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Topic: Ignoring someone
Daff302 Joined Mon 04/20/15 Posts: 1	Mon 04/20/15 08:22 PM Edited by Daff302 on Mon 04/20/15 08:24 PM
I'm new to this, if a person sends a message and I'm not interested, how do I delete them? Or do I have to block them.

realcarebear Joined Sat 12/07/13 Posts: 6876	Mon 04/20/15 08:25 PM
Unless they're rude or something you can just ignore and delete the mail. If they continue to message you block em!

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 04/20/15 08:29 PM
Eh.....just send this........ "Thanks for messaging me but at this time I have joined a satanic cult and simply have no time for a man. Plus, I don't think you would wanna be a sacrifice so think of this as me saving your life". Works like a charm.

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Mon 04/20/15 08:33 PM
if you have firmly let your feelings be known but they continue to send messages? block him

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Mon 04/20/15 08:36 PM
In all the years I have been on the internet I have only blocked 4 people..Usually a thanks but no thanks works.. IF not I just dont' bother to open them.. They will slide off after a while...

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 04/20/15 08:40 PM
You two are wayyyy too nice.

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Mon 04/20/15 08:42 PM
You two are wayyyy too nice. Goof My friend you have known that for years

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Mon 04/20/15 08:43 PM
You two are wayyyy too nice. sorry what? I was ignoring you

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 04/20/15 08:48 PM
You two are wayyyy too nice. sorry what? I was ignoring you That's much better.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 04/20/15 08:49 PM
You two are wayyyy too nice. Goof My friend you have known that for years

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21251	Mon 04/20/15 08:57 PM
I ignore everyone... Equally. Kinda thins the herd.

SassyEuro Joined Wed 03/11/15 Posts: 1000	Mon 04/20/15 09:07 PM
I'm new to this, if a person sends a message and I'm not interested, how do I delete them? Or do I have to block them. [/quote . At the bottom of their email, it has the options to reply, report or block. If you do not block.. then you will end up with a long list of people to remember. * Chances are they try again * We do have unlimited blocks on this site.

SassyEuro Joined Wed 03/11/15 Posts: 1000	Mon 04/20/15 09:09 PM
Eh.....just send this........ "Thanks for messaging me but at this time I have joined a satanic cult and simply have no time for a man. Plus, I don't think you would wanna be a sacrifice so think of this as me saving your life". Works like a charm. We heard that

kberly13 Joined Fri 04/17/15 Posts: 1	Mon 04/20/15 09:30 PM
Eh.....just send this........ "Thanks for messaging me but at this time I have joined a satanic cult and simply have no time for a man. Plus, I don't think you would wanna be a sacrifice so think of this as me saving your life". Works like a charm. Goof... thanks for making me spit soda everywhere by making me laugh so hard!!! That is great and I will remember it forever!

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Tue 04/21/15 12:13 AM
Eh.....just send this........ "Thanks for messaging me but at this time I have joined a satanic cult and simply have no time for a man. Plus, I don't think you would wanna be a sacrifice so think of this as me saving your life". Works like a charm. Goof... thanks for making me spit soda everywhere by making me laugh so hard!!! That is great and I will remember it forever! Yes....yes.....pay it forward people.

Kaustuv1 Joined Thu 03/27/14 Posts: 4365	Tue 04/21/15 02:42 AM
High time, Mingle invented a way to 'ignore/block' one's very own self!

messi_is_a_tim_1888 Joined Fri 11/28/14 Posts: 3309	Tue 04/21/15 02:54 AM
I'm new to this, if a person sends a message and I'm not interested, how do I delete them? Or do I have to block them. Easy? Send them one back telling them to bolt and that you're not interested! Straight to the point usually works?

mikeybgood1 Joined Sun 03/16/14 Posts: 495	Sat 04/25/15 05:26 AM
A polite " I've read your profile and don't think we would 'click'" usually works for me. I will however point out that I am one of those people who thinks that NOT answering messages is incredibly rude and disrespectful. I equate messages on Mingle to leaving someone a voicemail message. If I called you and said "Hi it's Mike and I'd like to meet you for coffee, interested?" I would think the vast majority of you would feel compelled to call back and provide a yes or no answer. Some could easily call up and say "Sorry, not into it, have a nice life." and would be done. Others would be very hesitant to reject someone knowing they have to talk to them, and they fear some big conflict will be generated. I get you don't like personally rejecting someone. It's not something we enjoy usually. Here however, it's simply text. If the other party can't accept your decision like an adult, then you have the block option, and I suggest you use it if they exhibit stalker or anger issue tendencies. Common courtesy for me however is if I ask a question, I think it's simply the polite thing to answer. Am I too old-fashioned?

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Sat 04/25/15 05:35 AM
A polite " I've read your profile and don't think we would 'click'" usually works for me. I will however point out that I am one of those people who thinks that NOT answering messages is incredibly rude and disrespectful. I equate messages on Mingle to leaving someone a voicemail message. If I called you and said "Hi it's Mike and I'd like to meet you for coffee, interested?" I would think the vast majority of you would feel compelled to call back and provide a yes or no answer. Some could easily call up and say "Sorry, not into it, have a nice life." and would be done. Others would be very hesitant to reject someone knowing they have to talk to them, and they fear some big conflict will be generated. I get you don't like personally rejecting someone. It's not something we enjoy usually. Here however, it's simply text. If the other party can't accept your decision like an adult, then you have the block option, and I suggest you use it if they exhibit stalker or anger issue tendencies. Common courtesy for me however is if I ask a question, I think it's simply the polite thing to answer. Am I too old-fashioned? Yep...fraid so...it is common forum knowledge these days that no reply is an answer.....if you were getting up to or over 100 messages a day.....would you reply to them all???

mikeybgood1 Joined Sun 03/16/14 Posts: 495	Sat 04/25/15 06:12 AM
If I was getting 100 messages a day from women wanting to meet me, I'd likely be off the site and dating someone before the end of the day! I think THAT volume of messaging is a little unrealistic though. Since so many people claim to use the site as their soulmate gold mine, I would say that yes, you would need to answer those 100 people if for no other reason than to acknowledge if they are in the running or not. Why let 'Skippy' pine out there for you, thinking that he has a shot, simply because you cannot find 20 seconds in your day to send him a polite 'Sorry, but no thank you.'message. Sorry, maybe it's how I was raised, but the expectation of using text, or flirting, or making someone a friend or a favourite, is that a communication should be acknowledged if for no other reason than to confirm it was seen, and understood. You won't always get the positive response you might be hoping for, and that's fine. I just think you should take the time to answer people who thought enough of you to make the effort. I'll get off my soapbox now. (lol)