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Topic: awkward person needing help
WyndSyrin's photo
Wed 07/08/15 10:40 PM
Title says most of it. I am very awkward never had a relationship of any kind. How can I fix that?

Datwasntme's photo
Wed 07/08/15 10:48 PM
normaly starts with a hello : )

sounds like you just have not had the luck to bump in to the right one yet

just keep your head up
they could be right around the corner

best wishes on your hunt

isaac_dede's photo
Wed 07/08/15 11:20 PM
you come across sort of demanding in your profile, she must be ok with this, she must be ok with that, and she must be smart....and then you spell revealed wrong.


I thinks it great to know what you want, but I also think its important to say what you bring to the table so a woman can not only assess if she fits your mold, but also if you fit her mold

WyndSyrin's photo
Wed 07/08/15 11:28 PM
As I said very awkward. Don't know the first thing about any of this so I just fly by the seat of my pants. Guess that don't work

jacktrades's photo
Wed 07/08/15 11:45 PM
Just relax some of your restrictions written on your profile and concentrate on meeting someone first. Also just be yourself because you are looking for someone that's compatible with you. Have fun and best of luck to you.

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Wed 07/08/15 11:52 PM

Title says most of it. I am very awkward never had a relationship of any kind. How can I fix that?


Some of you guys screw your own selves by what you write in your profile. And you don't even know it. And you don't seem to stop and think about what the reader might think. Since this is not profile review, I'll only point this one out. "Jack of all trades, Master of none." Sounds harmless doesn't it? But when a woman looks at it, the first thing she thinks, Does he have a real job? Is he gainfully employed? He sounds like a bum. He's a master of none? If he is a master of none, does he go jumping from one job to the next? I don't think I want to talk to him. CLICK! Next profile.

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Wed 07/08/15 11:52 PM
Edited by Pinkbunny43 on Wed 07/08/15 11:54 PM
I think his profile is just fine........he wants what he wants........I didn't take offence to it.....at least he's upfront with what he's looking for. The only thing I would suggest is adding some info about yourself, what you like to do, what makes you, you.....sell yourself and maybe add a pic of yourself smiling. Anyways that's my two cents....good luck on your search !waving

PS.....I didn't think anything about what he listed as is his occupation......it's more than what most guys put.

WyndSyrin's photo
Thu 07/09/15 12:19 AM
So profile aside what am doing wrong that seems to make me uninteresting?

lynnleeds's photo
Thu 07/09/15 12:24 AM
why so down on yaself?relax if somethings meant to be it will happen

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Thu 07/09/15 12:29 AM


Title says most of it. I am very awkward never had a relationship of any kind. How can I fix that?



Well you could start by toning it down a bit. You talk a lot about what YOU WANT but don't say much at all about who you are or what you have to offer.

JMO


Duttoneer's photo
Thu 07/09/15 01:00 AM

Title says most of it. I am very awkward never had a relationship of any kind. How can I fix that?


My suggestion would be not to put all your eggs in one basket, internet dating works but do not ignore other ways of meeting women. Join clubs, or consider attending evening classes on subjects you are interested in, and of interest to both men and women, meeting people with similar interests results in new friendships which can lead to more than just friendship. Good luck in your search.

lynnleeds's photo
Thu 07/09/15 02:00 AM
any woman within ball grasp is dangerous:thumbsup:

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Thu 07/09/15 02:02 AM

Mmmmmmm I'm not sure if this is the advice you need but...

