wtf what makes younger men so afraid to committ to a woman long term seriousy i think ill be a lesbian soon cause at least i understand women i am looking for long term im not saying marry me im saying date me give me a chance but nobody does on this site they all want is sex or one night stand or fwbs im not in to that crapp so unless you want long term relationship go away and dont comment or message me

The fact that you can't get a date doesn't mean that young men are afraid of commitment.
It only means that you have yet to meet a man who is interested in you.

Don't worry, some men are out there who don't follow suit. I know I'm one. Sex, or fwbs or even 1 night stands are the LAST thing I want. 29 years old, and yet to find that special woman who I can cherish and love, providing there is a connection.

I hope that one day, you'll find that man. =)

warning: generalities about to be served...

we think differently, it's that simple. young guys are not opposed to a committed relationship, but we, (as gender)(as a rule) don't sit around and wish for it either. things have to work there way into it for it to happen.

while young girls are thinking about their futures, planing their weddings, deciding how many children they wish to have..ect, guys are wondering where their buddies want to party, (hang out) that night. they are thinking about cars, sports, girls, sex, taco bell 4th meals and the like...

we think about today for the most part, because we are all invincible and there is plenty of time for the future, later.

we just do not look at things the same way or at the same speed. the old saying that women mature quicker than men is spot on. that's why we hear it all of our lives, because it is true. it's not something a guy made up to excuse his behavior.

hiii i will be with you and make you happy

^^^ As soon as he moves to the USA.

Good question. Lesbianism makes sense. You understand them; They understand you. Last night a 21 year old co-worker explained the difference in girl drama and boy drama to me. Girls communicate and don't hold anything back which can escalate because neither gives in. Boy drama the two just punch each other in the face and the problem resolves much quicker. You are right; Marriage doesn't have to be long term. And friendships don't have to have benefits. Friendships can stand on their on weight. You don't have to have sex with someone to be their friend. Working at a long term care facility I can understand the fear of commitment. Parents who have taken care of their children are terrorized when they have been left at a place by their children who they trusted. The children bring their children to go visit their parents and then leave. Like marriage or long term commitments you think you know this person then all of a sudden they change into someone you don't even know like some Dr. Jeckyl - Mr. Hyde thing. And then are left wondering what happened to this person I used to think I knew.

TBL...you've only been on the site for 3 days...ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!??? Don't be in such a hurry, don't put yourself across as being so desperate. Get involved in the forums more...get to know people...let people get to know you.

.. afraid to commit to you!!are to all women..?.
..hmm.. thinking thinking...hmm.
.. walking out of the room slowly closing door behind me.. ..

Why are "men" so afraid of commitment?

Commitment implies responsibilities and loyalty.

Men of any age know their basic role is to lead and take care of their own.

In today's economy both genders have to work and/or contribute financially to the relationship so both can comfortably afford the high cost of our daily living expenses as well as any luxuries we like to pamper ourselves with.

So often a lot of men (and women) are just getting by on their own incomes, and men don't have money left over to woo a woman or care for her in the way she may prefer or be accustomed.

Then there's men who are settled enough to afford what they like and want, but are cautious about the women they choose to share their time and money with.

Then there's love and all that implies...

But in order to find love people have to be satisfied with what the other brings to the relationship first, so there aren't constant fights over who pays for what, or who isn't doing their fair share and making the other feel used or taken advantage of.

When men of any age feel secure with the woman they're attracted too, and not put under pressure to perform beyond their limits, or a woman's possibly unrealistic expectations will they even consider
trading their single status for taken.

And of course getting to this point takes time and patience for both genders if we don't want to rapidly go from one experience to the next looking for the perfect fit.

I am not sure their is man's fear of commitment to a woman, but more of a caution to make sure it is the right woman for them and it must be the same for women. Ignoring all those people who are only looking for casual relationships, how long does it take before anyone decides the person they are dating is right for them? One person might decide in a matter of months, where another person could take over a year, before they feel they can commit themselves to something permanent like living together or marriage . If you are in a loving dating relationship with someone commitment will come when both are ready and for one to push the other in to it could result in a breakup in my opinion. Where is the rush if you are dating, patience is a virtue.
I would add, that if you have been dating for a few months there is no harm in asking your partner where they think the relationship is going, communication is important in any relationship without being pushy.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.