The biggest obstacle I have had to overcome on this site is sounding too "pretentious" or "superior." I am someone who is very confident in her intelligence, so I don't try to dumb down my use of language. Unfortunately, many guys see this as a negative. As far as I can tell, they are either threatened by the prospect of a smart woman being able to see through their bullsh*t, or they just don't find intelligence attractive. What is your opinion? Do you subconsciously judge people based on their intelligence?

I don't but to each his own! We're all different but I won't write off someone of what is presumed "of lesser intelligence" In anyone's opinion! Everyone has their own special qualities and in overlooking others who may not qualify as "intellectual enough" you may overlook true diamonds in the rough!

For myself, it doesn't matter if they are smarter than I, as long as I'm a better person with them.

she's using big words!... my head is starting to hurt!...ohhh..nooo.. I have a nose bleed now..lmao..

Possibly they could be intimidated.

Oh and see was a redhead just like you. Her name was Lilith.

Need some aspirin No1?

.. no.. I just found my dictionary ..I should be okay now.. just all those big words..lol.. but thanks.. as long as she types.. slow I should be ok..

You keep being you! Back in the day, there was a very popular mingler who was intelligent and no sense like yourself. Just be you.

Welcome.

Good...follow closely now!

Okay, thanks guys. You are pretty much just validating my opinion on the matter; that is why I continue to just be myself!

yes being ..oneself is always best..
it has never failed me..

... if you are not who you are! then who are you..?

I have to lie down now all this..
.. deep thinking.. And.. big words
are starting to hurt my cranium..lol

I don't necessarily dislike intelligence, but a woman who is exceptionally educated just isn't as appealing as one who would be more likely to ask me about something.

Sounding intelligent, speaking and writing well etc, is one thing.
Acting like a know-it-all and judging people by their IQ score is something completely different. That's a sign of real insecurity.
Not that this applies to you. But whenever I hear someone say people are intimidated by their intelligence or strength I have to wonder if there is more than that to it.

Yw:) get a guy that accepts you for who you are yep yep

I have not found the men on this site to be put off by it, unless they've been instructed by others that they should be.

In real life, yes, I have had men tell me, point-blank, that they are not interested in pursuing/continuing a relationship with me because (they feel) (rightfully so) that I can spot their B.S. within nanoseconds of them beginning to spew it.

Ironically, the four men with whom I HAVE had serious, long-term relationships have admired that same quality; they felt challenged to NOT put on the B.S. act and to BE more real.


Personally, I can't ever imagine a time or circumstance in my life where I'll deliberately "dumb-it-down" simply so someone else can [momentarily] feel better.

In response to James -
Wow, your comment is very dissapointing for me to read. I would hope it would be the opposite because I think that your opinion is part of the reason why girls can act very "stupid" to get attention.

He had a putter.