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Have u ever feel tired to be cheated?
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I was 14, he was 15. I wouldn't let him go to third base. One day he and I are sitting on the couch hand in hand talking when another neighborhood girl and her boyfriend walk in and sit in the loveseat side by side showing PDA's.
I notice my boyfriend and the other girl eyeing each other intently. After we all went our separate ways that day another girlfriend came to me and said my boyfriend and the other girl were seeing each other behind my back and going all the way. I didn't believe it. Until one day I went to my boyfriend's house looking for him and saw the two of them together kissing. I immediately broke up with him after realizing he was really her boyfriend, and the two of them would later marry. The moral? Why did he need me in his life to begin with while he led me on when he was already doing the wild thing with someone else? He had nothing to gain by spending time with me, so I assume he was just trying to make her jealous. Needless to say I not only felt embarrassed and betrayed I felt used. And I swore to myself that I would never let another boy or future man compromise my reputation or my feelings in this way. Since that first young love experience I have never cheated on any man I've ever been with, even though several have again cheated on me. To me, if I don't like the person I'm with enough to stay faithful then we don't need to be together in the first place. So, yes! I learned very early in life that cheating is not an activity I would condone or participate in. Because it can really hurt the other person's feelings you claim to care for, and that's being two-faced as far as I'm concerned. |
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I was 14, he was 15. I wouldn't let him go to third base. One day he and I are sitting on the couch hand in hand talking when another neighborhood girl and her boyfriend walk in and sit in the loveseat side by side showing PDA's. I notice my boyfriend and the other girl eyeing each other intently. After we all went our separate ways that day another girlfriend came to me and said my boyfriend and the other girl were seeing each other behind my back and going all the way. I didn't believe it. Until one day I went to my boyfriend's house looking for him and saw the two of them together kissing. I immediately broke up with him after realizing he was really her boyfriend, and the two of them would later marry. The moral? Why did he need me in his life to begin with while he led me on when he was already doing the wild thing with someone else? He had nothing to gain by spending time with me, so I assume he was just trying to make her jealous. Needless to say I not only felt embarrassed and betrayed I felt used. And I swore to myself that I would never let another boy or future man compromise my reputation or my feelings in this way. Since that first young love experience I have never cheated on any man I've ever been with, even though several have again cheated on me. To me, if I don't like the person I'm with enough to stay faithful then we don't need to be together in the first place. So, yes! I learned very early in life that cheating is not an activity I would condone or participate in. Because it can really hurt the other person's feelings you claim to care for, and that's being two-faced as far as I'm concerned. Same old story of my past the different is im already 25 and he was 31,we are about to marry when i caught him cheating on me, its been years but i never and cant move on. |
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I was 14, he was 15. I wouldn't let him go to third base. One day he and I are sitting on the couch hand in hand talking when another neighborhood girl and her boyfriend walk in and sit in the loveseat side by side showing PDA's. I notice my boyfriend and the other girl eyeing each other intently. After we all went our separate ways that day another girlfriend came to me and said my boyfriend and the other girl were seeing each other behind my back and going all the way. I didn't believe it. Until one day I went to my boyfriend's house looking for him and saw the two of them together kissing. I immediately broke up with him after realizing he was really her boyfriend, and the two of them would later marry. The moral? Why did he need me in his life to begin with while he led me on when he was already doing the wild thing with someone else? He had nothing to gain by spending time with me, so I assume he was just trying to make her jealous. Needless to say I not only felt embarrassed and betrayed I felt used. And I swore to myself that I would never let another boy or future man compromise my reputation or my feelings in this way. Since that first young love experience I have never cheated on any man I've ever been with, even though several have again cheated on me. To me, if I don't like the person I'm with enough to stay faithful then we don't need to be together in the first place. So, yes! I learned very early in life that cheating is not an activity I would condone or participate in. Because it can really hurt the other person's feelings you claim to care for, and that's being two-faced as far as I'm concerned. Same old story of my past the different is im already 25 and he was 31,we are about to marry when i caught him cheating on me, its been years but i never and cant move on. It doesn't matter how young or old we are when our partners look elsewhere for their amusement or affections, it still hurts the same. Because Of my several experiences I can easily read the signs now when men lose interest and/or are dipping their stick in another motor, so to speak. I've always been the protective, take charge, cater too, loving type. Not the sexual aggressor type. Which is what I've come to realize most men prefer in the bedroom. They want me around to pamper them and take care of their needs, let them do as they please, like I'm their mother type, and I fit nicely into this role because of the way I was raised to take care of my family/siblings, etc. it just comes naturally to me. As I matured and discovered that 2/3 of the men weren't going to be faithful by nature, I decided not to let their behavior affect me emotionally. Which made/makes it much easier not to take their actions personally and moving on becomes a matter of routine without there being any need for breakup drama. You're still so young, with perhaps a very long life ahead of you. If I could say anything to help you be able to move on successfully without too many recriminations it would be this... Boys will be boys, men will be men, most prefer a sex kitten to a mother hen. If at all possible be their lover and their friend, but once they start to wander on them you can't depend. I hope you eventually are able to deal with your loss and find somebody new. 
