.

Queene123's photo
Wed 08/29/12 09:53 PM
Edited by Queene123 on Wed 08/29/12 09:55 PM
i was raised as a catholic(but then i also studied buddha)

but i have dated men that didnt have any religious values

if they dont go to church but they belive in some of the creator

i dont have a problem with it


your friend shouldnt knock him down because he not a christian
but they have a strong connection... and alot going for them
if she lets him go
she going to miss the boat


look at it this way
my grannny was a mormon and my grandfather was catholic
they were married for 64yrs...

my dad was brought up as catholic


Ladywind7's photo
Wed 08/29/12 09:59 PM
Thanks guys. She is not judging him or knocking him down. She wants to please God and is confused, that is all.flowerforyou

ShugahBee's photo
Wed 08/29/12 10:07 PM
Edited by ShugahBee on Wed 08/29/12 10:31 PM
2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be unequally
yoked together with unbelievers.
For what fellowship has righteousness
with lawlessness? And what communion
has light with darkness?”


the scripture tells us it is against
it, not because non christians
are not good people or high values morals
ect or fantastic people.

Its because being christian our center
is suposed to be revolving around
christ and christ like.Christian
and non-Christian are not immune to
temptation,if we date someone whos center
doesnt revolve around christ.

we maybe tempted to waiver more away
from our faith and christ not
have him the center of our life anymore
anymore .And if there center isnt
christ we may not have the support to
recenter ourselves if we waiver at times.

(shrugs) Just some thoughts ....
Is how someone explained it to me
long ago.


luvin53's photo
Wed 08/29/12 10:13 PM
Edited by luvin53 on Wed 08/29/12 10:17 PM
Then tell her to keep it in prayer an go with her heart. God is love no matter what regilon you are. Just look in the bible an look at Ruth. She wasn't Jewish, but followed in a strange land with her dead husbands family . Them would up marring another Jewish man.She still wasn't Jewish. So God leads us we no not where. That is where BELIEVE comes into our lives. Good luck in what ever she decieds to do. You never know what God has in store for us.WE can be christians even around non-believers. It is our chose,God gave us.

Ladywind7's photo
Wed 08/29/12 10:27 PM
Here is something to consider. She did and is praying and put out an impossible fleece. Within hours, with only this lady and God knowing the fleece, it was answered in the affirmative. Now that confuses her because the bible says dont be unequally yoked.

Totage's photo
Wed 08/29/12 10:29 PM

She has met a man who is amazing & everything she wants. Kind, loving, artistic, gentle, respectful of her, does not have an issue with her christianity. They have a great connection, he is her dream man but not a christian. What would you advice?


Well, show here where it warns of such in the Bible. I don't remember the passages, but just show her why it's not a good idea for Christians to get romantically involved with non-christians.

Ladywind7's photo
Wed 08/29/12 10:35 PM
She knows the biblical scriptures. But I think she is open to the possibility that God may have His purposes for their future. Wierd huh?

luvin53's photo
Wed 08/29/12 10:42 PM
Thats not weird that is great. How do people think some turn to christaniy.

ShugahBee's photo
Wed 08/29/12 10:46 PM
I wish i had a better answer but i dont.
but I belive God puts people in our path
for a reason,I hope what ever her
decision is I hope there always happy
and I wish them both only the best .

Ladywind7's photo
Wed 08/29/12 10:51 PM
This is a hard one for me. I personally have been really staunch in not dating non christians. IDK anymore. I know couples where one converted when dating & couples where one is an athiest and she has a huge ministry....it works for them.

Totage's photo
Wed 08/29/12 10:59 PM

She knows the biblical scriptures. But I think she is open to the possibility that God may have His purposes for their future. Wierd huh?


No, be it's an indication that she may be easily derailed from Christianity. She may be thinking with her carnal mind, and hearing things from God she wants to hear.

Totage's photo
Wed 08/29/12 11:00 PM
We do not convert people. We simply show them the path. They choose to accept or not and the Lord converts them.

Ladywind7's photo
Thu 08/30/12 12:10 AM
Some for, some against. slaphead She told me she feels she will never marry at all, because no christian men appeal to her. I get that! She has been single for years & years. We do live in a small town where the single christian men are around 0.05%.

Totage's photo
Thu 08/30/12 03:14 AM
I think the Bible is pretty clear on the subject. That should be our guide in situations like this and where we are not sure about things. Thats the whole reason it was written.

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