I have been single for more than 8months now after breaking up with my baby daddy and losing my baby after birth.a few months ago my first love came back into my life.he claims that he still loves me and i feel something for him too.the problem is he used to be a chronic womanizer.he now claims that he has changed but i find it hard to believe it.he also has a bad temper and when he is mad he becomes rude and abusive.am torn between what i feel for him and what i should do.do i give him a chance or should i run for the hills because am afraid of being hurt?please help

Only you know what you'll do eventually, but I think that if you do get back with him, you're setting yourself up for a fall and end up doubly hurt also!

NO NO NO!
Put you first! I think there is someone better for you out there. Take some time for YOU. Ive been in your shoes in more ways than one. I'll just go a head and say... don't risk doing that to your self! Your a beautiful woman and deserve better. Stay away from the known abuser!!! Stick around here at mingle and see who pops into your life! Have fun and enjoy a
healthy life!

Good advice

Run for the hills Hun, you deserve better

Larsson does have good advice, but on the ther hand people really do and can change given time and the right influence in their life.Try asking mutual friends if he's really changed, decide for yourself if he's worth a second chance, but never base your decision on the opinions of thers.

when your feeling is in conflict with
your wish, feeling will be the victor.

Yes people can change! People are ever changing! Change for the better and changing for worse. OP could you ever be happy with someone who abused you before? Or would you always be wondering? What's his breaking point? Will he change back to his old ways. Being someone who has been in an abusive relationship, I say don't risk it. You will always be wondering. Living in fear is no way to live! Plus those types of behaviors aren't easily changed. Has he been to counceling? Therapy? I bet not. I can't tell you what to do but if I could.... He says he has changed then forgive him and move on. You deserve to LIVE LAUGH and LOVE!

he will probably always be a womanizer. those types always say it will be different if you take them back. so do abusers. that is AWLAYS what they say. it's classic.

he may want to change but unless you have evidence that he has changed he probably hasn't changed much. a man who is sincere will wait and allow a friendship to develop over time before anything else. that will give you time to see these supposed "changes."

what I don;t get is how anyone would have feelings for someone like that

thank you.It means alot