Been on this site at least six months now. No mails, no replies to sent mail, no dates. Bad profile, unattractive, something else.....what is wrong?

Not sure what the problem could be...You are attractive and have a nice profile.

Wish I could have been of some help...Best wishes and good luck

I'm glad that Nancy posted what she did, because I was thinking pretty much the same thing - followed by "Hell, if _he's_ not getting any responses, I wonder what MY luck will be like??" (HINT: I've heard of some people putting contact info in the text section of their profiles to "help" others to contact them, but you didn't hear that from me...)

Good luck man!

EDIT: It's not you, it's them!!

Eliminate this from your blurb:
"Well that's about the best I can do for now. If you want to know something just ask. I'm easy to talk to." It is pointless and sort of lame.

Other than that, it looks good.

I agree with Nancy you are cute.
Chat on the forums and you get to meet people and they get to know you.
I don't think you will have a problem finding a date.

All the best in your search.

Although I agree with the others as well...I agree with this too. Even if it might be unfair but most of us girls get lots of mails so we might not take much time initiating contact.

For me I usually also don't answer simple "hi, how are you doing today" .."I like your profile" unless it is someone I've read from on the forums.

Scammers have also evolved to putting more than one picture ...so putting on some less "clean" pics...with friends or in different situations is a plus too...in my opinion.

I personally answer profile specific questions...at least out of respect for those that really show they've taken the time to actually read my profile.....

Sooo...in the end it all depends on your standard too.

I'm glad I am a woman in this case...

If you find the answer can you let me know as well please

Yes I usually do say "hi how are you"...and have been BLOCKED a few times for saying it. wtf!

Lol...yep some girls are worse than me....blocking that fast might be a little bit hasty...but again; I think that is because there are quite many spammers.


and Joe...c'mon you DO probably get more replies then he does....(Joe got puppies on his profile picture !!)

Funny you mention that, I got more replies when I just had the puppy picture up.

Since I put my own pictures up nothing.

Not sure what that says about me but it's a good job I'm thick skinned

Did you know you have a block on your mail that anyone who is not within a hundred miles of you can't send you an email. Now if you send someone an email first they can send you one back.

Also putting some other pictures up would work as well. When I first got on here I started hanging out in the forums and that was how I started meeting guys. I noticed though that they were all long distance and I want someone local who don't have drama written all over themselves.

You seem like an okay person, too bad you live very far. I wish you good luck. Remember anything worthwhile takes time. Like they use to say "Rome wasn't built in a day"

True enough.......be specific and show that you have
"actually" read.

It's worked wonders for me when I do.....and failures when it looks generic.

Well to be honest.. I have never blocked anyone for this reason lol
I have let the email slide til I have more time to answer.

If this is a sample of what you are sending it is an epic fail. The emails that grabbed my attention.

Always and I mean ALWAYS... has thing from my profile that he could chat with me about. It gives me something to build off of.

If I remember correctly you had more pictures up last time around. What happened to them. I thought they should "you".

I liked your profile then and I like your profile now except for the last line where you shoot yourself in the foot.

Best wishes...

I am new on this site. I was not open this site every time plz help me.do u make my fraind plZzzz

They blocked you for that?????
Wow man what's their problem?
That's nice talk.
Do they want you to really say?

I don't speak for other women but somethings are statistically going to hurt your chances and if you look at your profile you have a lot of strikes against you.

Perceptions are everything in the three seconds most people decide weather to go past looking at your lead shot. you decide if you passed or failed. Not all comments apply specifically to you and are for general information. Remember first impressions are lasting so be very selective about lead shots.

Visually clear image? Subject is clearly visable and does not fade into background or the back ground is distracting. Background should be clean and hopefully not suggesting a remote location. Women may like to go to parks or camping on second or third dates but the suggestion you want to meet them in a remote location is rarely good subliminal. You definitely do not want your picture to appear to be taken in a rest stop anymore than you want to take any photos in a bathroom or bedroom mirror. Using a readily identifiable location in your stated city can increase credibility. Also makes it harder for scammers to lift your picture and use them at will on random profiles.

There are no eye or head coverings. Both suggest deception or pending exit. Wearing hats in doors is still considered bad manners; especially when hoping to introduce your self. Keep your hands out of your pockets. If you wear a uniform parade rest your head gear if possible.

Subject is smiling in and engaging manner. Not too toothy which is subtly aggressive, mouth closed which is polite and avoids suggestive overtones. The suggestion is you are politely not interrupting and waiting for a return affirmative smile.

Eye contact with the viewer is essential. You are looking directly at the viewer not at someone or some other thing perhaps in the far off background or the person behind them. Try not to squint. If you wear glasses include at least one shot without them as it often blocks the color of your eyes and eyelashes. If you are fair skinned try to avoid burnout where light is too strong so you appear to have no eyebrows. Have a barber trim your eyebrows if they need it; this is not a do it yourself project but making sure your nose hair is clear is. The later has a permanent yuck factor.

