I was at work today, spoke to some guy I've never met before for about a minute and another member of staff mentioned about how he was asking about me and if I was single. He then left his number on a little scrap of paper saying to this member of staff "I really like her".

What are your opinions on people (men or women) leaving their number when they don't actually know you? What's the likelihood of him doing that in pretty much every place he goes? He knows where I work, so it's not like I'm hard to find if he wants to get to know me...

Probably doesn't want to bother you at work.

I doubt he does it every place he goes, probably shy, hence why he told a coworker he liked you and didn't tell you. I guess you can take the risk and find out, or you can just ignore the attempt.

I'm really particular about who I give my number to so it makes me uncomfortable messaging someone I don't actually know. Most people in work don't even have my number!

He obviously knows where I work now, so he can just turn up at any time if he does want to pursue it, I'm just not really sure what to make of the whole number thing. It's all very new to me.

Thank you for your feedback :D

You can block your number for added security, another thing you could do is the next time he comes in gauge his interest by asking when a good time to call would be.

I was selective in who I gave my number to...But it isn't uncommon for a guy who happens to be interested in an attractive young lady to give out his number. So, while it may be new to you, the concept isn't entirely new at all.

Hey...Can't be any stranger than having this conversation with an Anarchist A that has an odd cannibal fixation.

Best of luck.

Maybe I should lead with that question: "Do you have an odd cannibal fixation?" before he even gets chance to talk of anything else... haha.

I know it's not uncommon in general. Oh, I don't know what to think... I'll sleep on it and see how I feel about it tomorrow. I was trying to convince myself that it isn't any different to talking to someone online but I was talking to my stepdad about it and he was saying that if he's really interested, he'll be back for food or a drink again another day to make it clear he's interested.

Your stepdad is onto something there...Personally, the guy would be dumb not to go back and make it clear.

I'd sit on it until you feel comfortable...Nothing worse than being uncomfortable.

Thanks, Fear. I expect it must be hard for a guy to pluck up the courage to do something like that, but I can't help feeling a little at odds with the fact I don't actually know him. If he's genuine, maybe he will be back and I can actually gauge interest then. I feel better about it now. :D

It is a risk that many men take everyday with ladies they do not know, he should though understand the thoughts and doubts you have...And if he is really interested, he would at least give it another attempt.

Which it sounds like he probably will, and you can have your say then, bring up the concerns...Gauge his response, see if your comfort is of the utmost concern to him.

@Fear: Nothing stranger than blokes though... some can be pretty darn fickle. We shall see. It sounds like he's local anyway as he made reference to another pub not far from mine he'd been in.

@klc: Thanks for the suggestion. I expect he'll have something to say, if only to find out if I ever got the number... unless his male pride is wounded. I'm in no rush as such to start anything though, given I don't have much time available as it is. I'm not particularly appealing in the dating stakes, due to be super busy. *sigh*

No ground I can cover others above me have not done so already, but it does sound like he has an interest and is just taking a shot. It can be a bit unnerving sometimes to see someone attractive and only have a few moments to make a decision and just go for it. As said before, if he is serious and truly interested, he'll be back.

More importantly though, if you DO ask the question "Do you have an odd cannibal fixation?", and he responds very over enthusiastically "Why yes!... Yes I do!!"

What then?

I think I may have to have an imaginary boyfriend... some big, burly bloke that doesn't take kindly guys thinking about eating me. I wonder if the doorman would agree to pretend... :O

Well, he didn't ask you for your number he gave you his right? That leaves things open for you to call when your comfortable (not to mention able to call him from ANY phone that doesn't have to be yours). Yes he is shy, and probably didn't want to lose his chance so he asked someone you work with about you and instead of making it an awkward moment it was turned into a subtle one.
I am curious as to how you would of handled it if he approached you then and there in person though.

If he did not he would be out of his mind. There are dozens of others who would jump at the chance.

I have no idea, Tyler. It is an interesting question. I think it would have depended on if I'd had more time to talk to him. What's probably got my back up is he's made a judgement based on what I look like. From asking about football and where he can view the screens to watch the match, he jumped to "what do you do other than work here?" which makes me feel like I'd have been uninteresting if I'd said I just work there. So I guess it really depends on where the conversation would have gone.

If he'd left it at that but given me his number, I'd have probably gone bright red, said thanks, tucked it in my apron and disappeared.

I've had guys ask me out before and I can be pretty blunt when startled though, so I really don't know if that's actually how I'd have reacted. Or if I'd just have said: "Not sure how comfortable I feel with that one, since I don't know you" before scuttling off...

Thanks, kartagane. I don't think that would work so well though since most the lads that I work with are about 10 years younger. I'd get myself a right name! haha. The doorman I was thinking of is only a 3 years younger but we look about the same age. Or I could say the older doorman is my protective dad, as I reckon he'd agree to that. :D

Hey, incredible women are not falling out of the sky everyday, they should be so lucky... they could use some beauty and class brought into their lives! Even if it was only for pretend for a little while.

You smooth talker, you ;)

Not I, said the owl.

It was you all along, wasn't it? You killed him! Darn your silver tongue!

I did not do it!
He was dead when I got there!
The check is in the mail!
I swear I won't filch no more apples from old man Higgens orchards!
*sobs*

And hey, this tongue can work miracles! That is how it became silver in the first place!