How much do you think money/debt factors into relationships? When should prospective partners expect you to be in or out of money concerns?

Too bad that Anna Nicole Smith isn't around to answer this question.

I would like my partner to be honest to me about being in debt. I have already run into two men that I became involved with and just failed to tell me they were in debt. I later learned they were in debt.

What if you are addicted to going to the gym?

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I did go 4 times a week before my injury, when I am able to go back, I have alot of catching up to do.

One time I was late in paying my membership. Would that be a problem?

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I went to the gym 4 times a week, I was late for a payment once.

I don't do porn, KFC! You are a bad girl but you won't p me off. How did you come up with porn? Guilty conscious? KFC's like porno, I bet you like threesome's and don't want to admit it.

Please ya all back on topic.

Yea I ran into this once the guy was desperate to get married because the IRS was closing in; going to take every dang thing he had. Thankfully his own kid actually gave me the heads up. Hurt I was still able to call him on the carpet. He lied and was a real jerk about it so I gave him back the engagement ring (very publicly so the finance company didn't hassle me ) and I am not real sure how his life went but I moved on.

What knocks me out now is the number of guys who start out a conversation wanting to know what my credit score is. That sounds like a reasonable request after getting some of the other basics out on the table but before a casual date? Nah I don't think so.

honestly and I know how naive this sounds.. but in my entire married life.. I never once asked to see. are know about my wifes paycheck.. I didn't even know she got paid really..lol..

right I think finances should be kept separate, I agree w/ what KLC said. I have my own expenses and would not be interested in a relationship that jeopardized my ability to meet those.

I agree with both of you on this.

Well if that worked for you all I don't know if that is naive or just not trying to fix what was not broke.

I remember being horrified when when my late husband came home soon after we were married just before he was going to make a serious deployment and announced he had gone to payroll and had his entire payroll put on automatic deposit to my personal account. An account his name was not on so he could not get a dime out even if he wanted to. I thought OMG if he gets killed his parents would freak. Then he told me it was his Mom's idea. She knew I was the better money manager and he agreed.

Only thing He did fuss about was my paycheck being spent on anything for him. Said he would never be a kept man.

He started a college fund and paying hospital bills for my kids before he even had the right to to adopt them. Never was any child support. He did make the EX pay to have an attorney to relinquish his rights and the kids to have an attorney to represent them in the relinquishment but he paid every dime of the considerable adoption expenses where he could have just left them with one parent. Thank God he didn't because he died when they were still teenagers and they were well provided for. Meant a lot to my kids to carry his name.

I tend to agree with that. I don't know how realistic that is in the real world of re-marriage because how some of the marriage penalties work but I would see where it would prevent stress at times. I could never see trying to balance an account two people were spending money out of. Hard enough for me to keep up with mine. Can't tell you the kind of crazy all these rebates and so on mess me up when it says I have money I don't think I am suppose to have. lol I am tearing my hair out trying to figure out if I underpaid someone.

Good question OP.

In my opinion priority between relations and money varies over a wide range from person to person & this variation too is rapidly increasing as world is moving too fast.

Some people literally forget the ultimate goal of earning the money,they even don't hesitate to earn money by risking their own lives sometimes.

The meanings of relationship and family too are changed too much...now even mother & father who gave us this life too are not considered as part of family & worth of spending our earning over them.

Materialism is dominating morality.

In my opinion,to be fare one should at max. concern about financial status while entering into the relationship but latter if things changes financially,every one must support each other,that's the humanity & that makes sense of true love.

Does someone have money on their mind, money on their mind?

I'm not really interested in how much a guy earns. If we're getting along fine, then money is the last thing I'd look for in a guy.

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If he can't pay his own way, and wants to use me as a meal ticket ..he is out. I have come across this a few times so money matters in a small way. Not expecting him to be rich ,just able to support himself just like I expect that of myself.