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So my daughter has been in dance since she was three (she's now 9) and during that time she became very close with one of the girls there! And I became best friends with her dad (we were both single and he wanted a relationship and I didn't) and we spent a lot of time together! We brought our kids to the zoo and other activities and would call each whenever we were down... He started dating someone (keep in mind he's 11 years older than I) and after just a couple weeks he said he can no longer speak to me bc she didn't like us talking... Years of friendship went down the drain! I was so hurt! I'd lost a dear friend... Well just three months have went by and dance just started and I overheard him and his gf talking at dance and they are engaged! After only three months! And I heard them mention my name and start laughing about me ...!! I feel uncomfortable even being around them... I feel so small and like a bug she wants to step on! I want to pull my daughter out of dance bc I hate how she looks at me and how he acts like I don't matter and like we were never friends... I feel like this is so highschool drama but I'm almost thirty and it does hurt my feelings when someone talks behind my back... Does anyone have any advice or comments that might make me feel better! I used to love watching my daughter dance but I can't help but catching myself listening to them as they distract me from watching or paying attention to my daughter dancing! He didn't bother to tell me so I had a heads up and he is very friend like when she isn't around... Help!
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You kept this dude in the "friend zone" for a long time but leaned on him when you felt down. Now he has found someone else and is being a jerk about it. Put your big girl pants on and ignore both of them. Wear ear plugs if you have to. Keep your kid in dance class if she likes it. See if there is another studio that she might enjoy and move on with your life.
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Edited by
no1phD
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Tue 09/09/14 05:21 PM
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put them both out of your mind..
you are there for your daughter.. people come people go.. . what you and he might have had.. is now over... let him know you are happy for him... thus keeping their attention off of you.. be the bigger person... if you can talk to her tell her that you are so happy.. that your old friend.. has found his match... .. all of the time thinking in your own mind... I hope he breaks your heart like he did to me someday...lol.. . but seriously just be the bigger person.... focus on your daughter... . after all that's why you went there in the first place right... 
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Ps..wow.. you are smoking hot..
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Do not punish your child just because other people are being jerks. Just ignore them, and enjoy the dance time with your daughter. In the end the quality time is WAY more important.
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Thank you all for the encouragement!! I will most Definately be keeping her in dance...
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put your daughter ahead of these two and let them act like children all they want.
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Yes...perfect advice.. In fact, you should keep your little one there, and you should be making that other woman uncomfortable....stand up and take charge. She will eventually get upset and leave and he will follow her because he has no balls. Dress hot, look hot and act hot..that should be easy for you because you are.....
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Charlotte,
you are beautiful. I'm a person who believes in confronting the situation in your own way instead of hiding or running from it. when you avoid the situation, you think of all the could have dones. walk into the dance studio with confidence. besides the fact that you're building memories with your daughter (kids love that); show that azz and his whatever that you are happy and amazing in your own right. you got this girl
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So my daughter has been in dance since she was three (she's now 9) and during that time she became very close with one of the girls there! And I became best friends with her dad (we were both single and he wanted a relationship and I didn't) and we spent a lot of time together! We brought our kids to the zoo and other activities and would call each whenever we were down... He started dating someone (keep in mind he's 11 years older than I) and after just a couple weeks he said he can no longer speak to me bc she didn't like us talking... Years of friendship went down the drain! I was so hurt! I'd lost a dear friend... Well just three months have went by and dance just started and I overheard him and his gf talking at dance and they are engaged! After only three months! And I heard them mention my name and start laughing about me ...!! I feel uncomfortable even being around them... I feel so small and like a bug she wants to step on! I want to pull my daughter out of dance bc I hate how she looks at me and how he acts like I don't matter and like we were never friends... I feel like this is so highschool drama but I'm almost thirty and it does hurt my feelings when someone talks behind my back... Does anyone have any advice or comments that might make me feel better! I used to love watching my daughter dance but I can't help but catching myself listening to them as they distract me from watching or paying attention to my daughter dancing! He didn't bother to tell me so I had a heads up and he is very friend like when she isn't around... Help! You say and you are right ... I feel like this is so highschool drama. The sooner you loose contact with them the better for all concerned in my opinion. |
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So my daughter has been in dance since she was three (she's now 9) and during that time she became very close with one of the girls there! And I became best friends with her dad (we were both single and he wanted a relationship and I didn't) and we spent a lot of time together! We brought our kids to the zoo and other activities and would call each whenever we were down... He started dating someone (keep in mind he's 11 years older than I) and after just a couple weeks he said he can no longer speak to me bc she didn't like us talking... Years of friendship went down the drain! I was so hurt! I'd lost a dear friend... Well just three months have went by and dance just started and I overheard him and his gf talking at dance and they are engaged! After only three months! And I heard them mention my name and start laughing about me ...!! I feel uncomfortable even being around them... I feel so small and like a bug she wants to step on! I want to pull my daughter out of dance bc I hate how she looks at me and how he acts like I don't matter and like we were never friends... I feel like this is so highschool drama but I'm almost thirty and it does hurt my feelings when someone talks behind my back... Does anyone have any advice or comments that might make me feel better! I used to love watching my daughter dance but I can't help but catching myself listening to them as they distract me from watching or paying attention to my daughter dancing! He didn't bother to tell me so I had a heads up and he is very friend like when she isn't around... Help! Well I have a cousin who.....for a case of beer....can make the girlfriend disappear. Just sayin.  
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There is a question unanswered here and that is why you didn't get with this guy in the first place when he showed you some intention? I think that once you have peace with this answer you will move forwards because if you didn't see him as a potential mate...then moving on could and maybe should be a lot easier as you will no longer be bothered whether he/them are there anymore.
Suddenly dressing hot and acting hot and stuff is a bit transparent innit...a bit like a radical new haircut, speaks volumes to those that 'see' and 'read' people |
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