Some facts from research:

- 65% of me said that they'd avoided eye contact or ignored someone they were attracted to.
- 70 % of women said they thought a man wasn't interested only to find out that he was flirting.

What going on? At this rate ppl that possibly are a good match will never get in touch?

You guys recognize this behaviour and if so, why do you avoid eye contact? And more obvious flirting and showing interest?

Two more facts:
- 93 % of women said that if a man was interested, he should approach the woman of interest.
- 95% of men said that women should ask men out

So basically both genders are waiting for the other to make the first move? We're doomed :/

...especially if we're trying to make eye contact in a chat/forum?

lol....

Hahaha, good point!

You make eye contact first so you don't get caught looking at her boobs. Then go from that.

So...you'd make eye contact and THEN look at my boobs?...lol

maybe he was over 45 and could not get it up as you have posted befor????

Thank you for focusing on me and sorry if your ego got hurt. This isn't about me though.

Have to make sure you don't notice.
Nothing worse then going for the boob look first and then looking up to see that she has been watching you the whole time.

nope my ego wasnt hert,just saying,maybe he didnt make eye contact do to him being over 45 and could not get it up as you said men over 45 cant get it up,so go for younger men,hay i got a good laugh out of that thread,as i do with all your threads

I always look.. And if they look back a nice hello comes along too...

Do you think I wouldn't notice, if you do it in a different order? I ALWAYS notice...haha....

You have to be smart about it. As oppose to making it blatantly obvious.

Wait until she looks away, wait until she sits down and then get a downward angle (ie stand while she sits), distract her with something....for examples that is.

DISTRACT her with something?...lmao...Like what? Chocolate cake?

For you, a sandwich of your choice.

Very true, that is why it becomes easy to say that online/chat

I think that research could also tell you that a guy being too intense is a turn off for a lot of women. I do tend to play it a bit cool with women but you can do that in such a way that you're still showing interest in them. A bit of subtle flirting and gentlemanly charm can often get you further than making eyes at a woman. Not being too forward can create sexual tension and put a woman at her ease. It can be as much about what you don't say but imply. You can do it without bothering with body language. Also, you can do it without asking them out. The trick is to skip that and just invite them round to your house. Then if that goes well you've got them calling you and asking you if it's alright to come round and you don't have to chase them.

Women with boobs have eyes?

Hahahahaha

@ Nascar, glad you don't take it personal.
And as for this topic: it is not MY experience that guys avoid eye contact. I'm just asking if this is true, based on that research. So any advice as to why a guy did that to me, is kinda useless, as it's not about me :/
Although of course it could have happened, if I've met a bloke, that did like me, avoided eye contact, meaning I wouldn't know he had an interest.

It is a peculiar thing, though, I do know I sometimes avoid eye contact myself when I see a guy that tickles my fancy. Kind of feel like "Oh my god, what if he notices I fancy him!"
Stupid thing being that because of that you prolly never even get talking to a someone you like.
But I never knew men did this too?

@ Tryztan, so funny!
Did you know many if not most women 'scan' men's bodies as well? I often have the same problem you're describing, trying to not look at a guy's erm ... well, you know. Lol