You want to make a statement with head and facial hair it better be amazing because it is one of the leading reasons women skip profiles. Bald is not a hair color it is a hair style. Bald is not terminal at any age so stop playing the hide and seek look with hats. If you are bald headed wheather by choice or condition won it and get over yourself. A weak specimen of facial hair comes off as feminine or that you are in poor health or been injured. Often it takes away from your looks more than you know. People rarely want to argue with you or insult you but not all facial hair styles are for everyone. Even women who like facial hair may want you clean shaven when you first kiss them. Sorry to be graphic but women are not stupid or believe men are virginal so we know what has been on the facial hair. And unless it is fairly long and very well conditioned beard it is much like kissing a tooth/toilet brush.

Your body should be upright neither reclining or slouching weather you are sitting or standing. Do not lean forward so much that you appear to be looking out of the top of your eyes; it is rarely flattering. Keep your nose level to the viewer. Uplifted nose is haughty or suggests disgust. Avoid the dead straight on mug shots. You are auditioning for a date not America's Most Wanted Fugitive. Too often a casual pose just looks lazy and or rude. There is a reason your Grandma told you to hit your feet when a lady enters a room and it is to get you laid and her grandchildren. lol Avoid closed arm poses as the body language is poor. Keep your hands down from your face. Body builder flexing is painfully obvious and screams insecurity. Clean hands/nails are a must. NO band aids. It is the little stuff that gets you eliminated and sometimes women are not even aware why they skip you but the guys you are getting edged out by know and do the dance.

Clothing colors should suggest masculinity; greens and blues are odds on favorite with pastels still suggesting bi-or homosexual orientation or that your last girlfriend/mom bought your shirt. seasonal clothing can be good for updating a photo. Out of season clothes generally make you looked passed over. No Rhinestone cowboys. Underwear should NOT show up as outer wear. Collars are pretty much a must in a lead shot. If your not Dracula or a Rap Mega Star forget the costumes. If you are ex-military one and done on the GI Joe Camo shots unless it is Veterans Day or some such holiday/parade. Holster your weapons. Keep your hands out of in front of your gun.

Sorry to say it keep the kid shots for friend only. Prevailing view is heavily slanted to NOT showing your "pride and joy" shots. Mentioning the age frame your kids are in text however is very useful other wise the guess may be wrong and get you eliminated un-necessarily.

Screen names can make or break you. Failed humor, cryptic, satanic, gang, ethnic, or the year you graduate is definitely going to be lost in translation. heavily religious, sexual, or failed spelling is drinking your own poison. Using numbers on your screen name often confuse readers about your age. Especially when people read what they want to see in your screen name and skip what your profile actually says.

Text is another place many people shoot themselves in the head. Using generic terms to describe interests is like saying blah , blah, blah I am too lazy or lying to give you a specific. It is nothing to start a response from and if you think the females on line have so few response that they are going to bother to look later to see if you actually came up with anything to say you are dreaming. This is especially true of listing your profession. You put something like engineer, construction, military, or transportation. That will often get you discounted as a scammer. Or equally bad a philanderer because women assume if you are in a "mobile" a lot you are not going to be anything long term in their lives. It kind of paints a big old red target on your back that says come on bimbos. If you are in these kind of careers be very transparent where home is and where you home base is. If you REALLY are flexible that can be a plus but you can pretty much bet they are not looking just for a weekend room-mate so relocation doesn't mean to their doorstep.

Last but not least think before you post. Wheather it is here or on another site you use, which is really easy to find if you google search someone. and believe me women do, IF you are trashing and bashing an ex, moderators, women in general, using profanity, soliciting sex, drugs, drunk posting, or spewing rhetoric on about any issue it is cyber suicide. There are no such thing as men only sites and once on the net it is there FOREVER. And believe me women network and there are Frog Prince Associations where your best stuff is going to be posted and repeated so it best be attributed and used sparingly or you are busted and don't even know it. Granted EVERYBODY gets to have a rare bad day but rare is less than 1% of your posts and bad better still rate forgivable so you have to stifle any urges to trash talk, gripe, complain, or whine until you have at least a hundred posts.

Before you choke and say "what can I say a hundred times" try looking at the forum threads. Pay attention and don't skip wishing regulars and newbies welcome, happy holidays, happy birthday, get well, or a polite compliment. Yea we know who our friends are but you can become a friend if you earn it. This is a good way to break the ice with someone too. SMALL-Talk a sentience or two about the weather, things you know how to do, comment on a tv or news story, tell a joke or play one of the games. Post a picture in a thread. Selfies are not completely bragiodocious if you are someplace interesting or in a funny situation or sharing a hobby. READ PROFILES and if you are not a match you may get ignored or you might get a thank you if you don't jump to asking/expecting/ or demanding a response. Some of us have busy lives we may go several weeks between being on line so don't pout if your little tidbits are not noticed. If someone tells you not interested walk away a silent gentleman. It is not always as nasty as it sounds and saving you wasting your time. I don't know about others but when someone tells me a little something about himself even if I am not interested if he is gracious about it I do notice and often make a point of reading his threads or even posting in them to prompt views. Being seen in a positive light helps. People know I don't feed the wolves but I will lead lambs to clover.