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It's possible to move on from something like that but it can take time, depending on how much that you cared about them and probably how well that you thought that you knew them before they betrayed you. Sometimes it's not just a simple matter of someone being a cheat and you just weren't right for each other, or they didn't think that you were. When someone chooses someone else over you it hurts and it's easy to think that it was because you were in some way inadequate and that can make you feel that you are and that nobody else will want you or truly love you either.
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Have u ever feel tired to be cheated? Nope, when I feel the relationship has come to an end or has lost it's "fire" to where either one of the people are unhappy. I end the relationship so we can both move on to find happiness. There's not enough time for games people call cheating, when you're busy looking for the love of your life. If a woman cheats on me, that's an automatic end to the relationship and or the plans made if any were. No discussing, no talking, just over an done with. If she has to "cheat" I obviously wouldn't have been making her happy so it's only for her best interests I would end it. |
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that did happen when i was 15 my 1st gf cheated on me by my own twin no less
she got the boot and my twin as famely goes stayed. took some times to get the trust on him back and sometimes it feel like i just wait to remind him of that fact. worse is i dont even do it intentionally as far her betrayal goes na it feel like a old healed wound by now never gave her the chance to explain herself just plain boot and ignore her begging and calling my twin lost his virginity that day i belive this lesson made me just stronger |
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Thank you dear but i think seaching is over because i am tired of meeting freak guy..lol! JUST KIDDING:-))
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I don't necessarily like it.
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nope never cheated!!
and never have been cheated on. Hmm. at least not that I know of.. 
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Self respect won't allow me to cheat. Pride won't let me be the other woman.
I've never cheated on anyone and never been cheated on. One if the first things I make known when dating (which is not a lot) is that if you get to a point where I'm not enough for you, then go your way and be happy. I don't want someone staying with me out of pity or any other reason if they are ready to move on. |
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nope never cheated!! and never have been cheated on. Hmm. at least not that I know of.. Mmmmm,.so you have a great relationship then  
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nope never cheated!! and never have been cheated on. Hmm. at least not that I know of.. Mmmmm,.so you have a great relationship then So being cheated on or not defines whether a relationship is great??
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Eating ain't cheating
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I have cheated but never inhaled.
I didn't cheat with that woman. That's mah story and I'm stickin to it. |
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Eating ain't cheating lol, flirting is even cheating. |
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Eating ain't cheating lol, flirting is even cheating. for many guys without flirting with other woman their life will never be complete.   |
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Edited by
CowboyGH
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Thu 06/05/14 06:09 AM
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Eating ain't cheating lol, flirting is even cheating. for many guys without flirting with other woman their life will never be complete. >.< |
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nope never cheated!! and never have been cheated on. Hmm. at least not that I know of.. Mmmmm,.so you have a great relationship then . . in fact it was beautiful. caring loving and compassionate. open and honest very passionate... at least until the accident. . and then.. the brain tumor was discovered.. it's not always . a case of cheating...hmm.. |
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nope never cheated!! and never have been cheated on. Hmm. at least not that I know of.. Mmmmm,.so you have a great relationship then . . in fact it was beautiful. caring loving and compassionate. open and honest very passionate... at least until the accident. . and then.. the brain tumor was discovered.. it's not always . a case of cheating...hmm..
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