If /when you are invited to a function by someone, even family, do you assume its ok to bring a plus one, or do you only do so if its clearly explained as a couples event?


are family gatherings ASSUMED to be a plus one deal? should the single child assume its kewl to bring a date to a 'family' event?

Usually a phone call clears those kinds of questions up pretty quick.

And if they are your family or friends you usually have a pretty good idea if it's okay to expect them to set one or two extra places at the table.

I always assume it's plus one unless other wise stated as admittance of one. However I've never had a "plus one" to show up with so truthfully I have no idea. Although I have some family members that would probably faint from shock if I ever did.

I am not invited to anything so I don't have to think about this.

For business meetings/functions,
plus one, simply isn't an option.

For personal meetings, plus one, would simply be foolish.


For family gatherings, it could be plus one or plus 20.

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This is my sentiment exactly.....

I wouldn't dream of adding a plus one to an invite to someone else's home.I would also expect a call to be asked since when I do entertain I usually have set seating arrangements... And a surprise guest could throw a wrench into thing.

My thoughts exactly. I think it is always a good idea to let the host know I am bringing extras.

It depends on the function.
It depends on if I'm in a committed relationship and the people inviting me know this.
It depends on what I know about the people and the event.

Some events I'd assume bringing someone would be okay, others I'd assume going alone is the right thing to do.


If it's close family, I don't think they'd care that much if you brought a plus one.

If it's distant family that barely knows your name, and might have misspelled it on the e-vite, they might care.

If it's a wedding or something where meals, and settings, are precisely planned, then they should have indicated what they want on the invitation.


What's going to happen if the single child does assume it's kewl and brings a date?
Are they going to be disowned? Or just made fun of at Thanksgiving?

ALWAYS ask. NEVER assume it's okay for you to decide what your invitation means.

I am rarely asked to events either anymore, mainly because fewer events take place now. But when I am, it wouldn't even cross my mind to bring a surprise additional guest with me.

I have been on the receiving end of surprise additional "guests" a few times, in various situations, and while it is occasionally a refreshing and delightful experience, it is more commonly a rude and even infuriating situation where I feel violated by the person who I actually did invite.

f /when you are invited to a function by someone, even family, do you assume its ok to bring a plus one, or do you only do so if its clearly explained as a couples event?


are family gatherings ASSUMED to be a plus one deal? should the single child assume its kewl to bring a date to a 'family' event?


NEVER assume.

Even if they have previously meet a guy & been civil to him, does not mean they like him, except him, approve of him or he is welcomed back or that they will be civil or gracious again.

If you do ask.. to bring one or more people, then be prepared for the truth or unwanted advice.
Because it is against protocol to assume or ask or say "I'm bringing" or to just " show up, with an invited"

There's one main guy friend who tends to cling to me, so we are quite attached. It happens. I think we have quite a connection.