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From what I get from the opening statement is the op is left wanting more after one hell of a night. Its sucks that he can't get it, it happens. I'm not saying one night stands are great but you need to take them for what they are. A memory. Attaching feelings after one night is what will cause the most heartache and keep an otherwise awesome memory in the wrong file storage in our brain.

It can also be a case of too much to fast for her. There is another person in the scenario. If she got hints that your trying to wife her after the first night she may think your a little scary. Did you blow up her phone? Sometime women need time to breath too to let things sink in. Showing how impatient a person can be may be what turned her off or frightened her away to the point she doesn't want to make any further contact.

Yeah, this.

Last time something like this happened to me I didn't get all pushy about it being a relationship, when all we had done was to exchange life stories and have a nice time together, including sex. I just put it down to a one night stand but it turned out not to be because I did hear from her again after I had given her a bit of time and hadn't hassled her.

I get what you're saying about wanting to be a nice guy and all that but I'm telling you that I've had loads of these things not working out in the past because I acted too pushy or desperate or clingy. Once you stop doing that women stop messing you around and they do come back for more if the sex was any good and if they liked you.

This^^^^

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Think you hit the nail on the head here. This is why when you get out of a relationship and your are walking wounded going out and trying to find a replacement person to attach all those feelings to usually ends up a disaster. Sad when you run off someone nice.

Weather this "rebound gal" is interested or disinterested is really her choice. Yea it seems kind of mean to me to take advantage of someone that seems to have "wounded" stamped on their forehead, maybe she was too...who knows; that she is running for cover kind of sounds that way; but you go out in the street and play when you don't have your sea legs under you the chances of falling flat on your face are pretty high.
Hitting the pavement so fast after the previous unhappy ending seems like one of life's cruelties but sometimes it takes a couple of punches before you catch on maybe you need to learn to stay down until you are "recovered".

Being unlucky in love is not terminal but it does take some soul searching more often than not to break patterns that don't work in your life.

I have had more conversations than I want to count with young guys that just wanted to find a sweetheart and treat her like a treasure and completely looked over a host of red flags that said who they were picking was going to leave them in the dust. Yea they might make something work for a while but if the person you pick is chronically not working out there are generally two areas that you have to work out. One are you really using good relationship skills and two are they. If it starts off shakey well shouldn't be surprised if the house of cards tumbles down around your ears.

Some warning signs are;

Series of unequal relationships.

Has someone consistently been dependent or extreamly dominant over the other. Someone has Daddy/Mommy issues they are not going to be a lot of fun in a relationship.

Absence of friends.

Friends are critical to a person being a well rounded human being. No one friend is going to give that balance any more than a relationship that is required to carry the whole emotional load for someone is gong to survive. Yea a mate tends to be a best friend but even then a person has to have other friends. In finding a mate you need friends to give you perspective. And get you through the very human ups and downs in a relationship.

Absence of financial Independence.

If you are "rescuing" someone from their lack of financial independence then you are becoming their banker rather than their mate. Sooner or later they are going to resent the unequal situation. Financial independence does not mean someone has to live high on the hog or has to have some uppity yuppity job it just means they can pay their fair share in a room mate situation, manage their own "needs", and get a few wants. They get where they have to be with out mooching off of others. Yea guys generally earn more and culture tends to indoctrinate guys to be the provider but if all a woman offers you is sex in exchange you are hooking up with a prostitute and you have made yourself no more than her John. That might be fun for a while but the misery comes when she dumps you for a better John or someone she actually picks because she wants them.

The Victim mentality.

Yea life kicks everybody's behind now and then but if you watch someone and they always are the victim, they always got and excuse, the world is just not fair, they would just be happy if people didn't get the upper hand on them all the time sooner or later you are going to get sick of hearing it or being shoved aside while they get everyone else's sympathy that you will be the victim. Look for some one that has the attitude that they are owning their success or failure's and learning from them. People with victim mentality seem to repeat the same failed patterns. Refuse to sign up to be the nest installment.

Looking for love in all the wrong places.

Chances are if someone is looking for love in a bar, on the job, or church, or expecting their family or friends to deliver it up they have little consideration of the purpose of what the place or people are all about. Get real you can find love interests in those places but if their attention span is that of a nat and they are zeroing in on you than being where they are at they are not probably demonstrate any more commitment to you. Groupies don't make real good relationships.

Believing in Love at first site with none of the follow up with a willing effort.

Yea I think there is a special element that does or does not exist when ever we are looking for "The One". If it doesn't well toss in your chips and move on. You are beating yourself up trying to make something fly that just didn't and never will work. Lot of interactions might seem like they have "the magic" at first blush but if the person starts backing up or flat out hiding they are doing you a favor not forcing something. Good relationships take a willing effort. It doesn't have to be forced out of them, begged for, or even really worked for most times. Don't mistake this as permission to not reciprocate; even appreciate, a relationship but it should not seem like you are having to chase them down or that keeping it going is a one sided grind.

They don't like you.

This sounds silly but more screwed up relationships start when someone try to make someone like them. Maybe it is the habit in your relationship history and it just seems familiar no big deal but if someone doesn't like you it is not going to get better. It might become less obvious and they resent you in passive aggressive ways but the double dog guarantee applies here if someone doesn't like you and is trying to "improve" you it is never going to get better and more than likely a whole lot worse before one or both of you are going to throw in the towel. And that is not always a personal shot to rake yourself over the coals for; imagine how screwed up relationships would be if we all liked everybody? Preferences are what help bond people; like won't keep you together but it sure makes the day to day easier and allows the love to thrive.

