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Topic: I did it then possibly blew it
kelp1961 Joined Fri 08/26/11 Posts: 570	Mon 01/21/13 10:01 PM
I met a guy (from Mingle) for a bite to eat and a little conversation. I think it went well..don't know what the future holds but I did it..I searched local profiles, found one I liked emailed him and went ahead and met up after only a few days and a few email exchanges.Yay..me. Only thing that was a bit awkward was when I realized I had forgotten to ask for separate checks. I had fully expected to go dutch but didn't realize the situation until two hours had gone by and the check arrived (that's how comfortable I was and how well the conversation was going)...and I had no cash on me ..he graciously paid for both meals and the tip. Thinking of a couple different ways I could/should have handled it but I was also a little worried I might offend or give the impression I didn't want to meet up again. I am sure this has been discussed many times..none-the-less I would like some input.

Queene123 Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 17056	Mon 01/21/13 10:26 PM
next time carry some change for coffee and a few dollars so he doesnt have to fork out

kelp1961 Joined Fri 08/26/11 Posts: 570	Mon 01/21/13 10:48 PM
next time carry some change for coffee and a few dollars so he doesnt have to fork out haha...oh okay. Yea...since I didn't think of stopping for cash I should have insisted on separate checks even after it was rung up...so I could use my card to pay my share.

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Mon 01/21/13 10:50 PM
I met a guy (from Mingle) for a bite to eat and a little conversation. I think it went well..don't know what the future holds but I did it..I searched local profiles, found one I liked emailed him and went ahead and met up after only a few days and a few email exchanges.Yay..me. Only thing that was a bit awkward was when I realized I had forgotten to ask for separate checks. I had fully expected to go dutch but didn't realize the situation until two hours had gone by and the check arrived (that's how comfortable I was and how well the conversation was going)...and I had no cash on me ..he graciously paid for both meals and the tip. Thinking of a couple different ways I could/should have handled it but I was also a little worried I might offend or give the impression I didn't want to meet up again. I am sure this has been discussed many times..none-the-less I would like some input. you could email him and apologize and stuff. just my 2 cents

kelp1961 Joined Fri 08/26/11 Posts: 570	Mon 01/21/13 10:56 PM
I met a guy (from Mingle) for a bite to eat and a little conversation. I think it went well..don't know what the future holds but I did it..I searched local profiles, found one I liked emailed him and went ahead and met up after only a few days and a few email exchanges.Yay..me. Only thing that was a bit awkward was when I realized I had forgotten to ask for separate checks. I had fully expected to go dutch but didn't realize the situation until two hours had gone by and the check arrived (that's how comfortable I was and how well the conversation was going)...and I had no cash on me ..he graciously paid for both meals and the tip. Thinking of a couple different ways I could/should have handled it but I was also a little worried I might offend or give the impression I didn't want to meet up again. I am sure this has been discussed many times..none-the-less I would like some input. you could email him and apologize and stuff. just my 2 cents yep..I did and because I did enjoy his company I asked to meet again..my treat.

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Mon 01/21/13 10:58 PM
I met a guy (from Mingle) for a bite to eat and a little conversation. I think it went well..don't know what the future holds but I did it..I searched local profiles, found one I liked emailed him and went ahead and met up after only a few days and a few email exchanges.Yay..me. Only thing that was a bit awkward was when I realized I had forgotten to ask for separate checks. I had fully expected to go dutch but didn't realize the situation until two hours had gone by and the check arrived (that's how comfortable I was and how well the conversation was going)...and I had no cash on me ..he graciously paid for both meals and the tip. Thinking of a couple different ways I could/should have handled it but I was also a little worried I might offend or give the impression I didn't want to meet up again. I am sure this has been discussed many times..none-the-less I would like some input. you could email him and apologize and stuff. just my 2 cents yep..I did and because I did enjoy his company I asked to meet again..my treat. well good luck to ya and hope it goes well for the both of yall

mcmore Joined Sun 01/20/13 Posts: 1	Mon 01/21/13 11:12 PM
is not wrong to meet with difference ethnics but it's depends on the your reasons of meeting,to me i expected one to go on a good chat with someone you meet online for couples of time with that you can study the person to know him a little before meeting facially,thanks

puppymupps Joined Mon 01/21/13 Posts: 5	Tue 01/22/13 12:05 AM
I met a guy (from Mingle) for a bite to eat and a little conversation. I think it went well..don't know what the future holds but I did it..I searched local profiles, found one I liked emailed him and went ahead and met up after only a few days and a few email exchanges.Yay..me. Only thing that was a bit awkward was when I realized I had forgotten to ask for separate checks. I had fully expected to go dutch but didn't realize the situation until two hours had gone by and the check arrived (that's how comfortable I was and how well the conversation was going)...and I had no cash on me ..he graciously paid for both meals and the tip. Thinking of a couple different ways I could/should have handled it but I was also a little worried I might offend or give the impression I didn't want to meet up again. I am sure this has been discussed many times..none-the-less I would like some input. You did everything right when you emailed him to meet again and you look after the check. In my opinion, if you ask someone out for coffee etc, then it should be you that picks up the check. Good job for making the first move!

