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Okay, put the champagne and bunting away, I'm not in a relationship, lol.
But there's this thing that keeps bugging me. Let's say you'd find a partner again and - eventually - move in together. Most have been single for some time, so we've learnt to do things that our exes used to do. So how do you deal with the new situation when it comes to chores? Would you automatically start doing the so called 'men things' like fixing a fence, oil a squeaky door, fix a blocked drain, car maintenance of your woman, put out the garbage etc. etc. etc. Or would you expect her to keep doing these things herself, unless she asks for your help? And vice versa of course. As a woman, would you expect your new man to start doing these things? And as a man, would you expect your woman to do the so called 'woman things', meaning i.e. you'd never cook anymore, help cleaning etc. Sometimes it's just weird how we can have these routines in our head --> The other day I had a blocked drain. And I found myself wishing I had a man so he could fix it. Yes I know, horrible, pathetic, cos I can easily do that myself. It doesn't require strength, it's just a gross and smelly job. Anyways, how do you divide all these chores that we usually automatically did in the past with our first partner, and learnt to deal with ourselves because we were single. Do you just wait and see how it goes? Do you discuss it? If so, when? |
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Okay, put the champagne and bunting away, I'm not in a relationship, lol. But there's this thing that keeps bugging me. Let's say you'd find a partner again and - eventually - move in together. Most have been single for some time, so we've learnt to do things that our exes used to do. So how do you deal with the new situation when it comes to chores? Would you automatically start doing the so called 'men things' like fixing a fence, oil a squeaky door, fix a blocked drain, car maintenance of your woman, put out the garbage etc. etc. etc. Or would you expect her to keep doing these things herself, unless she asks for your help? And vice versa of course. As a woman, would you expect your new man to start doing these things? And as a man, would you expect your woman to do the so called 'woman things', meaning i.e. you'd never cook anymore, help cleaning etc. Sometimes it's just weird how we can have these routines in our head --> The other day I had a blocked drain. And I found myself wishing I had a man so he could fix it. Yes I know, horrible, pathetic, cos I can easily do that myself. It doesn't require strength, it's just a gross and smelly job. Anyways, how do you divide all these chores that we usually automatically did in the past with our first partner, and learnt to deal with ourselves because we were single. Do you just wait and see how it goes? Do you discuss it? If so, when? Hopefully, most of these questions will be answered "before" you move in together.... 
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I think in most cases it just works out.most men enjoy doing the man thing. like mowing the law/working on the car/taking out the garbage ETC ETC ETC.I think thats part of enjoyig each other. doing the hous work cooking together.I have had to do it all my slf for a few years. so cleaning the bath room house work and all is no big deal to most of us.
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Okay, put the champagne and bunting away, I'm not in a relationship, lol. But there's this thing that keeps bugging me. Let's say you'd find a partner again and - eventually - move in together. Most have been single for some time, so we've learnt to do things that our exes used to do. So how do you deal with the new situation when it comes to chores? Would you automatically start doing the so called 'men things' like fixing a fence, oil a squeaky door, fix a blocked drain, car maintenance of your woman, put out the garbage etc. etc. etc. Or would you expect her to keep doing these things herself, unless she asks for your help? And vice versa of course. As a woman, would you expect your new man to start doing these things? And as a man, would you expect your woman to do the so called 'woman things', meaning i.e. you'd never cook anymore, help cleaning etc. Sometimes it's just weird how we can have these routines in our head --> The other day I had a blocked drain. And I found myself wishing I had a man so he could fix it. Yes I know, horrible, pathetic, cos I can easily do that myself. It doesn't require strength, it's just a gross and smelly job. Anyways, how do you divide all these chores that we usually automatically did in the past with our first partner, and learnt to deal with ourselves because we were single. Do you just wait and see how it goes? Do you discuss it? If so, when? If a man cannot get all hot and bothered with his woman dressed in a t-shirt and tight jeans while using power tools then he ain't a man. 
