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Hello everybody! I met a guy here last February. We talked a lot which made us fall in love with each other. Its what they call "long distance relationship". Ive tried everything I can to make this relationship worked. Trust, honesty and communication are the main keys to make it successful i think. Until, a situation changed everything. His dad who is sick of cancer is somewhat getting worse. I tried to comfort him and give him words of encouragement.Our communication suddenly slowed down. He didnt replied my messages.I have some pride in me so not hearing from him made me not message more. but it was one week when he message me that he got upset with me bec of how i acted the last time i called him. I wasnt thinking he got that feeling coz i called him to know whats going on, but i think he misunderstood it. I tried to emailed back. But days passed and I didnt heard anything from him.So I decided to be silent.but when days passed by again without hearing anything from him, icant helpmyself so i called him up.From there, he told me about how depressed he is seeing his dad suffer everyday. I tried to cheer him up. Andtold him not to let depression defeat him.
I was so worried.. How can I help him coped with his depression? I loved him.. |
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go there where he lives and give him a shoulder to cry on
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he needs u 2 b there physically.his troubled so much n needs someone 2 talk 2, smile wit n cry on.
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far from sight ... far from heart
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far from sight ... far from heart |
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i didn't get it !
will u reform the sentence ? |
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i didn't get it ! will u reform the sentence ? |
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I would say just listen and be supportive. You can't fix the situation.
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I do agree.. That doesnt mean that if youre far from sight,youre from from each others heart.. Unless you dont really love each other. Coz the longer you long for each other, the stronger the craving to be with each others arm will be...
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i didn't get it ! will u reform the sentence ? that's right in general , but feelings only can't keep a durable relationship ... you need to communicate in person , to touch , to feel the one you love .. or it will turn into a friendship relation more than love one |
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Let me just say this, watching your parent go through Cancer is an awful thing. I watched my Dad go through that in Dec of 08 and then he passed. It is heartbreaking to know that your Dad is sick and there is nothing you can do. I also got very depressed after my Dad passed and I would have flashbacks of my Dad having seizures. I finally had to go to the doctor and be put on medicine to help control my crying out bursts.
It will be 5 years in Dec since we lost my Dad and it still hurts, so it does take time to heal. I would say all you can do is be there for your boyfriend if he needs you. If he is anything like me, I just wanted people to leave me alone and let me get over it because the more I talked about, the more I hurt. You just feel helpless because the man that you love so much for so many years is going to pass away and there is not a d*mn thing you can do about it. I would actually send your boyfriend a card and let him know you are thinking about him and tell him you are there for him if he needs you. This is his grieving time and I know right now he is angry because he can't help his Dad. He needs space, so don't take it personally. Just let him know IF he wants you to call, let you know but you want to give him his special time with his Dad. Good luck and God Bless him and his Dad  Also I had a special friend that helped me through a lot of difficult times, so thank you Jim...I could not have done it without you!!
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that's right in general , but feelings only can't keep a durable relationship ... you need to communicate in person , to touch , to feel the one you love .. or it will turn into a friendship relation more than love one dats very true. every feeling whether ov affection or hatred is accompained wit actions 4 it 2 grow |
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Let me just say this, watching your parent go through Cancer is an awful thing. I watched my Dad go through that in Dec of 08 and then he passed. It is heartbreaking to know that your Dad is sick and there is nothing you can do. I also got very depressed after my Dad passed and I would have flashbacks of my Dad having seizures. I finally had to go to the doctor and be put on medicine to help control my crying out bursts. It will be 5 years in Dec since we lost my Dad and it still hurts, so it does take time to heal. I would say all you can do is be there for your boyfriend if he needs you. If he is anything like me, I just wanted people to leave me alone and let me get over it because the more I talked about, the more I hurt. You just feel helpless because the man that you love so much for so many years is going to pass away and there is not a d*mn thing you can do about it. I would actually send your boyfriend a card and let him know you are thinking about him and tell him you are there for him if he needs you. This is his grieving time and I know right now he is angry because he can't help his Dad. He needs space, so don't take it personally. Just let him know IF he wants you to call, let you know but you want to give him his special time with his Dad. Good luck and God Bless him and his Dad Also I had a special friend that helped me through a lot of difficult times, so thank you Jim...I could not have done it without you!! |
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Let me just say this, watching your parent go through Cancer is an awful thing. I watched my Dad go through that in Dec of 08 and then he passed. It is heartbreaking to know that your Dad is sick and there is nothing you can do. I also got very depressed after my Dad passed and I would have flashbacks of my Dad having seizures. I finally had to go to the doctor and be put on medicine to help control my crying out bursts. It will be 5 years in Dec since we lost my Dad and it still hurts, so it does take time to heal. I would say all you can do is be there for your boyfriend if he needs you. If he is anything like me, I just wanted people to leave me alone and let me get over it because the more I talked about, the more I hurt. You just feel helpless because the man that you love so much for so many years is going to pass away and there is not a d*mn thing you can do about it. I would actually send your boyfriend a card and let him know you are thinking about him and tell him you are there for him if he needs you. This is his grieving time and I know right now he is angry because he can't help his Dad. He needs space, so don't take it personally. Just let him know IF he wants you to call, let you know but you want to give him his special time with his Dad. Good luck and God Bless him and his Dad Also I had a special friend that helped me through a lot of difficult times, so thank you Jim...I could not have done it without you!! Hi! Sorry to hear that youve been on the same situation.. Thank you for giving me that idea.. And making me feel how he really feels.. Coz I am also about to give up.. I am trying really hard to understand his situation..but I was really on adjusting on our communication. We seldom talk now unlike the previous months, which made me feel like im not important to him anymore. But, now I was enlightened by you.. Thank you.. I will just understand him further then..And I will never leave him in this situation.. I want to be his Strength.. and Hope.. and His Future.. p.s. Its been 8 months since we met here..We havent seen each other personally yet.. :) |
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go there where he lives and give him a shoulder to cry on I wish it was that easy to do that... :( |
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