It gets you nowhere in life

Just be yourself. Don't try so hard

Yeah; what she said. Stop the pretense, be yourself, and cut the nice guy crap out. No one is nice all the time; its not normal and very suspicious.

I just try to live my life with some morals maybe I try to hard to please people

Nothing wrong with morals but you don't need to go through life trying to please people. They need to accept you as you are.

That doesn't seem to get me anywhere either

I suppose it depends on what you want in life. I don't know anything about you so I can't even guess why things aren't working for you. I just know from my own experience that since I stopped trying to please people, or trying to be something I am not; it has made me a happier person. I say live it day by day and see where life takes you.

Haha ! that stupid i think ! how cn u be perfect nice if u are really n0t ! .. haha ! excuse me but i think wer born to be true n0t just to be nice ! :) and be true to urself be proud and yeah im n0t nice but im true to myself and thats make me awesome :) smile and dnt be too stupid to pretend on something that u are really not :)

being the nice guy isnt a bad thing :)
just relax, the river does not argue when a tree blocks its path, it just finds another way around or over.

if you sacrifice your self worth and happiness to the happiness of another it dampens you and makes you feel used...no? Be nice, be yourself but dont sacrifice your happiness. Find those who make you happy and aren't demanding of your kindness...
Do not fret. Being nice is a rare and treasured thing that some women/girls do not have the privilege of receiving.
Dont try to impress anyone... confidence and gumption. Lots of both goes a long ways.

Just because you haven't found the right girl for you yet doesn't mean you need to try and be something you aren't, keep being you and sooner or later the right girl will come along and love and apreciate you for who you are have patience

Oh. You didn't mention this in your e-mail, but anyway, I don't know why, but good luck with your search. Some women love jerks, some love nice, some love a bit of both. You'll just have to see which one you want the most. If she rejects you, don't take it to heart. After all, it's not likely you'll get to know her well, if she distances herself from you. I think there's different shade's of "Nice".

You've got to find a perfect balance of being a nice guy, but no doormat and nobodys fool at the same time.

Desperately trying to "get somewhere" means you're not happy with what you got and yes, that indeed will get you nowhere.
Nothing to do with being nice or not. Try to get hold of yourself before you try to get hold of someone/something else.

being bad doesn't take you too far either. As far as girls are concerned, no matter how hard you try, they are always gonna play hard to get!!

We have to be, cos men are such numb-skulls, if we are easy to get, they move on to a girl that plays hard to get. It's the way you like it. So don't winge about it

If the only thing you have to offer is your allegedness niceness, then yeah, I guess you won't get very far. If all it took to get a guy/girl was being nice, there wouldn't be a need for dating sites...

" Being the nice guy"



Maybe the problem is your definition of "nice".

I've found that to be true; nice is such a relative term.

Wow!
I love that idea/theory.
Thank you Wonderer17.

No offence but even if you were an azzhole, I have a feeling your luck wouldn't change one bit.