How many married people who are missing things in there life?

I am married and missing something.

My husband - - - - he left

Why is it so hard to talk to your partner/wife/husband about what
you need in you life to be happy, stay happy and be together???


I think men need to get some courage and say something - before they
just decide to play around or pack up an go.

I know not all situations are the same - but surely the person you
are married to deserves to know how you feel.

just my humble opinion folks

What in particular are you trying to get at?

Everyone has things "missing from their life." Since you mention this in the context of marriage, am I right in assuming you miss things that you had to leave behind you in order to be married?

I'm married and i'm missing nothing. Have it all at home!

You are the master of yourself and your life. If you are not happy then sit down and really look at your life. Most people want what is on the other side of the fence....but they have their problems too. Might be very similar to yours or completely different but they will have troubles as well. You can either talk it out and try your best to sort the situation or you get out. The choice is always yours. I did both. I talked til i was blue. It didn't work so i got out and i thought because it was my decision it would hurt less than my first divorce. (he had ptsd and walked out) It didn't . I am now on my own with my children and it's better yet in some ways worse. Whatever you do i wish you luck peace love and happiness.

Good post and a good question. Recently separated after 40 years of marriage! People grow apart , and are not the people you married as one example of why relationships fail imho. With growing apart comes lack of communication a lethal combination to be sure.
Gary

It's nothing to do with leaving anything behind. It's the fact that there seems to be the connection missing. I do everything for her. Wash and put up clothes, take and pick her up at work, cook, clean ect...... But no thank you or any appreciation.

Have you spoken about it with her? Maybe she feels something is missing as well?

Ah, yes. The "no more thankyou's" thing. I think that's a fairly common problem in marriage.

Lots of people don't even realize that they think of marriage as such a sea change in how they have to behave in order to get along with someone, that they completely switch off their basic social skills altogether. It's often described as "taking each other for granted."

I have a suspicion that it's all connected to the most common misapprehension of life we get as children, that becoming an adult, means you don't have to do anything anyone else wants you to do anymore.

I would suggest a gentle way to turn things around, if you haven't already tried it: start doing it the way you like yourself. Carefully and slowly thank her for everything positive that she does. if she's really lost on the self-centered idea of marriage, nothing will work, but if she's just "forgotten" to be polite, that might get her going on it again.

Good luck with it.

I thank her for everything.