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Topic: Burnt Bridges...
teebee79's photo
Wed 05/07/14 04:08 PM
Are burnt bridges repairable? So, far any bridge I've burned...I made Sure the ground was cemented as well...I don't go back. What do you think? Do you feel bridges were meant to be fixed?

no1phD's photo
Wed 05/07/14 04:14 PM
.. I burn bridges" to light my way..laugh .hi.u.
:wink: .ps.. I don't go to all that trouble. you know getting the gas. pouring it all over the bridge.. picking up hot dogs and marshmallows..
. for nothing you know..laugh .

TawtStrat's photo
Wed 05/07/14 04:59 PM
Yes, I believe that it's possible. Talked about it plenty of times before but I have been able to rebuild a friendship that I had with an ex after cutting her out of my life for five years.

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Wed 05/07/14 05:03 PM

Are burnt bridges repairable? So, far any bridge I've burned...I made Sure the ground was cemented as well...I don't go back. What do you think? Do you feel bridges were meant to be fixed?


I think it depends on the circumstances.
I have burned a few that will never be repaired because of the actions of the other person involved and the damage they caused me over many years. Their intentional pain to me over those years (roughly 10 years of this) makes repairing very difficult.
I really do not like burning bridges, I prefer repairing them whenever possible. Misunderstandings can be solved if both parties agree to discuss the problem.

jacktrades's photo
Wed 05/07/14 05:22 PM
Edited by jacktrades on Wed 05/07/14 05:24 PM
Usually I leave them boarded up just like yourself however, just yesterday I made peace with someone with who I had a 20 year grudge with. It feels better knowing I buried the Hatchet and I am proud of myself by realizing that age brings wisdom,but I admit when I think of the reason for the grudge I get mad all over again. I think its best to let sleeping dogs lay.

pkh's photo
Wed 05/07/14 06:00 PM
I think it depends on the situation. Some are just not repairable, but if the reason for breaking up to you is worth fixing and worth another chance I say yes

dreamerana's photo
Wed 05/07/14 06:10 PM
It depends on the context of the question. It depends on what you hope to accomplish. It also depends on how you would feel if the opportunity to mend fences was taken away.
A person who I knew since high school and used to be my friend passed away this new year's. There had been at least a year of estrangement between her and me. Now I wonder if it really wasn't fixable.

motowndowntown's photo
Wed 05/07/14 06:11 PM
If I burned it, there was a *($# good reason why.

I ain't gonna go to the trouble of building it up again just to end up
wanting to burn it down a second time.

regularfeller's photo
Wed 05/07/14 06:19 PM
if you can repair a burnt bridge, you didn't do it right!

bridges sometimes must be burnt to ensure that you cannot return to the "wrong side of the river" if you were ever tempted to do so.

if someone offended, hurt, or demeaned you to the point that you wanted to sever all ties with extreme prejudice, why would you later want to be able to easily reestablish relationship with them?

just shout, "I forgive you" across the water, if you become so inclined, and leave them to themselves.

if you are that overcome with desire to hug it out, you can always swim or buy a boat!

:banana: the bridge! the bridge! the bridge is on fire!

Dodo_David's photo
Wed 05/07/14 07:06 PM

Are burnt bridges repairable? So, far any bridge I've burned...I made Sure the ground was cemented as well...I don't go back. What do you think? Do you feel bridges were meant to be fixed?


Are you referring to that bridge under construction in California that was damaged when its wooden support structure caught fire?

no photo
Wed 05/07/14 07:37 PM

Are burnt bridges repairable? So, far any bridge I've burned...I made Sure the ground was cemented as well...I don't go back. What do you think? Do you feel bridges were meant to be fixed?


well I try not to burn them but a few have ignited anyway...not many - maybe one or two.

If both people are open to that I think they are repairable. I can think of one or two that I would like to repair and another where I would not even consider it. so it depends on the feelings of those involved

TawtStrat's photo
Wed 05/07/14 07:37 PM
I had good reasons for burning the bridges with my ex and good reasons for rebuilding them. Don't want to keep boring everyone with that but suffice it to say that I couldn't just go from being lovers to just being friends and it took me a long time before it felt right to talk to her again. Whatever she did to me back then is history and water under the bridge. That was when she was my girlfriend and she isn't my girlfriend now and that means that I don't have to put up with anything from her that I don't want to and vice versa. Quite apart from the fact that we have both changed, it's been a matter of redefining a relationship and there being a different set of boundaries. I've tried to do this with other people that are close to me that I've had problems with and what it does take is talking things through without holding onto the anger. My brother still bears grudges about things that I did over twenty years ago that I've apologised for many times. Twenty f**king years. I was just a kid and I like to think that I've grown up a bit since then and he can as well.

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Wed 05/07/14 07:40 PM

I think it depends on the situation. Some are just not repairable, but if the reason for breaking up to you is worth fixing and worth another chance I say yes
:thumbsup: waving well said :)

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Wed 05/07/14 08:02 PM
In one situation, I got really jealous of an ex spending more time at University. It just seemed like he'd left me behind. We went to the same school, so you can only imagine how close we were with each other. If you know of any classic tv duo, well, I felt like I was in one. So it felt so strange, when he was hardly there anymore. Long story short, two years later, we got close again. So all was not lost. I think I was the one who needed a good kicking at the time. ohwell

no photo
Wed 05/07/14 08:05 PM

In one situation, I got really jealous of an ex spending more time at University. It just seemed like he'd left me behind. We went to the same school, so you can only imagine how close we were with each other. If you know of any classic tv duo, well, I felt like I was in one. So it felt so strange, when he was hardly there anymore. Long story short, two years later, we got close again. So all was not lost. I think I was the one who needed a good kicking at the time. ohwell


I think your honesty is really touching!:thumbsup:

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Wed 05/07/14 08:24 PM


In one situation, I got really jealous of an ex spending more time at University. It just seemed like he'd left me behind. We went to the same school, so you can only imagine how close we were with each other. If you know of any classic tv duo, well, I felt like I was in one. So it felt so strange, when he was hardly there anymore. Long story short, two years later, we got close again. So all was not lost. I think I was the one who needed a good kicking at the time. ohwell


I think your honesty is really touching!:thumbsup:



Aww. Thanks. What a lovely statement :smile:. I just want to show that I consider how others feel.

HoneyFly's photo
Thu 05/08/14 12:37 AM

I gotta admit that burning bridges is not my strongest suit. I built them up like Lego blocks. However, some arsenal out of nowhere likes to tear it down. So I start all over again. :(

FearandLoathing's photo
Thu 05/08/14 12:42 AM
If they were to be repaired, I wouldn't of lit them on fire.

4evababy's photo
Thu 05/08/14 01:15 AM
Don't burn it! Blow the dang thing up!

HoneyFly's photo
Thu 05/08/14 02:00 AM

Don't burn it! Blow the dang thing up!


RoadRunner passing thru : Beep, beep....

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