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Topic: THE TRUTH ABOUT DESPERATION!!
Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 09/13/14 12:35 AM
Heyy everyone:),i ain't going to lie, I really hate it when people mistake aggressiveness,strong interest, strong desires ECT for desperation; ever felt so passionate or just that strong connection that you just don't feel every day or never felt for anyone else to say the least,and when you express it,it comes off as being desperate?

Datwasntme Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 9701	Sat 09/13/14 01:24 AM
nope guess i have just gotten lucky : )

FunnyJ Joined Mon 08/25/14 Posts: 426	Sat 09/13/14 01:31 AM
Sounds like something for the courts to decide, in a stalking trial.

FunnyJ Joined Mon 08/25/14 Posts: 426	Sat 09/13/14 01:35 AM
When you say "people" do you mean a handful of girls? Can I tell the rest of the story? "I tried to explain all this to her but she got the ropes loose and called the cops while I was drawing a chart." I'm just saying this is what I imagine women will assume when they read this. Women really dig a guy that is attentive without being over bearing, they want someone that will respect their wishes whether they are to continue or end the relationship. This aint a 80s movie, women don't always want a guy playing a stereo in their front yard. Just saying.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48912	Sat 09/13/14 03:05 AM
This aint a 80s movie, women don't always want a guy playing a stereo in their front yard. Just saying. Of course women don't. What they want is this:

Unknow Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 64077	Sat 09/13/14 03:14 AM
The truth of desperation... It reeks...

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21249	Sat 09/13/14 03:48 AM
' Tis the difference between a longing glance, and a maniacal glare.

Rizajune Joined Thu 08/22/13 Posts: 309	Sat 09/13/14 04:00 AM
This aint a 80s movie, women don't always want a guy playing a stereo in their front yard. Just saying. Of course women don't. What they want is this: Agree!!!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 09/13/14 04:43 AM
Please dont get me wrong,aint saying that this happens on a regular or its just me,nooo,i seen it happen over and over,and the funny thing is,somestimes when some of us show less interest ect, they say we're gay or not interested,somthin like that!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 09/13/14 04:52 AM
When you say "people" do you mean a handful of girls? Can I tell the rest of the story? "I tried to explain all this to her but she got the ropes loose and called the cops while I was drawing a chart." I'm just saying this is what I imagine women will assume when they read this. Women really dig a guy that is attentive without being over bearing, they want someone that will respect their wishes whether they are to continue or end the relationship. This aint a 80s movie, women don't always want a guy playing a stereo in their front yard. Just saying. Lol am really just talking about showing simple interest,I don't mean to make sound so dramatic lol,I've seen and hear girls /women say it over and about guys,I guess maybe i post the topic wrong!!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 09/13/14 05:19 AM
Sounds like something for the courts to decide, in a stalking trial. Lol I don't stalk know one,so take that out of your mind,what i mean is sometimes when we show interest in a certain way,it gets mistaken for being desperate,you may just feel that way about THEM, and being desperate you're just really needy and probably looking for anyone and would act that way to almost any or everyone,I hope that this clarifies what i really meant!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 09/13/14 05:44 AM Edited by Awatersign on Sat 09/13/14 05:49 AM
I just hate it and never want to come off as being desperate,I never was and never will be,if i'm just passionate about someone or just have interest in,and by me being a little consistent ,women SOMETIMES mistake this for being desperate,please this isn't something am having problems with,it's just something I observed ,I heard women say it about guys all the time, and it's just not fear sometimes , this is why I post the topic,so I really was just wondering if anyone can relate to it ECT,sometimes i don't express myself correctly,which leads to me being misunderstood,so you guys please beer with me lol

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 09/13/14 08:07 AM
Heyy everyone:),i ain't going to lie, I really hate it when people mistake aggressiveness,strong interest, strong desires ECT for desperation; ever felt so passionate or just that strong connection that you just don't feel every day or never felt for anyone else to say the least,and when you express it,it comes off as being desperate? It pretty much always works this way Watersign...If a person is feeling desperate, chances are they are acting that way....Even body language can make people seem desperate...Attraction is not always mutual...Everyone wants (needs?) to feel like the choice to be with someone is their free will, know what I mean....

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 09/13/14 08:43 AM
Heyy everyone:),i ain't going to lie, I really hate it when people mistake aggressiveness,strong interest, strong desires ECT for desperation; ever felt so passionate or just that strong connection that you just don't feel every day or never felt for anyone else to say the least,and when you express it,it comes off as being desperate? .. ...hmmm.. I don't know you are starting to sound a little desperate.... for topic.. attention..lol...jk

Happiness2U Joined Thu 06/19/14 Posts: 2504	Sat 09/13/14 08:44 AM
Too soon, too strong, you're gone.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 09/13/14 04:42 PM
Heyy everyone:),i ain't going to lie, I really hate it when people mistake aggressiveness,strong interest, strong desires ECT for desperation; ever felt so passionate or just that strong connection that you just don't feel every day or never felt for anyone else to say the least,and when you express it,it comes off as being desperate? It pretty much always works this way Watersign...If a person is feeling desperate, chances are they are acting that way....Even body language can make people seem desperate...Attraction is not always mutual...Everyone wants (needs?) to feel like the choice to be with someone is their free will, know what I mean.... I know what is being desperate,this is why am saying it's always a misunderstanding,at least with me,and like I said,am not having problem with this,it actually hardly happens with me,but I've seen and heard of it alot,the reason I post it that way if to you guys can a clear understanding of what I mean,I'm never,ever desperate and hate it when people mistake other things for it,the same day I post the topic I read in someone's profile,"don't nudge or blow me kiss cause it's going to make you seem desperate",and I was kind of offended by it cause I use too and still do it now and then,and I'm sure as hell not desperate,it seems like a simple compliment or "hi"can be taken for desperation!

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3510	Sat 09/13/14 04:53 PM
hummmmm, perhaps someone is misunderstanding, denial.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 09/13/14 05:03 PM
Heyy everyone:),i ain't going to lie, I really hate it when people mistake aggressiveness,strong interest, strong desires ECT for desperation; ever felt so passionate or just that strong connection that you just don't feel every day or never felt for anyone else to say the least,and when you express it,it comes off as being desperate? The point I'm trying to make here is,if you feel I certain way about a certain some,that does NOT make you desperate,being desperate means you would pretty much settled for anything,there's a difference,this person you feel that way about maybe the type of person you rarely meet,and when I say being aggressive and passionate about them,I don't mean in some psycho stalking kind of way,it can be as simple as you caring so much about about a person you may not realize that you're texting or calling them just a little to often,offer to do things for them,pamper them alot,compliments ECT,these things alot of times comes of as desperate,we all have different personalities,me personally,I'm a passionate person on the whole,it's in every aspect of my life!!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 09/13/14 05:10 PM
hummmmm, perhaps someone is misunderstanding, denial. meaning exactly?....

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 09/13/14 05:24 PM
Too soon, too strong, you're gone. That had happened to me before,funny thing is though,I rarely act that way,and the ones am just not that into,or just not feeling,they the one that stick around,so now it makes sense why some people play hard to get,am usually straight forward,again,can come off as desperation!