Topic: A Chubby Guy - Any Hope?
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Wed 08/13/14 12:14 PM
I know it sounds cliche, but I really do have a hard time seeing myself with any woman in the future. When I walk around in public, I see the way females look at me. Its almost like I'm a walking pile of dung; I repel them almost instantly. Am I truly that unattractive? I've come to the conclusion that my weight may be to blame as well. Is being overweight such an extreme turn-off?

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Wed 08/13/14 12:18 PM
Well for some people it is. However, from your writing, you are showing an extreme amount of lack of self confidence. Nothing is sexier than a person that own up to themselves! You think you are overweight? Walk with the confidence of a man who looks like a million bucks. Put that negative self-talk the heck out of your mind.

I am not tall, have a wicket accent, never mind the fur... so I feel for ya brah! Put that aside. Keep your mind thinking on the positive.

In my page I wrote "choose love over anger, gratitude over entitlement, and forgiveness and compassion over bitterness." Do make a good choice brah!

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Wed 08/13/14 12:22 PM
embarassed flowerforyou

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Wed 08/13/14 12:22 PM

Well for some people it is. However, from your writing, you are showing an extreme amount of lack of self confidence. Nothing is sexier than a person that own up to themselves! You think you are overweight? Walk with the confidence of a man who looks like a million bucks. Put that negative self-talk the heck out of your mind.

I am not tall, have a wicket accent, never mind the fur... so I feel for ya brah! Put that aside. Keep your mind thinking on the positive.

In my page I wrote "choose love over anger, gratitude over entitlement, and forgiveness and compassion over bitterness." Do make a good choice brah!




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Wed 08/13/14 12:25 PM

I know it sounds cliche, but I really do have a hard time seeing myself with any woman in the future. When I walk around in public, I see the way females look at me. Its almost like I'm a walking pile of dung; I repel them almost instantly. Am I truly that unattractive? I've come to the conclusion that my weight may be to blame as well. Is being overweight such an extreme turn-off?

all I can say is being big is not a minority as I write this I can see two teens and the girl I would say is big. I also see a lot of big men with tiny little women on there arms. its not that your repelling woman your just too concerned with what shallow women think, you need to cut that out because you only live once enjoy what you have and just work it or as Madonna says strike to pose. and don't give a dam :):smile:

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Wed 08/13/14 12:26 PM

Well for some people it is. However, from your writing, you are showing an extreme amount of lack of self confidence. Nothing is sexier than a person that own up to themselves! You think you are overweight? Walk with the confidence of a man who looks like a million bucks. Put that negative self-talk the heck out of your mind.

I am not tall, have a wicket accent, never mind the fur... so I feel for ya brah! Put that aside. Keep your mind thinking on the positive.

In my page I wrote "choose love over anger, gratitude over entitlement, and forgiveness and compassion over bitterness." Do make a good choice brah!


listen to the baboon mandril - hybrid he is a very wise baboon....I agree with him!! There is nothing sexier than a confident man!!happy

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Wed 08/13/14 01:05 PM
You don't strike me as unattractive. Chubby, as was said; depends how you 'wear' it. If you'd be self-confident, it wouldn't really be a problem. But may ppl that are overweight, even if it's only a bit, feel very insecure because of it. Other ppl pick up on that and you will get looks and treated accordingly.

Furthermore you're not in the easiest of agegroups when it comes to that. Girls your age can be utterly ruthless. Don't let them undermine you with their behaviour. Like Criollo said, try to really feel good about yourself.

One thing I could say about your looks, is that I really do not like your haircut. Could also be that that's why girls look at you in a funny way. But then again, maybe where you live, that hairdo is hip. I find it very girly.

All in all lighten up. You're only 18, your body will still change till your some 20-22.

Good luck
flowerforyou

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Wed 08/13/14 01:34 PM

Well for some people it is. However, from your writing, you are showing an extreme amount of lack of self confidence. Nothing is sexier than a person that own up to themselves! You think you are overweight? Walk with the confidence of a man who looks like a million bucks. Put that negative self-talk the heck out of your mind.

I am not tall, have a wicket accent, never mind the fur... so I feel for ya brah! Put that aside. Keep your mind thinking on the positive.

In my page I wrote "choose love over anger, gratitude over entitlement, and forgiveness and compassion over bitterness." Do make a good choice brah!
This was WELL said,this some of the best advise/ you"re going to get,i have a post on general discusion name"FIRST LOVE",read it,as it relates directly to your topic!!!

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Wed 08/13/14 02:04 PM

I know it sounds cliche, but I really do have a hard time seeing myself with any woman in the future. When I walk around in public, I see the way females look at me. Its almost like I'm a walking pile of dung; I repel them almost instantly. Am I truly that unattractive? I've come to the conclusion that my weight may be to blame as well. Is being overweight such an extreme turn-off?


that really all depends on the female <shrug> some ladys like extra padding

just keep your head up , if it bothers you that much check in to loosing some weight <shrug>

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Wed 08/13/14 02:05 PM

I know it sounds cliche, but I really do have a hard time seeing myself with any woman in the future. When I walk around in public, I see the way females look at me. Its almost like I'm a walking pile of dung; I repel them almost instantly. Am I truly that unattractive? I've come to the conclusion that my weight may be to blame as well. Is being overweight such an extreme turn-off?


Ha

Females deal with the same thing.

Best to just keep up being you and try not to work so hard to impress people. Men and women are both very shallow. If you're doing anything help yourself feel good then go ahead and do it. Do not try to look good for girls. It's such a turn off for us in the long term. Dumb girls will eventually use you and throw you away. The authentic ones care more about substance than quantity. Always remember that.

I usually look to a guy not being interested as a form of relief. Good. Not everyone if going to like the way I look, talk and the way I am in life. Phuck them. Better to just be on your path instead of worrying so much what everyone thinks about you.