Hi all! I feel like a total dork posting this. Lol. I new to dating in person and online after almost 10 years. Anyway, back when I dated I never put out right away as I was brought up very Christian. Don't get me wrong I Love sex but I like to be committed and monogomus. Anyway after meeting a few people online and at bars, I see that its super normal to bare all and act like a male or female whore to get attention. Please tell me this isn't always the case? What do you expect from a first meeting/date these days? Male and female responses greatly appreciated. :)

I don't think there should be rule's, just boundaries. All of my relationship's, started out as friends first. I don't ever expect much from a first date. I take it as it come's. I'm not one of these "Yes" people who will just go along with anything and everything, so I like to state clearly what I look for. I like to build a bond first.

Thanks Shy! That's kind of what I thought. Apparently I'm just attracting the wring types. I'm going for the slow lets be friends route and see where things go and the guys are just awful. Seems no respect for women or themselvesfor that mmatter :/

No rules its always the ladies choice.For myself I'm not in a big hurry to jump in the sack because sometimes people are not who they seem to be down the road.Its best to error on caution until you really discover who they are. JMO

WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US----SET YOUR STANDARDS HIGH AND ALWAYS REMEMBER YOU ARE THE PRIZE----: PS READ THE BOOK - ACT LIKE A LADY,THINK LIKE A MAN - GOOD LUCK --

The idea that you teach people how to treat you is pretty much on the money.

There are gentlemen out there. They are watching all the time for someone nice; just as you have to be. Example if you go into a cafe for lunch where there are men I guarantee you someone will notice you if you are knock dead beautiful or rather plain. If you bury your eyes in the menu, newspaper, your work, and never make eye contact, rarely smile in any conversation weather it is with the people you walk by, wait staff, or a companion their interest will wilt. You have to use good table manners weather you are with a date or not. I can't tell you the number of quality men who complain that is such a turn off. How you treat companions when you are being watched is also a biggy. Do you interrrupt, accept phone calls, dictate what you want to a waiter, take home a doggy bag, put on make up at the table, fuss over the bill, forget thank yous? All things that are no no's. You can carry this over to almost any setting that men are in.

Going where the men you want to date are is going to up your chances. Most women can and should make an effort to exercise, shop, dine out, attend activities, even worship in and area where the kind of men they want to date are. If you are going to your small town grandma's church and the last single guy to walk through the door was a dottering uncle do you think your chances are good of meeting anyone? You may actually have go to a larger church as a visitor, some regional, or national events to meet like minded age appropriate people. Maybe actually show up and have a fun attitude at special "mission" work days. Can't tell you the number of great Christian guys who I have seen go gaga over a muddy sweaty smiling/laughing gal at a Habitat for humanity site.

How, when, and where you present yourself has a lot to do with it. It can be a little thing that will make or break a guys interest.

Christian guys breeze through Mingle everyday of the week. Some will post in the religious threads but they are men and are going to go in other interest threads too. Can you tell a good clean joke or add a breif prayer of comfort in the Best Wishes forums? Do you list your faith preference or even put a faith symbol on any of your garments or jewelry? You don't have to beat people up with your Bible but if you clearly have a photo of you at a church picnic in your Sunday best or a church logo on a t-shirt it gets the point across. Christian guys like the form of a woman as much as the next but they can be really strict about the least amount of cleveage peeking out of your blouse for the whole world wide web to see. Especially if you use a photo that cuts off your pretty face or your brain. Sorry it sounds critical but it is the subtle suggestions that make guys who have just as many choices in this venue to say next as you do.

And yes going into a bar or meeting full fledged members of the Frog Prince(es) Association is something Christians do but bringing it up in a whine is self defeating to attracting what you want. Did you like it when your friends said something obnoxious your siblings did? Good guys are not going to listen to you drone on about how this or that jerk was "unforgiveable". Which less face it we all are sometimes regardless of gender.

Hope this is food for thought. I wish you happiness and better luck. Be glad to dance at your wedding You are a nice person it appears and I see that in your future.

I don't really know what the rules are. I just know that I'm looking for someone that's fun to be with. Probably things have changed quite a bit because I don't really know anybody that did the old fashioned courting thing that my parents did back in their day. Well, my brother in law asked my father for my sister's hand in marriage and they were married by a minister but some people do all sorts of things just to keep their parents happy.

yeah thats right, some of the guys here befriend you then put statements that will lead you to you know, even though i stated in my profile that im only looking for friendship...

a million thumbs up!! :D

u seems a nice lady.. Jz b urself, don't put urself low.. Set standard n b hard 2 get.. Let them know u worth kindda lady.. Gd luck!

u seems a nice lady.. Jz b urself, don't put urself low.. Set standard n b hard 2 get.. Let them know u worth kindda lady.. Gd luck!