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Topic: Friendship without sex
csulbguy Joined Fri 04/10/15 Posts: 27	Wed 04/15/15 07:35 PM
Does it exist? I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl (I've experienced both). I think as you get older and embrace the complications of meeting others, it is possible, but it needs to be established. Basically two people on the same page - in terms of communication, goals, or reason of friendship (usually progressive). Can a friendship exist without the lust, especially if the relationship holds more of a intrinsic value than simply having sex? Please share your success stories :)

Annierooroo Joined Mon 10/20/14 Posts: 12552	Wed 04/15/15 07:47 PM
I know it can happen. I have a lot of guys and girls that are my friends and we hang out together with nothing but friendship in mind. If I need to know something about guys I will ask them and they answer it. We have talked about what we want in the beginning and both sides agree on friendship. We don't even look at each other in a lustful way. Yes It can happen and when it does they become your family.

RebelArcher Joined Sat 08/02/14 Posts: 5247	Wed 04/15/15 07:51 PM
I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl Cant say that Ive ever wanted to rail one of my male pals. Female friends? Sure, the thought has crossed my mind....and a few have admitted its crossed theirs. But boundaries get set....and they are honored....until tequila night Lol no not really....friends are, well, friends. Its gets too complicated for me if that line is crossed.

csulbguy Joined Fri 04/10/15 Posts: 27	Wed 04/15/15 08:01 PM
I know it can happen. I have a lot of guys and girls that are my friends and we hang out together with nothing but friendship in mind. If I need to know something about guys I will ask them and they answer it. We have talked about what we want in the beginning and both sides agree on friendship. We don't even look at each other in a lustful way. Yes It can happen and when it does they become your family. It's encouraging to hear this and quite frankly reminds me of the show f.r.i.e.n.d.s. I wonder though if it's strictly on a one-on -one basis in comparison to having a group of friends, would it still be the same.

csulbguy Joined Fri 04/10/15 Posts: 27	Wed 04/15/15 08:06 PM
I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl Cant say that Ive ever wanted to rail one of my male pals. Female friends? Sure, the thought has crossed my mind....and a few have admitted its crossed theirs. But boundaries get set....and they are honored....until tequila night Lol no not really....friends are, well, friends. Its gets too complicated for me if that line is crossed. I know what you mean, and I suppose the emphasis would be on setting boundaries. Let's face it, some view friendship more lightly, where as others take it quite seriously. Your right about that.

Annierooroo Joined Mon 10/20/14 Posts: 12552	Wed 04/15/15 08:11 PM
I know it can happen. I have a lot of guys and girls that are my friends and we hang out together with nothing but friendship in mind. If I need to know something about guys I will ask them and they answer it. We have talked about what we want in the beginning and both sides agree on friendship. We don't even look at each other in a lustful way. Yes It can happen and when it does they become your family. It's encouraging to hear this and quite frankly reminds me of the show f.r.i.e.n.d.s. I wonder though if it's strictly on a one-on -one basis in comparison to having a group of friends, would it still be the same. We don't form groups all the time. sometimes it me and my mate we will watch a movie or talk over a wine/coffee and what ever happens we are there for each other. We are like best friends who like the same things but don't want anymore. we have been like this for about nearly 4 years.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Wed 04/15/15 08:12 PM
Does it exist? I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl (I've experienced both). I think as you get older and embrace the complications of meeting others, it is possible, but it needs to be established. Basically two people on the same page - in terms of communication, goals, or reason of friendship (usually progressive). Can a friendship exist without the lust, especially if the relationship holds more of a intrinsic value than simply having sex? Please share your success stories :) Well I am like Good Luck Chuck. Girls that date me or have sex with me end up marrying the next guy they meet.

Annierooroo Joined Mon 10/20/14 Posts: 12552	Wed 04/15/15 08:16 PM
Does it exist? I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl (I've experienced both). I think as you get older and embrace the complications of meeting others, it is possible, but it needs to be established. Basically two people on the same page - in terms of communication, goals, or reason of friendship (usually progressive). Can a friendship exist without the lust, especially if the relationship holds more of a intrinsic value than simply having sex? Please share your success stories :) Well I am like Good Luck Chuck. Girls that date me or have sex with me end up marrying the next guy they meet. That's sad That makes me cry for you

HoneyFly Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 1962	Wed 04/15/15 08:18 PM
I like to think so but my left hand disagrees completely.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Wed 04/15/15 08:18 PM
Does it exist? I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl (I've experienced both). I think as you get older and embrace the complications of meeting others, it is possible, but it needs to be established. Basically two people on the same page - in terms of communication, goals, or reason of friendship (usually progressive). Can a friendship exist without the lust, especially if the relationship holds more of a intrinsic value than simply having sex? Please share your success stories :) Well I am like Good Luck Chuck. Girls that date me or have sex with me end up marrying the next guy they meet. That's sad That makes me cry for you That makes one of us. Actually though, the last two women I have dated have gone on to meet their husbands (right after breaking up with me). It's just life.

