Yeah...but with constant awareness of societal morays.

Strange....you know this indian actor??...I wasn't having the idea that he is so famous...!!!

I think the whole concept that you can't know what a partner is going to be like having sex (intercourse) with out a trial run before marriage is a bunch of hooey.

That is just an excuse for getting some without the commitment and each side is taking a big risk that your partner hasn't had plenty of "test runs' and passed or been passed for one reason or another.

If you are adult enough to be considering marriage you should be adult enough to have some ideas and serious conversations about of what you like sexually and know if you are compatible. Especially if you have been married or sexually active before. Most people know their preferences even if they have not practiced all of them up to the date of the marriage. Not like there is not plenty of information out there on the topic. And because sexual compatibility has very little to do with how the "universal fit plumbing parts" work together it will always be about the attiude and consideration a partner brings to intimacy.

If you can not tell by kissing and being near someone if they have sexual attractiveness for you, and vice versa, then I doubt you are really ready to commit to and activity that should be a part of and intimate relationship and should be at least pleasurable just because you love them.

The whole idea that some has to prove that they are going to perform to your satisfaction, especially each and every time, is selfish and really immature about what a long term sexual relationship with a single mate is all about. True some "interludes" should be greatly satisfying but others will be sometimes not so great for any number of reasons. Especially during childbearing, illness, and ageing. LOL just how a person handles stress should tell you how you are going to find them in and intimate setting.

If sexual nirvana is a reason to make or break a marriage then you may want to seriously re-consider weather you actually want that person for your mate or to be married at all. If you find yourself needing variety then I would say you are not the commitment/marrying kind and seek like partners.

Great sex alone will not keep any relationship together. Boring sex is usually correctible with the right partner who is motivated by what ever was inviting in the first place.

except biologically great sex with really intense climaxes produces oxytoncin in the brain that increases fidelity and for just kissing I'm a passionate kisser in ten minutes the lady going to be undressing saying wow its getting hot in here :). so I'm very careful who I kiss. regardless if you are committing or not sex is very healthy enjoy.

Nope. as soon as sexuality awakes, it becomes part of life. Like breathing walking talking and writing
That is what puberty is for. men battle their urges from the first ejaculation onwards [mostly]
No trial runs for me.





so before trying the palette of italian food, i should know what i like in it or not, and if that is compatible with the preferences of the person in face of me?
... i say not possible.
Not beforehand.
and afterwards its too late yer screw�d

Agreed, you have to find out if compatible!
I was married, even though the finances were there. The sexual incompatibility, was terrible so I left him. He was not okay with that, but I had to do what was right for me.

It depends on what both partners preffer but in some cultures it's still a crime having sex before

and they have a lot of criminals

What if after you get married your not sexually compatible

depends what country if USA sorry you are screwed.

Exactly, that's why I think sex before marriage is a good idea.

Why the USA?

I will send u email later don't want to start a war :)

ok, thank you.

you left your husband for sexual incompatibility..can you tell me in a rated pg way of course what you mean by that?

meaning one of you wanted to engage in it more often?
other seemed bored, could care less?
got tired of being one to initiate?

or was it more like you wanted to be more adventurous
try new toys, bring new people into it and he was not going for it?

you've made a couple comments today about american women..being rude and hard to handle



you are on a site that has quite a few of them

It depends on the culture an individual is accustomed to or have adapted. In some places they don't indulge in PMS because they want to preserve the purity or innocence of a woman before marriage. Most of the Asian countries have this moral standard that the purity of a woman is the greatest gift to their husband which shall only be given on the day of their marriage. Good or bad, it depends on one's preferencesnowadays, the society is changing and more exposed to sexual liberation. If you can handle it, do it , if you can't then don't do it. You are responsible for your own actions anyway.

But personally I would prefer not to indulge in PMS and stay pure, if I could only turn back the clock ......too bad I got hormonal imbalance attack and had a high fever so I ended up on bed

On the other hand, thinking about the high rate of divorce or separation, sexual incompatibility is a great factor that affects marriages, thus resulting also to a sort of TRIAL & ERROR kind of relationship to some people who shied away from the consequences of a marriage by mistake Well, as long as you do it with love and you don't screw yourself or anybody, sex is great!

WE have winner..
When I was very young I would have said no sex til after marriage.
After my last marriage no way in hell...Before I commit to long term
relationship I am going to test drive the model

I got one lemon I am not going for a second.
Sex isn't the most important part of a great relationship but
in all honesty is a large part.

I had PMS in both of my marriages, didn't make or break the deals, nor having PMS with women that I didn't end up marrying. It might be something to consider if you are younger, but I can't imagine being older and divorced and then saying to your future partner that you want to wait until your are married to engage in sex. That would be an interesting discussion. To me intimacy in a relationship is important, tells each other that your giving yourself fully to one another. I don't think a piece of paper (or two in my case) makes a difference. So what is implied is that if you have the piece of paper, then you should be free to have sex? Tell that to my last ex, who cut me off for almost a year. She had plenty of reasons which she used to deny me intimacy. Then had the balls to ask me why I didn't work harder to fix our marriage at the end. I can't see spending the rest of my life in a sexless marriage. That itself, takes a toll on everything related to your marriage.

Me too I like not bad