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Topic: rejection...
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Sun 09/15/13 12:20 PM
Edited by fruity74 on Sun 09/15/13 12:23 PM
How would you tell someone you weren't interested in them..??
Ive tried the polite approach, but it kinda falls on deaf ears.! Im tempted to scream f off but would prefer to handle it a different way if there is a different way.
Any ideas people..??

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Sun 09/15/13 12:33 PM
There is a BLOCK option...

drinker

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Sun 09/15/13 12:37 PM
"I'm not interested."

Or block, as the other poster said, if the person won't leave you alone.

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Sun 09/15/13 12:43 PM
Blocking is a good way to tell a person ur not interested

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Sun 09/15/13 12:51 PM
Sorry maybe I should of been more clear.... Its someone I work with.

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Sun 09/15/13 01:00 PM
I bet kicking him in the balls and yelling "I'm not interested" would work. If that doesn't work then maybe a restraining order would get the msg across. hahaha

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Sun 09/15/13 01:00 PM
Just tell him straight. If you do not, he will accuse you of leading him on. Which will give him an excuse to harass you. Tell the pathetic little worm what you think and be done with it.

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Sun 09/15/13 02:31 PM

Sorry maybe I should of been more clear.... Its someone I work with.


Haha, we're cyber.....

Just ignore them. When they talk to y just walk away. If they cruise by your desk, ignor them and don't acknowledge them, sometimes you gotta get snobby for them to get the hint,

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Sun 09/15/13 02:40 PM
Just tell them ya'll can be friends but nothing more..... Best to be up front so they can move on...

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Sun 09/15/13 02:43 PM
When in doubt, tell them you already have a boyfriend and as a courtesy to your relationship you would rather keep some distance...

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Sun 09/15/13 04:47 PM
good answer,,, simoedemidova............

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Sun 09/15/13 05:03 PM

Sorry maybe I should of been more clear.... Its someone I work with.

May I ask - Have you gone out with him before? Even once?

If you have and it is over, you need to be very clear that it is over. Work romances do very well when everything is fine but when problems begin or the relationship fails, then it's 5 times harder to ignore the past and move on. Often one of the 2 has to quit their job! Hopefully you can simply be very clear that the past is over.

If you have never dated him at all and are simply not interested, you need to be very direct without prettying up your words, otherwise, if you're too nice, he may still think you'll eventually give in to his "charm". Just stick to the facts. For example: "You have been asking me out over and over again. I am Not interested in anything other than a work relationship. Please STOP asking me out. It is making me feel uncomfortable." Further pursuits by this man would be a form of harrassment and your supervisor and/or HR department will need to know.

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Mon 09/16/13 08:05 AM
to texasgal3333,,,rule one,,,woman are indirect, men are direct, men don't take hints like women do , you have to be straight up and tell him not interested......heres a hint women think they can have male friends ,not.... he is looking for his chance at bat.....or he could be using you as a wing girl........

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Tue 09/17/13 11:26 AM

Sorry maybe I should of been more clear.... Its someone I work with.



Okay so being polite hasn't worked, being in a work environment its kinda hard to tell them to f off. Have you tried speaking to your boss about it? And if its your boss go to a higher authority. Do not be afraid to tell them that if it continues, that you can press sexual harassment charges. That will usually get their attention pretty quick. ...... I had a man anger push me into a corner once. He thought he was off camera, little did he know, I knew exactly where every camera was.... so everything was caught on tape.... hope you can resolve this issue. These situations really suck, and are very uncomfortable....scared

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Tue 09/17/13 11:58 AM
I agree about going to your boss about him. He needs to know this is not cool; he should accept his rejection and move on.

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Tue 09/17/13 12:53 PM

"I'm not interested."

Or block, as the other poster said, if the person won't leave you alone.


:thumbsup:

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Tue 09/17/13 01:08 PM

Sorry maybe I should of been more clear.... Its someone I work with.


Tell the guy that you don't date people you work with.

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Tue 09/17/13 01:12 PM
I would scream f off but thats just me laugh

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Tue 09/17/13 01:13 PM
Talk about some AWESOME guy that you have the hots for
{Make someone up}
And start beating them to death with him
Every time this guy gets near you
He will lose interest real quick i bet

:laughing:

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Tue 09/17/13 01:44 PM
The sexual harrassment idea is certainly legitimate, but that will cause a pretty big problem in the work place for everyone. Do it if all else fails, but I suggest a more biological approach. When he approaches you the next time, you have a variety of options: pick you nose (and pull out something), fart, belch, or smell your own armpit and ask him if you stink. Good luck. G.

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