Topic: Is sex love?
rug212001's photo
Sat 05/30/15 12:03 AM

Is sex love?


Simple answer:
NO! Why would anyone think that?

The nuanced answer:
Let's see what the dictionary says. (Only listing the relevant definitions)
Love:
1) an intense feeling of deep affection.
2) feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone).

Sex:
1) (chiefly with reference to people) sexual activity, including specifically sexual intercourse.

Once you read the definitions you can see that they are obviously not the same. However, a connection between them is obvious. When looking at the first definition of love you don't see a reference to sex while in the second you do.

The first definition is the kind of love you have for friends, kids, family, pets, and even some inanimate objects. These is a kind of love where sex does not play into it. Granted there are some people that may have a sexral attraction to all of the categories listed. These people are outside of the average social interactions. Outside the bell curve so to speak.

The second definition of love does reference sex. This is the kind of love you might feel for a wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, or any combination there of. This is not the type of thing that happens overnight. Falling in love can take hours, days, weeks, months, or even years.

The definition of sex does not mention love. This is a rather simple concept. Sex (in this case) is a verb. Sex is an action. That is all there is to it.

Personally, I have had sex when love was not a part of it. When this is the case it can be fun and a nice way to get a workout. :wink: Afterwards there is no additional attraction or deeper emotion. Granted, I liked her but it wasn't love. It was only lust. I would like to also point out that having sex with the same person on a regular basis can lead to emotions that resemble love. This feeling even fits what the definition of love. However, if you stay away from that person for any additional amount of time. The feelings will fade much faster than what they do when leaving a real loving relationship.

Lust:
1) very strong sexual desire.
2) have a very strong sexual desire for someone.

I have also been in love a few times. One of these times it was asexual relationships. Not once did we have sex during the two years we were in a romantic relationship. Yet, we loved each other very much.

Most romantic relationships do lead to sex. This is a why there is a sexual reference in the definition of love. Speaking only from my own experience, sex with someone you love is completely different from sex with someone you only like. Love makes the experience outlandishly exceptional.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sat 05/30/15 02:00 AM

Ohhh...you never wanted to put a pillow over a year X's head while he slept... I know lots of women.. And men.. That would have done that if they could have got away with it.. Lol

No, normally people just get a divorce ...

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Sat 05/30/15 02:03 AM
Phd is Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde... scared

Rooster35's photo
Sat 05/30/15 02:47 AM

How old are you? Two.seperate things. you can have sex without love and you can feel love without sex. Sex can be a part of being in love but it is not love


Took the words right out of my mouth. :smile:

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Sat 05/30/15 04:09 AM

Ohhh...you never wanted to put a pillow over a year X's head while he slept... I know lots of women.. And men.. That would have done that if they could have got away with it.. Lol




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Sat 05/30/15 04:34 AM
Edited by Thickhard on Sat 05/30/15 04:43 AM
It depends with whom you are doing that. According to the Vyatsana, the only reason for marriage is sex, may be a satisfaction in this case. I feel sex and love are connected to each other but cant be a synonym to each other. It is true that sex help us in good bonding in relationship but there are many other things which matters..

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Sat 05/30/15 04:46 AM
It isn't. I'll admit that I did have sex with a man who I didn't see as a future boyfriend, but it was based on physical attraction. We wanted each other so much. As time went on, he would try to get closer to me, but he was very subtle about it. He would always ask me if I wanted to go places with him. And I agreed to. He told me that he "felt sorry for me", which I took as a compliment. He acted like a bodyguard around me. Anyway, I decided that I wouldn't continue with it, and basically told him this. Other than that, I have to really, truly love them, otherwise it won't work.

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Sat 05/30/15 05:15 AM
Men want sex, women want love.

rug212001's photo
Sat 05/30/15 05:17 AM

Men want sex, women want love.


That often goes the other way as well.

Kaustuv1's photo
Sat 05/30/15 05:22 AM


Men want sex, women want love.


That often goes the other way as well.





'Unblemished'!drinker I 'Corroborate'!:smile: ((@ 'Rug'))drinker

rug212001's photo
Sat 05/30/15 05:34 PM



Men want sex, women want love.


That often goes the other way as well.





'Unblemished'!drinker I 'Corroborate'!:smile: ((@ 'Rug'))drinker


Thank you, thank you, I'll be here all week. laugh

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Sun 05/31/15 04:46 AM

I fell on a penis once,.... about 36 years ago.....



Wow! Its been that long? I bet that's depressing.
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You left out the rest of my quote.... "I'm still falling":wink:
but it is still funny Charles. :laughing:

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Sun 05/31/15 04:57 AM
Love and sex are two totally differentlly stuffs, sex can be categorized as a body need few condiser it sinfull but its totally depend on an indivisual, if its right for one then no one have a right to put a blaim, where as lov is an emotional part of a person being in love one may have sex and may be not but not ha ing sex in being in love should not affect love as a body need should not affect the emotional part of human

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Sun 05/31/15 05:54 AM

Love and sex are two totally differentlly stuffs, sex can be categorized as a body need few condiser it sinfull but its totally depend on an indivisual, if its right for one then no one have a right to put a blaim, where as lov is an emotional part of a person being in love one may have sex and may be not but not ha ing sex in being in love should not affect love as a body need should not affect the emotional part of human

I agree with you. Expect for the last sentence- I think one does affect the other. Because we are selfish, & needy creatures no matter if we admit it or not . bigsmile

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Sun 05/31/15 06:09 AM
True sassy it does affect and rightlly said only because we r greedy and needy people, i to believe in what u said only thing is that love relationship should not be affected by sex

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Sun 05/31/15 09:06 AM
So, it is ideal to separate sex from emotions, I've been doing it all wrong. Why did my mother lie to me.. 'sex is meant to happen with someone you love'.

sanam987's photo
Sun 05/31/15 09:16 AM

So, it is ideal to separate sex from emotions, I've been doing it all wrong. Why did my mother lie to me.. 'sex is meant to happen with someone you love'.


No no see its missunderstood, m explaining be patient its a bit long and complicates

U can have sex with someone u dont love,in this case its physical need, and also perfectlly right till both the sex partners are not feeling guilty about it at the same time both should be comfortable.

Second case love is the emotional part of a person but its not at all like if u have sex qith a person u dont live him/her, butat the same time if u really love someone and for some reason can bot have sex life with that person going goo then that should not afect. Love.

Hope its clear

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Sun 05/31/15 12:23 PM
Are you sure it's like that? In my years of experience the best sex and love is when they affect each other...sex becomes an act of love and love becomes a feeling derived from sex. And yet they are 2 different things, that part is very clear, but they compliment each other so well.

uuuusman's photo
Sun 05/31/15 12:29 PM
U feel love sex is the part of that feeling

Eloquent16's photo
Tue 06/02/15 11:25 AM
I asked that question in order to sample responses. Sex on its own alone isn't love. It takes more than an intercourse to prove love.