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Wed 04/15/15 08:21 PM
I would think it is fairly common, to do otherwise, in many friendship situations, would be rather stupid of us. one for instance, our friends who are married. just because we have feelings or attractions doesn't mean we act upon them in a way that could be hurtful to us, them or others. just sayin....

csulbguy Joined Fri 04/10/15 Posts: 27	Wed 04/15/15 08:26 PM
That's pretty awesome, to have that level of maturity and understanding. Four years speaks volumes. I would value and cherish it, although friends can be friends.

csulbguy Joined Fri 04/10/15 Posts: 27	Wed 04/15/15 08:36 PM
Does it exist? I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl (I've experienced both). I think as you get older and embrace the complications of meeting others, it is possible, but it needs to be established. Basically two people on the same page - in terms of communication, goals, or reason of friendship (usually progressive). Can a friendship exist without the lust, especially if the relationship holds more of a intrinsic value than simply having sex? Please share your success stories :) Well I am like Good Luck Chuck. Girls that date me or have sex with me end up marrying the next guy they meet. That's sad That makes me cry for you That makes one of us. Actually though, the last two women I have dated have gone on to meet their husbands (right after breaking up with me). It's just life. Even if your like Good Luck Chuck, I do wish you luck in finding what your looking for. I've seen similar situations, but it's almost unreal. Your basically at that point where your ready to marry (psychologically) and your out there and your moving fast. It's almost like a different kind of connection, at least that's how I see it.

heavenseeker200 Joined Tue 02/24/15 Posts: 6	Wed 04/15/15 08:40 PM
it is common in Muslim countries. boy and girl just love each other.

2469nascar Joined Fri 11/22/13 Posts: 5231	Wed 04/15/15 08:47 PM
it is common in Muslim countries. boy and girl just love each other. HHMMM interesting,,in my country its common to respect woman that are our friends,,,just saying,,,,

SuzQ66 Joined Thu 03/26/15 Posts: 1969	Wed 04/15/15 08:51 PM
My last job was in a male dominated sport. I have lots of friends who are male, and nothing more than friends.

csulbguy Joined Fri 04/10/15 Posts: 27	Wed 04/15/15 08:59 PM
it is common in Muslim countries. boy and girl just love each other. I see what you mean especially in countries in the Middle East and Asia but it's not as simple as love. There is strong parental influence, socio-economic ties between families, and of course the religion of Islam itself. I would think even that is questionable in the sense of your likings in comparison to all other driving factors mentioned. It's interesting seeing how different cultures portray friendship, and in this case even marriage differently. It's incomparable to here in the west.

csulbguy Joined Fri 04/10/15 Posts: 27	Wed 04/15/15 09:01 PM
My last job was in a male dominated sport. I have lots of friends who are male, and nothing more than friends. That sounds incredible - I'm trying to imagine putting myself in your shoes. Do you stay in touch still?

regularfeller Joined Sat 11/10/12 Posts: 2394	Wed 04/15/15 09:06 PM
I reckon a lot of these replies kinda put a damper on the whole "starting out as friends" thing. But I don't believe them. Whether it is voiced or not, acted upon or not, one or both parties wanna rub their bellies together at some point. Remember, just because you don't find me attractive or like me "in that way" doesn't mean I don't find you attractive and DO like you "in that way"...

SuzQ66 Joined Thu 03/26/15 Posts: 1969	Wed 04/15/15 09:17 PM
My last job was in a male dominated sport. I have lots of friends who are male, and nothing more than friends. That sounds incredible - I'm trying to imagine putting myself in your shoes. Do you stay in touch still? Since the business closed, we have scattered around the area. We don't hang around nearly as much as we did, but when we all see each other, it's just like old times. Hugs, silliness, old jokes... catching up on what is real in our lives.