How aboutttttttt you going out on a friday night after work,

And pack a baseball bat or frying pan in your pocket,
And when you see a nice woman you are attracted to...
Club her on the head and drag her home caveman style?

rofl rofl




Edit:
Dont club a woman taller than you
rofl rofl rofl rofl
She may turn the tables on you :laughing: :laughing:




laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Thu 07/09/15 02:19 AM

Debbieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee :laughing: :laughing:

Good Morninks to ya smile2 waving flowerforyou
Hope you dont have a bump on your head :laughing: :laughing:


morning waving waving flowerforyou

ha ha laugh laugh laugh

loveuendlessly's photo
Thu 07/09/15 02:29 AM
Edited by loveuendlessly on Thu 07/09/15 02:31 AM
the point in meeting anyone is being honest with yourself and what you really want. the same shallow empty, superficial things you see in society on a social level, where our androids and Iphone is how we communicate. START MY FRIEND !!take a really close look in the mirror , and ask yourself , do you love this guy, and i mean the core of you with all the human imperfections, and if you can say yes , that's a great start . Finding the right woman ? not so easy these days , one has to be willing to be patient and wise and distinguish between the true women and your players and Gold diggers , same with women ans men .
On any dating site there's a lot of fake people with weird alternatives , baggage, social problems , and pretending to be who their not , that's the game , one has to avoid . How?? intense conversation reaching the very core of them , and i found 90% of the time you can find the bad apples , why ?? because their not patient enough to be real and down to earth , sooner or later they let the cat out the bag . you must know what you want in a woman is a plus , high maintenance or a down to earth woman , or one ready for true long term relationship or dating , stay away from the psychopaths and sociopaths !!lmao !!!. you will definitely become a "Cave dwelling " lmao. No !! seriously communication is key , the problem with dating today and finding someone is what they call interpersonal communication " peeling away that proverbial onion " and getting to the core of that person !!won't happen with , one night stand of drunken shallow empty sex !! trust me !! bar flies and power drinkers !!!
why dating sites have become so popular, dangers are, "what you see is what you truly get" .............................takes a strong will , wisdom and patience to find a good woman on here , and there out there !! use this as a guide !!Good luck !! Isaiah

Duttoneer's photo
Thu 07/09/15 04:29 AM

any woman within ball grasp is dangerous:thumbsup:


Is this a Yorkshire thingy? shocked scared

laugh

WyndSyrin's photo
Thu 07/09/15 12:03 PM
Well edited profile a bit and hope its better

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Thu 07/09/15 12:17 PM

So profile aside what am doing wrong that seems to make me uninteresting?


You care. Believe it or not, that's the main problem. You have to get to a place where you like you just as you are. And piss on whatever anyone else thinks. You gotta love you first. When you get to the place where you don't care, not being the cocky kind of don't care. You accept you where you are. When you do that, your confidence in yourself will start to show.

I can tell by how you write that you have low confidence in yourself. If I can see it, Women in general can. And that is one of the most unattractive things a man can do. Women are attracted to men that are confident in themselves. And I don't mean cocky. You believe in yourself and what you can do. Once you put your mind to it. That's attractive to a woman. You gotta help yourself. Once you do that, Doors will open for you.

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Thu 07/09/15 02:23 PM
I am very awkward never had a relationship of any kind. How can I fix that?

By having relationships, any kind of relationships, by not approaching romantic relationships out of some need to get what you think is missing.

Leaving your house, walking to the nearest Dairy Queen, and talking to the cashier (male or female, young or old) for 5 minutes while they fill your order is a "relationship."

Well edited profile a bit and hope its better

Profiles are only "better" if they more accurately reflect who you are.

If you see it and use it like a sales gimmick to try and generate traffic, then all you are ever going to do is change who rejects you based on your profile.




isaac_dede's photo
Thu 07/09/15 02:46 PM

Well edited profile a bit and hope its better


personally I think it sounds more inviting, and really says the same things you've said before, just with a different tone...


the other thing I'd say is that you continually refer to yourself as 'awkward' akward according to whom? awkward is relative to environment. ..

im super awkward depending on which group im in, for example dance classes I have zero confidence in my rhythm and abilities, so I barely even converse, im sure everyone there sees me as a shy nerd.

however put me with a group of coworkers who I have something in common with im all the sudden less awkward,

my point is, find a place or activity where you feel most comfortable and try to get someone to join you or meet others there. It's amazing when your into an activity that you like tend to be more yourself and not as focused on others around you.

everyone feels awkward at times, doesn't mean that person is awkward

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