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If a man cannot get all hot and bothered with his woman dressed in a t-shirt and tight jeans while using power tools then he ain't a man.  Really?....Does it fall off ?
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Edited by
fleta_n_mach
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Mon 10/20/14 11:15 AM
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Okay, put the champagne and bunting away, I'm not in a relationship, lol. But there's this thing that keeps bugging me. Let's say you'd find a partner again and - eventually - move in together. Most have been single for some time, so we've learnt to do things that our exes used to do. So how do you deal with the new situation when it comes to chores? Would you automatically start doing the so called 'men things' like fixing a fence, oil a squeaky door, fix a blocked drain, car maintenance of your woman, put out the garbage etc. etc. etc. Or would you expect her to keep doing these things herself, unless she asks for your help? And vice versa of course. As a woman, would you expect your new man to start doing these things? And as a man, would you expect your woman to do the so called 'woman things', meaning i.e. you'd never cook anymore, help cleaning etc. Sometimes it's just weird how we can have these routines in our head --> The other day I had a blocked drain. And I found myself wishing I had a man so he could fix it. Yes I know, horrible, pathetic, cos I can easily do that myself. It doesn't require strength, it's just a gross and smelly job. Anyways, how do you divide all these chores that we usually automatically did in the past with our first partner, and learnt to deal with ourselves because we were single. Do you just wait and see how it goes? Do you discuss it? If so, when? If a man cannot get all hot and bothered with his woman dressed in a t-shirt and tight jeans while using power tools then he ain't a man.  Dunno what ever happened to a picture of me in a bikini with safety glasses and an nail gun while we were doing the roof on the garage. gah! I also believe that a man wants to help his woman to do things for her and that he is needed and appreciated. Letting the other know you (they) are appreciated is golden. |
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If a man cannot get all hot and bothered with his woman dressed in a t-shirt and tight jeans while using power tools then he ain't a man. Really?....Does it fall off ? Only if her Skill saw handling abilities are of a novice type.  
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If a man cannot get all hot and bothered with his woman dressed in a t-shirt and tight jeans while using power tools then he ain't a man. Really?....Does it fall off ? Only if her Skill saw handling abilities are of a novice type. That makes sense.... 
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 Now this could be dangerous......but I like danger.
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Edited by
ridewytepony
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Mon 10/20/14 12:03 PM
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Lots of variables.
I will want to help with dishes and cook some thing but depending on the woman She may not be comfortable with some one in 'her area" and chase me out. I can take an order too. If the kicken work is shared and I already started something then I would want to finish unless I needed help with something like how do you turn the oven on. I dont like a woman too dominant walking around with a tape measure on her belt either ...she might find me out.. A little self depicating joke...no really! |
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Edited by
ridewytepony
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Mon 10/20/14 12:04 PM
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I want to take her from behind until we have no more dishes
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Lots of variables. I will want to help with dishes and cook some thing but depending on the woman She may not be comfortable with some one in 'her area" and chase me out. I can take an order too. If the kicken work is shared and I already started something then I would want to finish unless I needed help with something like how do you turn the oven on. I dont like a woman too dominant walking around with a tape measure on her belt either ...she might find me out.. A little self depicating joke...no really! I want to take her from behind until we have no more dishes I can't decide which of these posts I like best, the first one or the second one!   Hey Studley Sunshine Muffin!! 
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.. so does this mean I have to stop masturbating..?.. because I'm so used to doing it myself...hmm.. honey do you mind giving me a hand with this..lmao... and. if I may be serious for one minute.. I was thinking of this very topic the other day myself....
