I was wondering something. I have been single now for 5 years all together. I do get hit on a lot - but by people I do not want to date. I've seen some super cute people at a coffee shop I have been going. But everyone there seems not to want to be bothered. All they do is sit at their computer or type away on their telephone. It's like they all have signs up on their head that stay, "Keep the **** away from me !" .......... I feel that if anyone were interested in me, they would not approach me due to their own fear of rejection. And I can see why most people are afraid. No one likes being rejected time after time. I do my share of turning males down. I've actually come to enjoy it. I even throw in a bit of insult and snob between each word. I figure I may as well due to the instant insults they will throw at me as soon as I reject their immature boy *ss. Anyways, does anyone have any tips on how to attract the person you hope to gain attention at a coffee house and make them feel welcome to approach me? And though I never approach anyone, what tips might you have in general for me to get a date with a hot little thing at a coffee shop?

Thanks for the tips !

I'm a bit shy and old fashion, but in today's world I think it's ok to approach them with a simple hello and smile. If you want to turn someone down that's your choice but i don't think the extra insults are necessary
jmo

If I don't insult a male, they keep pushing and pushing even though I say no. One or two insults where it hurts them the most generally does the trick.

And thank you. I will possibly approach someone. But I am gay. And most women are straight. I never happen across anyone gay in public. I wonder why everyone seems straight. It's odd really. Statistics prove that 30 to 40 percent of women are gay .......... possibly more. And it's always my luck that I always approach straight girls.

Do you approach women who are alone or are they with others? If they are with others they may not want to let the others know that they are interested in other females.

Good luck

Well, statistically speaking most women are hetero, and possibly a percentage of lesbian women are awkward about showing their orientation in public, so ... I think you're fishing in the wrong coffee shop.
Find out where most / more / all lesbian women tend to hang out and go there.

Your statistics aren't correct either: 1.7% of the American population is gay. Same over here in the Netherlands.
So nowhere near the 30-40% you mention. If you add bisexuals, you get a mere 3 - 3,5% of the population. Still nowhere near your statistics.

Makes sense, because no way is half of the people you meet in the streets gay. Not even close.
And sorry, being hetero is not weird.

So get your statistics right, find a coffee house where lesbians tend to hang out, then just smile and say "hi" to a woman you like.

I don't know but I imagine there might be something similar to our area within a radius of about a half hour drive. many groups have their own areas where they are known to hang out.
biker bars. country music hangouts. etc.
there are areas known to be predominantly hangouts of gay or lesbian patrons.
I don't know how much of how you treat men influences your having a problem meeting women.
you stated that you enjoy putting men down.
heartless is heartless whatever your beliefs and lifestyle.
others see this and you get known for being that kind of person.
wish you all the best