They say they love you instantly.

Anybody who tells you this is lying through their teeth. Even parents don't love their offspring without a period of bonding. Love takes time to discover each other. Love that is strong enough to withstand living together, parenting kids together, sharing money, getting through hardships has to be built on a foundation of something good and cultivated with some time. Anyone that is trying to confuse the need for sex with love is blowing smoke in your ear. Yea you can begin to love someone and sex sounds like a great idea, humans have the unique desire to enjoy romance and media has sold the idea that means sex and lots of it but if you don't get your cart before the horses you allow love to truly get rooted then not only is the sex way better your relationship doesn't have to wonder if it was just the sexual relief. Not a fun feeling weather you are a guy or a gal. I have seen more miserable couples because they got the sex and got way in over their "conditioning" that good gals/guys don't shop the pooty and pass, sometimes but not always an unplanned pregnancy, and spent miserable year after miserable year trying to make "instant love" work.

and just who do you think you are to come on here and grade people. If "getting over it " is fine for you then do that (starting with getting over yourself maybe? lol) just messing with ya there, but seriously we're adults here. we don't need grades from you.

in my observaton, men hit and quit more often than women do. either way, it's wrong. testing others is immature blahshyte

and yes there are some PEOPLE out there who could have a permanent set of horns....totally agree.

Wow I am sorry to say this but the women seem worse then the men on here. The women are like, MAN UP IT WAS JUST A ONE NIGHT STAND AND GET OVER IT. REALLY? I AM SHOCKED THAT WOMEN WOULD EVEN SAY THAT! Am I the strange one here or are he other women? I guess maybe its because I have never done the one night stand thing and I don't know if I could, I would think the women would be thinking this man is a sweetie.
If the table was turned and he was a woman and a man dumped her after saying that he wanted more..I think the women would be saying OMG DO YOU REALLY WANT AN ARSE LIKE THAT IN YOUR LIFE!! I guess that just goes to show you that their really is a double standard still going on out there!!

Okay I think its time for a dose of brutal honesty from the High Priestess of the Universal life church of brutal truth and honesty.

That would be me.

This is going to be hard for a lot of men to take and they will all probably think it does not apply to them. But...

Did you give her mind blowing sex? Do you know what you are doing in the sack? Did you know that most encounters that women have are a huge disappointment? Do you have a clue how many women fake orgasms? Most men are clueless on how to please a woman. The ones who do, KNOW THEY ARE GOOD. If you don't KNOW YOU ARE GOOD, and I mean KNOW it, then you probably are not.

Women do get horny, and that's a fact. How frustrating do you think it is for a woman who is horny to bed a guy who only frustrates her more? Why do you think women buy vibrators? Because most of them end up having to please themselves.

If a woman is only wanting sex, and the sex is not good, she ain't coming back. On the other hand if you take the time to develop a relationship, she might have more patience and teach you a few things.

This post is for all men.

Okay I think its time for a dose of brutal honesty from the High Priestess of the Universal life church of brutal truth and honesty.

That would be me.

This is going to be hard for a lot of men to take and they will all probably think it does not apply to them. But...

Did you give her mind blowing sex? Do you know what you are doing in the sack? Did you know that most encounters that women have are a huge disappointment? Do you have a clue how many women fake orgasms? Most men are clueless on how to please a woman. The ones who do, KNOW THEY ARE GOOD. If you don't KNOW YOU ARE GOOD, and I mean KNOW it, then you probably are not.

Women do get horny, and that's a fact. How frustrating do you think it is for a woman who is horny to bed a guy who only frustrates her more? Why do you think women buy vibrators? Because most of them end up having to please themselves.

If a woman is only wanting sex, and the sex is not good, she ain't coming back. On the other hand if you take the time to develop a relationship, she might have more patience and teach you a few things.

This post is for all men.

Also, and this is a "no brainer" if you are not good with one night stands then don't have sex with a woman on the first date!

I don't care how many life stories you swap. That does not take the place of building a relationship.

Okay I think its time for a dose of brutal honesty from the High Priestess of the Universal life church of brutal truth and honesty.

That would be me.

This is going to be hard for a lot of men to take and they will all probably think it does not apply to them. But...

Did you give her mind blowing sex? Do you know what you are doing in the sack? Did you know that most encounters that women have are a huge disappointment? Do you have a clue how many women fake orgasms? Most men are clueless on how to please a woman. The ones who do, KNOW THEY ARE GOOD. If you don't KNOW YOU ARE GOOD, and I mean KNOW it, then you probably are not.

Women do get horny, and that's a fact. How frustrating do you think it is for a woman who is horny to bed a guy who only frustrates her more? Why do you think women buy vibrators? Because most of them end up having to please themselves.

If a woman is only wanting sex, and the sex is not good, she ain't coming back. On the other hand if you take the time to develop a relationship, she might have more patience and teach you a few things.

This post is for all men.

I didn't want to add it on the plate in the first place.... But AMEN!

Why women use vibrators? Hm because it takes too much time for them to explain what they like to their partners? ;) I know.. I know... It's easier to change batteries than diapers... Hehehe

No, seriously... Again, not only men suck in bed... Some ladies too.. I mean, I come back again to same point that men
should lead in the bed, if not agreed otherwise..

But,.seriously, reenact the Blair witch project logo in bed and they call that "sex"? Hehehe on Sundaya only after the church.. Hehehe

wait.. what..

I know...I know...


#Horns