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4698	Tue 01/22/13 09:48 AM
I met a guy (from Mingle) for a bite to eat and a little conversation. I think it went well..don't know what the future holds but I did it..I searched local profiles, found one I liked emailed him and went ahead and met up after only a few days and a few email exchanges.Yay..me. Only thing that was a bit awkward was when I realized I had forgotten to ask for separate checks. I had fully expected to go dutch but didn't realize the situation until two hours had gone by and the check arrived (that's how comfortable I was and how well the conversation was going)...and I had no cash on me ..he graciously paid for both meals and the tip. Thinking of a couple different ways I could/should have handled it but I was also a little worried I might offend or give the impression I didn't want to meet up again. I am sure this has been discussed many times..none-the-less I would like some input. Really nice to hear about your date, thanks for sharing that with us and I hope all goes well for you both, he is certainly a gentleman.

teebee79 Joined Wed 11/07/12 Posts: 2179	Tue 01/22/13 06:43 PM
I met a guy (from Mingle) for a bite to eat and a little conversation. I think it went well..don't know what the future holds but I did it..I searched local profiles, found one I liked emailed him and went ahead and met up after only a few days and a few email exchanges.Yay..me. Only thing that was a bit awkward was when I realized I had forgotten to ask for separate checks. I had fully expected to go dutch but didn't realize the situation until two hours had gone by and the check arrived (that's how comfortable I was and how well the conversation was going)...and I had no cash on me ..he graciously paid for both meals and the tip. Thinking of a couple different ways I could/should have handled it but I was also a little worried I might offend or give the impression I didn't want to meet up again. I am sure this has been discussed many times..none-the-less I would like some input. we have to pay now??

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Tue 01/22/13 06:53 PM
If I ask to meet a chick, then I assume I am paying for drinks, or the meal, or all of it. My momma raised me that a man need be a gentleman and all that jazz. Mom knows best.

Bravalady Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 1034	Tue 01/22/13 06:57 PM
I met a guy (from Mingle) for a bite to eat and a little conversation. I think it went well..don't know what the future holds but I did it..I searched local profiles, found one I liked emailed him and went ahead and met up after only a few days and a few email exchanges.Yay..me. Only thing that was a bit awkward was when I realized I had forgotten to ask for separate checks. I had fully expected to go dutch but didn't realize the situation until two hours had gone by and the check arrived (that's how comfortable I was and how well the conversation was going)...and I had no cash on me ..he graciously paid for both meals and the tip. Thinking of a couple different ways I could/should have handled it but I was also a little worried I might offend or give the impression I didn't want to meet up again. I am sure this has been discussed many times..none-the-less I would like some input. you could email him and apologize and stuff. just my 2 cents yep..I did and because I did enjoy his company I asked to meet again..my treat. Sounds perfect! Good luck.

teebee79 Joined Wed 11/07/12 Posts: 2179	Tue 01/22/13 07:05 PM
If I ask to meet a chick, then I assume I am paying for drinks, or the meal, or all of it. My momma raised me that a man need be a gentleman and all that jazz. Mom knows best. My kinda man!!

teebee79 Joined Wed 11/07/12 Posts: 2179	Tue 01/22/13 07:05 PM
If I ask to meet a chick, then I assume I am paying for drinks, or the meal, or all of it. My momma raised me that a man need be a gentleman and all that jazz. Mom knows best. My kinda man!!

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Tue 01/22/13 07:19 PM
Got you so hot Teebee ya had to say it twice eh?

teebee79 Joined Wed 11/07/12 Posts: 2179	Tue 01/22/13 07:26 PM
Really did!!

Zimzane2 Joined Mon 01/14/13 Posts: 221	Tue 01/22/13 07:28 PM
How bout a picnic?

catchme_ifucan Joined Fri 11/03/06 Posts: 24221	Tue 01/22/13 07:39 PM
If you were out for a couple hours it sounds like it went well. You made the offer now it's in his court. Good luck & good for you not sitting here waiting on guys that keep viewing us & never talking.

catchme_ifucan Joined Fri 11/03/06 Posts: 24221	Tue 01/22/13 07:39 PM Edited by catchme_ifucan on Tue 01/22/13 07:40 PM
mingle stuck again

toxicpoizon Joined Sun 10/14/12 Posts: 164	Tue 01/22/13 10:28 PM
I met a guy (from Mingle) for a bite to eat and a little conversation. I think it went well..don't know what the future holds but I did it..I searched local profiles, found one I liked emailed him and went ahead and met up after only a few days and a few email exchanges.Yay..me. Only thing that was a bit awkward was when I realized I had forgotten to ask for separate checks. I had fully expected to go dutch but didn't realize the situation until two hours had gone by and the check arrived (that's how comfortable I was and how well the conversation was going)...and I had no cash on me ..he graciously paid for both meals and the tip. Thinking of a couple different ways I could/should have handled it but I was also a little worried I might offend or give the impression I didn't want to meet up again. I am sure this has been discussed many times..none-the-less I would like some input. we have to pay now?? Not with a man that has been raised to be a gentleman with every lady, not just his lady, you don't. They wouldn't think of it and you would about have to surprise them in order to pay for something first.