. even touched on it in another topic... I believe... something about asking permission to go out...lol.. I have become so accustomed to doing everything myself.... it would be hard to give up control of certain things... . like dishes laundry... dusting vacuuming.... but I suppose I could get... learn to give up some control... ..... although I am a bit of a control freak... not that I control people.. but I like things a certain way... in my mind the right way..... so if this new partner.. for instance.... puts the greasy dishes in the dish water first... before washing the glasses...omg.. lookout.... |
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.. so does this mean I have to stop masturbating..?.. because I'm so used to doing it myself...hmm.. honey do you mind giving me a hand with this..lmao... and. if I may be serious for one minute.. I was thinking of this very topic the other day myself.... . even touched on it in another topic... I believe... something about asking permission to go out...lol.. I have become so accustomed to doing everything myself.... it would be hard to give up control of certain things... . like dishes laundry... dusting vacuuming.... but I suppose I could get... learn to give up some control... ..... although I am a bit of a control freak... not that I control people.. but I like things a certain way... in my mind the right way..... so if this new partner.. for instance.... puts the greasy dishes in the dish water first... before washing the glasses...omg.. lookout.... Hmm .. that does sound rather controlling .. And sure, we all get stuck in our ways, that's one of the risks of being single for x amount of time .. then we gotta decide what's more important: getting things our way, controlling everything (and thus str8 jacketing our partner with that behaviour) or .. loosen up, let things slide (within reasons of course) and have a happy love-life .. I allowed someone to "str8 jacket" me like that, varying from the way the bog-roll was put up (he would get angry about that), to how the towels got folded and the laundry hung. At first I thought it didn't matter much, but it does. You slowly get molded into a different person and I found out over time, that it's rather disrespectful as well. After all I have my own routines etc. as well. I won't ever be the sole one to compromise again. Don't mean to erm .. knock you or whatever the right word for it is, I actually find it interesting to exchange views on these things. But this is slightly different from what I meant to ask .. I think.. And the masturbating .. I know it was a joke, lol, but also one of these awkward, taboo subjects. Suddenly you're not allowed to do that anymore cos you're in a relationship.. As if you're cheating on your partner when you masturbate. Oh, I wash the dishes first, LOL. But .. they aren't greasy. I never put greasy plates on the worktop, rinse them off (Dang, there isn't a 'finger' emoticon, is there? LM cute butt O ) |
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And the masturbating .. I know it was a joke, lol, but also one of these awkward, taboo subjects. Suddenly you're not allowed to do that anymore cos you're in a relationship.. As if you're cheating on your partner when you masturbate. It's not cheating if you let him watch.... |
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.. so does this mean I have to stop masturbating..?.. because I'm so used to doing it myself...hmm.. honey do you mind giving me a hand with this..lmao... Sometimes no1, you are such a dork. Yes, you should ask for help in that. 
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I like to think that we would know most of the important things about each other before we move in,but the little things that you start to notice can start to wear you down.I'm pretty easy going so would want to share all the housework when we can,i don't think it's fair these days to expect certain things to be done just because you are male or female.
8 or 14 minutes no1 ? That's quite specific Again i'm going to go back to sharing and knowing each other before you move in.No time limits,know each others sensuality and needs...enjoy 
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Tall One, yes .. mmmm ... good point. And in that case .. the one on the receiving end is the one to judge whether it's the right way .. or the wrong way. Didn't we have this thread on right and wrong the other day? Blimey, this is getting complex. I gotta keep my wits about me now, but .. if you're doing 'it' the right way .. that's going to be somewhat .. difficult!
 I like to think that we would know most of the important things about each other before we move in,but the little things that you start to notice can start to wear you down.I'm pretty easy going so would want to share all the housework when we can,i don't think it's fair these days to expect certain things to be done just because you are male or female. 8 or 14 minutes no1 ? That's quite specific Again i'm going to go back to sharing and knowing each other before you move in.No time limits,know each others sensuality and needs...enjoy Oh that field of expertise will definitely be on the list of things to explore way before moving in is talked about
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And the masturbating .. I know it was a joke, lol, but also one of these awkward, taboo subjects. Suddenly you're not allowed to do that anymore cos you're in a relationship.. As if you're cheating on your partner when you masturbate. It's not cheating if you let him watch.... hmmm ... that could indeed be very sexy! |
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Edited for vulgarity.
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